Would you reccomend marriage??

[wazup]

I'm starting to regret not settling down, I've had my fun with trips to Thailand and the Phillipines, but a few friends have told me not to get married. I don't know if they meant it or were just pissed off at their wife at the time. I've always enjoyed my freedom, but as I get older, the party lifestyle gets exhausting.

This might not be the best forum to ask, but some may be happily married but just want something different on the side occasionally.

 

[mb12ca]

If you marry a woman who is very sweet and gentle and caring, then yes, marriage can be great. But most likely you will marry a women who later turns out to be a total pain-in-the-ass bitch who gets uglier and more disrespectful as the years go by. She will gain at least 35 pounds in the first 10 years after you marry her, she will stop sucking your dick and she will start to nag you so much so that you will be yearning to either hire a hit man or visit sp's. There is no way to get around it. Most women are like an itch than you can't scratch. Anyone who claims differently is either one of the lucky few, pussy-wipped or just plain lying.

Whatever you do, marry a rich women so that you can at least live a financially better life than you can as a single person and if and when she becomes unbearable and you decided to divorce, at least you won't lose 50% of your assets.

P.S. Indonesian woman are your best bet in terms of finding the best combination of beauty, brains and sweetness. Don't marry a girl from China.

 

[doinker]

i have been married 32yrs and have no regrets love it

 

[mb12ca]

No way. If you really were happy with your marriage and your wife, you would not hobby. Any hobbyist who proclaims to be happily married is not telling the truth.

 

[wet_suit_one]

Just for the record, you don't have to indulge the party lifestyle. You could just be a quiet pooner...

 

[DocOdd]

Doesn't whether you should get married or not depend more on you and the particular woman in question than on any abstract theory of the desirability of marriage in general?

 

[capncrunch]

Been there. Done that.

Never. Ever. Ever again.

No way. No how. No chance.

Do I sound bitter? Well, it's because I am.

 

[5hummer]

i have been married 32yrs and have no regrets love it

But, you hobby?
Unless, you allow your SO to hobby as well?

 

[wazup]

Doesn't whether you should get married or not depend more on you and the particular woman in question than on any abstract theory of the desirability of marriage in general?

Yes, but people change over time, men and women both. The person you marry may not be the same after a few years, but I guess you can't go into a marriage thinking that.

Most of the guys I know have all stayed together, whether they're happy or not I don't know. The few that haven't, it's been the wife that has left. Even the hobby gets old, I've fucked many many women in the last couple years through pooning holidays and I'm kind of bored of it. I wish I had a few kids that's all, the marriage part I could probably do without.

 

[wazup]

Just for the record, you don't have to indulge the party lifestyle. You could just be a quiet pooner...

On those hobbying vacations, all there is to do is party.

 

[Swallowme]

My advice to you is to get married. If you find a good wife you'll be happy; if not you'll become a philosopher.

 

[LateComer]

The ideal situation would be to be happily married but to get a strange piece of tail once a month for the sake of variety.

 

[turbin]

Why can't you love ur wife and continued to hobby?? In the old days.. Kings in China have more wifes than you can think of... One guy who owns a Casino empire in Macau is over 80 and has 6 wives I think. They rank them based on seniority.

I think hobbying is just ur other side/ or dark side of your sex life.. Every men is horny like a dog.. I admit that I am a dog myself... Its just nature... Don't try to go against it that's all

 

[afterhours]

Yes, but people change over time, men and women both. The person you marry may not be the same after a few years, but I guess you can't go into a marriage thinking that.

Most of the guys I know have all stayed together, whether they're happy or not I don't know. The few that haven't, it's been the wife that has left. Even the hobby gets old, I've fucked many many women in the last couple years through pooning holidays and I'm kind of bored of it. I wish I had a few kids that's all, the marriage part I could probably do without.

+1, and fucking women can have kids without husbands, how cool is that

 

[FOOTSNIFFER]

Chris Rock's take: " You can be married and bored, or single and lonely. Ain't no happiness nowhere"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6X0Qqxx3f0

 

[basketcase]

If you meet the 'right' woman who continues to be the 'right' woman after a year or two of living together then why not but don't do it just because you think you should.

 

[TorontoWarrior]

I would say not get married. The ideal situation is me currently...single and free, no financial commitments or debt, no one to report to...high income...high enough to afford dinners at expensive restaurants, take exotic vacations and have a big roster of SPs that I see...not bragging here but I wouldn't trade it for marriage. I figured if I get married, I would get tied down both emotionally and financially, and then end up like most of the guys here...married but hiring SPs. If there are so many married guys on this board, that should tell you something.

 

[fuji]

Yes, absolutely.

The notion that you can replace a marriage with a lot of sex is wrong. The sex is replaceable but it's only a small part of what the marriage offers.

I should say I don't see that much difference between getting married and living with a girlfriend for years--I have some "unmarried" friends who in fact have lives identical to mine just without the piece of paper and that seems to work well too. Either way they've got that core relationship going which I think is pretty critical to a happy life.

This notion that the purpose of a marriage is to provide sex is just stupid, also stupid is the notion that if you have good sex in your marriage you wouldn't want it anywhere else. Both ideas are wrong, and basically miss the point.

Things that are irreplaceable:

-- Waking up in the middle of the night and having a conversation with someone who really understands what you're about

-- Coming home after a long day and sitting around relaxing with a person who knows you really well

-- All the family dramas that you think you hate but somehow wind up being such an interesting part of life

That just scratches the surface--you can't replace that stuff with SP's and you can't replace that stuff with random girlfriends unless they actually live with you and aren't much different than a wife.

 

[syn]

Chris Rock's take: " You can be married and bored, or single and lonely. Ain't no happiness nowhere"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6X0Qqxx3f0

I love Chris Rock. Thanks for the morning giggle.

Syn

 

[69Shooter]

Yes, absolutely.

The notion that you can replace a marriage with a lot of sex is wrong. The sex is replaceable but it's only a small part of what the marriage offers.

I should say I don't see that much difference between getting married and living with a girlfriend for years--I have some "unmarried" friends who in fact have lives identical to mine just without the piece of paper and that seems to work well too. Either way they've got that core relationship going which I think is pretty critical to a happy life.

This notion that the purpose of a marriage is to provide sex is just stupid, also stupid is the notion that if you have good sex in your marriage you wouldn't want it anywhere else. Both ideas are wrong, and basically miss the point.

Things that are irreplaceable:

-- Waking up in the middle of the night and having a conversation with someone who really understands what you're about

-- Coming home after a long day and sitting around relaxing with a person who knows you really well

-- All the family dramas that you think you hate but somehow wind up being such an interesting part of life

That just scratches the surface--you can't replace that stuff with SP's and you can't replace that stuff with random girlfriends unless they actually live with you and aren't much different than a wife.

Bingo! Could not have said it better myself. I am always amused to hear guys talk about a drop in sexual activity during the course of the marriage... as if that is the only reason to get married in the first place. A succesful marriage is going to take a lot of effort but I believe that the benfits (some of which are stated above) are well worth it.

Not to mention, who would you rather have wiping your ass and feeding you soup when you get older... your SO or some health care professional? (added for Blackrock)