Reuters News Agency
Wednesday, June 26
New York — It's official. Men really are afraid of commitment.
Confirming what women have long known, a U.S. study released on Wednesday shows that men are dragging their feet on getting married.
Researchers say one of the biggest reasons that men are delaying marriage is that more and more couples are choosing to live together before marriage. As a result, sex — traditionally one of the main reasons for men to marry — is relatively easily available, they say.
"In a sense, with cohabitation he gets a quasi-wife without having to commit," said David Popenoe, co-director of the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University in New Jersey. "Another big thing in addition to cohabitation is that these men are very, very concerned about divorce. It's not getting your heart broken. ... The worst thing that could happen is that somebody could take their money."
The preliminary findings reports on the attitudes toward marriage of 60 unmarried, heterosexual men, between the ages of 25 and 33. The participants, from different religious, ethnic and family backgrounds, were from four major metropolitan areas in northern New Jersey, Chicago, Houston and Washington, D.C.
Researchers say both men and women are putting off getting married. The average age for men's first marriage is now 27, the oldest in history, the study shows. That compares with the average age of 23 in 1960, Mr. Popenoe said.
For women, the average age of their first marriage has risen to 25, a full five years older than the 1960 average.
And, giving women even more reason to be impatient that their boyfriends are dragging their feet, researchers say the trend favors the men.
"Guys can afford to wait to marry. The older they get, the better their chances in some ways of getting married, while for women it's the reverse," Mr. Popenoe said.
"Once a woman gets into her 30s, it's more likely that she will have to marry a man who was married earlier. It's more likely that she will marry a man who brings kids (into the marriage) and more likely that she will have a child by herself," he said.
Wednesday, June 26
New York — It's official. Men really are afraid of commitment.
Confirming what women have long known, a U.S. study released on Wednesday shows that men are dragging their feet on getting married.
Researchers say one of the biggest reasons that men are delaying marriage is that more and more couples are choosing to live together before marriage. As a result, sex — traditionally one of the main reasons for men to marry — is relatively easily available, they say.
"In a sense, with cohabitation he gets a quasi-wife without having to commit," said David Popenoe, co-director of the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University in New Jersey. "Another big thing in addition to cohabitation is that these men are very, very concerned about divorce. It's not getting your heart broken. ... The worst thing that could happen is that somebody could take their money."
The preliminary findings reports on the attitudes toward marriage of 60 unmarried, heterosexual men, between the ages of 25 and 33. The participants, from different religious, ethnic and family backgrounds, were from four major metropolitan areas in northern New Jersey, Chicago, Houston and Washington, D.C.
Researchers say both men and women are putting off getting married. The average age for men's first marriage is now 27, the oldest in history, the study shows. That compares with the average age of 23 in 1960, Mr. Popenoe said.
For women, the average age of their first marriage has risen to 25, a full five years older than the 1960 average.
And, giving women even more reason to be impatient that their boyfriends are dragging their feet, researchers say the trend favors the men.
"Guys can afford to wait to marry. The older they get, the better their chances in some ways of getting married, while for women it's the reverse," Mr. Popenoe said.
"Once a woman gets into her 30s, it's more likely that she will have to marry a man who was married earlier. It's more likely that she will marry a man who brings kids (into the marriage) and more likely that she will have a child by herself," he said.
