Flirting: The I have a boyfriend excuse
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Usually she's trying to tell you to get lost. Occasionally though it means spend the night don't call the next day.
If you are having trouble deciding which one applies, in the first case she'll bring up the 'boyfriend' as soon as she realizes you're hitting on her. In the second, you hear about the boyfriend in the cab ride back to her place after.
If you are having trouble deciding which one applies, in the first case she'll bring up the 'boyfriend' as soon as she realizes you're hitting on her. In the second, you hear about the boyfriend in the cab ride back to her place after.
My answer would be, Oh great, you must be happy in your relationship, Can I buy you a drink????
dont think its that high. maybe closer to 50/100 just another objection like in sales. either way how serious r boyfriends these days especially for the younger ones.
Lines are overrated...just move on to another one. Plenty of fish in the ocean.
Besides...showing little interest (for some f'd up reason) tends to attract women.
Besides...showing little interest (for some f'd up reason) tends to attract women.
If she accepts the drink, then thats all that counts, your on the right path. Depending on the lady and what she tells you, My advise is be innovative,
but more importantly be a good listener. In other words be attentive, there is nothing a women loves more than someone who's listenning,
otherwise she wouldn't be in that the bar to begin with.
Excuse me!!! They will walk away! Unless your a rock star!!!!!!!!!! Which I'm sure your not. You didn't get what I was saying at all !!
How much more confident can I be, in the case of a woman telling me she's got a boyfriend, and I in response asking if she wants a drink and to talk about it.ha your mistaken titalian! trust me I am no rock star and consider myself physically very "average" (at least now). However, I learnt from every rejection. hence through failure and painful rejection from grades 6-10 wherein I got shot down an average of 10-20 times a year I learned what works and doesn't work in this process. obviously there were no alcoholic drinks really involved back then but I took away a lot of lessons on what women respect and want.
As legal adults it's definitely not the guy offering every woman a drink at a bar that gets the girl. It's the confident guy who asks if the ladies would care to join for engaging company (which by the way is what you said about listening)
Well, he is ONLY a boyfriend, not a husband or fiance. Play your cards right and who knows. If she has made herself available in a public setting.......?? And don't forget, many ladies find it humiliating making it obvious that they are available so they couch their position with the "boyfriend" line. Regardless of the reality, you will know very quickly. Further, I have lost count of all the ladies who have confided that they use that line to see how "interested" the guy was. If the line would stop him then they used it as a sign. But it can be a fine line between being too pushy and disrespecting the lady and not being pushy enough. I just recently had a conversation with a feminist lawyer in Toronto. My friend was hitting on her and she was interested but was giving him a hard time -- saying no. Her comment to me later, " he took no far too easily." I must say I was a little surprised at that one.
'That's okay, I'm married'
'Ah, so we don't have to feel any guilt about calling each other after a night of torrid sex'
'And yet here you are, alone at a bar fending off better alternatives'
'Does that mean that you are going to charge more ?'
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IMO
'I have a boyfriend' is usually a polite way of saying 1) I find you totally revolting and would rather drink vomit from the toilet than have sex with you or 2) I don't want one guy stuck to me the rest of the night or 3) I don't need complications
If I find her tone friendly, I would remove the commitment/ clinging threat by a response similar to: Sorry, I didn't want to seem too forward, I just came off a serious relationship and not looking to jump into another. I'm just here to relax, take a breather and possibly meet new friends ....
this type of mindset will make you less desperate and you will probably get better results
