I've never cheated on a woman and there are plenty of guys who wouldn't. I'm pretty sure my parents were faithful to each other as well.
Most women would find it unacceptable in their partner so you're not alone with this, Madonna.
I disagree.. There's no doubt that relationships are complex, and obviously it's a two way street (perhaps the wife is "boring" because she's "bored" with her husband).. Having said that, I still stick by my solution to "How do you get a man to not cheat on you"..
Variety is only exciting if the additional options represent better options.. Nobody's going to turn down Filet Mignon in favour of a tasteless hamburger...
I've never cheated on a woman and there are plenty of guys who wouldn't. I'm pretty sure my parents were faithful to each other as well.
Most women would find it unacceptable in their partner so you're not alone with this, Madonna.
Now hold on just a goddamn second! Are you saying that most women AREN"T cool with being cheated on? That there are women out there who DON"T find this acceptable? I don't know where you get your information, sir, but that sounds like complete malarkey to me, balderdash even!!
By the way, sorry about your parents...we all know what 'pretty sure' means.
I disagree.. There's no doubt that relationships are complex, and obviously it's a two way street (perhaps the wife is "boring" because she's "bored" with her husband).. Having said that, I still stick by my solution to "How do you get a man to not cheat on you"..
Variety is only exciting if the additional options represent better options.. Nobody's going to turn down Filet Mignon in favour of a tasteless hamburger...
You have asked the wrong question. So long as it is called "cheating" there will always be a stigma attached to what is a normal complex bio/anthro/human drive for complex reasons regardless of gender. The question to ask is why are humans wired for polygamy yet in a hypocritical way adopt monogamy as an unachievable life style with all of the emotional grief that follows. The answers are long, complex and personal. Banishing the word "cheating" will quickly get you to the answer to the question I have asked.
Besides, many women are well aware that their men fuck around and they accept it because he's a husband in every way, and the rest is just sport sex for him.
+1. Sex does not equal love for men. It seems more like exercise - feel good getting in shape but absolutely nothing to do with who you love. So, it's really hard to believe, deep down, that men having sex is actually cheating, even though society likes to see it that way. Now, if the tables were turned, it would be a problem because sex equates to something else to most women.
Agree to disagree.. Relating women to food is a bit of folksy wisdom that I never really agreed with in the first place (I got all the respect in the world for my man Paul Newman, but he over simplified women a bit).. If you choose a pop tart over steak one evening, there's no threat that you won't ever be able to have steak again..
With cheating on women, it doesn't matter how slick you are, there's always a chance you'll get caught.. This chance will weigh into your decision over whether or not it's worth the risk.. Sure you can have some variety by cheating, but is the variety really worth the chance that you'll lose the raunchiest sluttiest sex you're ever likely to have (combined with the most relaxed relationship you'll ever be in)? Sure some men will always answer "Yes, it's worth the risk".. But many others would not..
Agree to disagree.. Relating women to food is a bit of folksy wisdom that I never really agreed with in the first place (I got all the respect in the world for my man Paul Newman, but he over simplified women a bit).. If you choose a pop tart over steak one evening, there's no threat that you won't ever be able to have steak again..
With cheating on women, it doesn't matter how slick you are, there's always a chance you'll get caught.. This chance will weigh into your decision over whether or not it's worth the risk.. Sure you can have some variety by cheating, but is the variety really worth the chance that you'll lose the raunchiest sluttiest sex you're ever likely to have (combined with the most relaxed relationship you'll ever be in)? Sure some men will always answer "Yes, it's worth the risk".. But many others would not..
Agree to disagree.. Relating women to food is a bit of folksy wisdom that I never really agreed with in the first place (I got all the respect in the world for my man Paul Newman, but he over simplified women a bit).. If you choose a pop tart over steak one evening, there's no threat that you won't ever be able to have steak again..
With cheating on women, it doesn't matter how slick you are, there's always a chance you'll get caught.. This chance will weigh into your decision over whether or not it's worth the risk.. Sure you can have some variety by cheating, but is the variety really worth the chance that you'll lose the raunchiest sluttiest sex you're ever likely to have (combined with the most relaxed relationship you'll ever be in)? Sure some men will always answer "Yes, it's worth the risk".. But many others would not..
Yes, seeing an SP is a lot easier to pull off than having a full on affair.. But there's still SOME risk..
And the reason I see SPs has nothing to do with variety, and everything to do with wanting to do things to a woman that I otherwise can't with my S.O. If my S.O. swallowed my load like BiankaGFE, then I wouldn't have sought out the Foxy French lady in the first place.. If my S.O. was willing to dress like a school girl and act like my personal slut, then I wouldn't have had Angel519 do it.. If my S.O. was willing to take charge and lead me by the dick around a hotel room, making sure I fucked her in as many new and creative positions as possible, then my dick would have never fallen in love with Sebelle..
Maybe I'm the exception to the rule, but I don't necessarily think so. I think men see SPs (and seek extra-marital affairs) because they're bored with what's waiting for them at home.. Not simply because they like variety..
Most guys I talk to have noticed a huge difference in attitude between pre and post marriage. Basically I got the prize - now I can stop caring & trying.
I think men see SPs (and seek extra-marital affairs) because they're bored with what's waiting for them at home.. Not simply because they like variety..
Early on it says that before the idea of private property, people in a community shared freely- their stuff as well as themselves. There was no such thing as what's mine is mine and you can't have it. Then, the idea of private property arrived, and people became more possessive and protective. Children were no longer community property, but the responsibility of those who made them. That being the case, it became important to know who the kid's father was. And since DNA testing and Maury Povitch was not due for a couple of millennia or more, they worked with what they had, which was the idea of exclusivity. Religion did its part as well.
I for one would like to see an episode on why women cheat, but I'm betting that that ain't gonna happen anytime soon, because it's not politically correct. Or, if it does happen, they'll make it correct by finding a way to blame it on the men.
Yeah for sure...it struck a chord especially coming from our Madonna...I think guys like me do nothing but contribute to set men back and help box them into the typical stereotypes that all guys are a bunch of no good cheaters...and contribute to the feelings of hopelessness.
I think it is the secret to keep a marriage happy....I stand by my original loopy post way back in 2011 that an MPA keeps a good man good.
This clip from Dane Cook explains it best why cheeting is a good idea and reminds me of what my wife and I have for each other...basically when people see us they can't understand why we are still so happy holding hands and being close and so content almost to the point of rolling eyes...ironically we saw this clip together and giggled so silly at Danes comments...
Madonna, I just want to say please don't let guys like me ruin it for you...I know there is good men out there just don't loose faith because of cheaters like us guys on here or some of the nice clients you see and meet. We in no way represent the majority of the men out there...we are the 5th percentile please don't let us ruin it for you and I admit I have issues, maybe becuase of war and defense mechanism as a result I have. Pretty sure many other clients you see have issues you just dont know about them. You are an awesome person and I stand by this...don't let some of us jackass guys take this from you. Sometimes we find what we are looking for when we least expect it or loose all hope and faith...
I agree. You can't stop someone from cheating. You can't police them 24/7. The only way to avoid a cheater is to find someone who doesn't want to cheat.
It's not about sex, cooking or cleaning. We can get that from plenty of partners or providers. It's not about love. We can love someone yet still hurt them deeply.
If you ask around, or reflect on your own behaviour, the times when you've not had any desire to cheat AT ALL is probably when you've been deeply, madly, passionately in love.
Why do you think they say its hard to make relationships work? It's not easy to stay in love through the daily grind of life...
Pabby, I immediately thought of you when I read the OP!
This should get a few people going, but I think at least for me and I think a few others that it has besides all the other reasons ,intimacy I know I'm probably fooling myself but thats ok there is none at home.
