SPs jealous?
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I think it's more human nature than just female nature. Driven ultimately by our primitive and innate drive to pass on our genes.... LOL! Not to derail the thread - but you could argue that men are genetically pre-disposed to be MORE jealous since we can impregnate any number of females in short order - so one competing male is a real danger to the survival of the bloodline. Polyandry is rarer because females of most species can only get pregnant once at a time.
On these forums you can see jealously from guys in many different forms. Eg: the weird phenomena of the "White Knight" who will come on to attack any and all criticism of an SP. I could make an argument that this is fundamentally driven by jealousy - the White Knight is offended that one of his favourites is being criticized (even though opinions are just that - opinions) but deep down - the real offence is the brutal realization that they are nothing special in their favourite's eyes. Some criticism is unfair but the white knight attacks any and ALL criticism. So they leap to the defence in an attempt to ingratiate themselves and rise above the typical client.
I've dealt with jealousy from other girls to almost the point of harassment and find it astounding... it is a sign of immaturity and insecurity to me.
I never have and never will feel threatened if a client wants to see other providers. Hell, I am happy to SUGGEST some to you. I am happy to be a REFERENCE for you. I am happy to even HEAR about it (if that's something you're into). You had a great time?? YES! I am HAPPY for you! Let's try to setup a duo??
Please do not misconstruct jealousy as a sign of "human nature." It is not.
People are not posessions. And in this hobby, of course you guys want variety. This is why you're in this hobby to begin with! It is mind boggling to me for girls to get possessive over their clients, especially in this kind o industry. It is almost certainly a sign of insecurity ("Is he going to like her better than me?!") and nothing to do with the guy.
I never have and never will feel threatened if a client wants to see other providers. Hell, I am happy to SUGGEST some to you. I am happy to be a REFERENCE for you. I am happy to even HEAR about it (if that's something you're into). You had a great time?? YES! I am HAPPY for you! Let's try to setup a duo??
Please do not misconstruct jealousy as a sign of "human nature." It is not.
People are not posessions. And in this hobby, of course you guys want variety. This is why you're in this hobby to begin with! It is mind boggling to me for girls to get possessive over their clients, especially in this kind o industry. It is almost certainly a sign of insecurity ("Is he going to like her better than me?!") and nothing to do with the guy.
I guess I should also throw in I too practice non-monogamy even in my normal life so the escort world is not that different to me. My personal philosophy is people should be fucking more people at all points in their life lolllllll
Lol!!! It's certainly not a female thing. Both genders feel and display jealousy. Both compete with others of their own gender. Jealousy is a completely normal feeling to have, and it's not a big deal to have it. How one deals with and acts on those feelings is what matters, and people of both genders do it poorly.
I used to have a regular Lady, who suggested to me from time to time to go and see someone else. And she even recommended the girls who would be the best for me (knowing me well she could do this).
When it happened third time, I asked her to say honestly why she did this. The answer was: "I want you to be sure that I am the best!" Lol
As a bonobo-australian I take exception! Mrs bonobo and i have been monogamous for 25 years! Lol....
Back to the topic...I felt awkward that way ...the now defunct naughty nuru had a contest that for each hour booking you could have them put your handle into a drawing for a free hour with a lady...thus i tried to book as often as i could in the month...had an overnight trip in toronto so booked the atf and a temporary lady who offered greek (and hadn't done that in a bit) so booked them on consecutive days...then on day 1 heading into condo to see temp lady and get me some greek... out of lift walks the atf and the owner...we had a nice albeit brief convo but i felt super awkward like i was caught cheating on atf....she seemed ok....saw her the next day, and it was clear i felt much more awkward than her...bless her...so i told her that i felt that way... but then i said "but i also heard a rumour you've been seeing other blokes whilst i was gone" and we both had a good laugh and we were off to the races like nothing happened.
There are some uber classy ladies out here...I've had more than one lady contact me saying "you should see this woman some time"...which i appreciate. Or if they are not free theyll suggest someone...or even one time there was a fave whom I asked about a Saturday or Sunday date...she said only free on Saturday, so I booked her then booked a duo w her colleagues for Sunday. Then later that saturday night first lady texted back saying she was now free on sunday ...but i told her I booked someone already, and she was so classy about saying how I'll have a blast and, and that she appreciated the fact that I wasn't going to jerk around the ladies I booked and honour my commitment to them...and she herself did not once try to suggest i drop that booking...impressed me so much with that classy behaviour toward her colleagues...
While that may be the case a lot of the time, I've seen more than a few times where the "white knighting" is nothing but an attempt at trolling.
There was one member on another board who would leap to the defense of ladies with very well-deserved bad reputations. This wasn't a case of sticking up for ladies no one else would, this was nothing more than this individual being a shit-disturbing troll.
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Yes, I did. And what is interesting: she was so confident that she recommended really the best girls, I can wauch for this.
That sounds like something I'd do myself lol. Not in a sense of trying to be "the best" because I don't believe in that - my philosophy is we are all our own separate individuals with something unique to offer. None of us can ever truly appeal to the entire world - but we can appeal to the people who'd like us just for who we are. If someone likes another provider over me, it says NOTHING about me - it just means she met his individual needs better than I could. Best of luck to him and to her. I am happy he found what he was looking for. I find it a waste of energy to try to twist yourself like a pretzel to become someone you are not to please someone who did not accept you just the way you are..
Yes, I did. And what is interesting: she was so confident that she recommended really the best girls, I can wauch for this.
Exactly, this is a "hobby" and just the way that I like Ferraris, I also like Lamborghinis and so on...I want to try all of them and enjoy!!!
Keep that mentality. Sorry that you've ran into providers whose personal insecurities interfere with your hobby. Steer clear of those kind of people. Has drama written all over it.
thank you! I put 25+ hours into it lol. These kinda comments make me happier than someone saying they like my tits lolgood advice!
PS - your website looks very classy, I like
I'm surprised by this story - isn't it polite to talk to the SP before you use them as a reference? That's the standard I follow in hobby and in business.
Depends on the girl. I have no qualms being used as a reference without being asked beforehand. Other ladies have other rules.
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