Sugar Dating Experience

[Leimonis]

I would give his contact info to the lady in question then let her decide if she wants to out herself or move forward. Your buddy not having experience shouldn’t be her issue.

This doesn’t make sense on more than one level.
1. Bros before ladies.
2. I’m not contacting my former SB to organize her dates because I want to keep it this way. Former. (And I’m not sharing my current SBs).
3. I’m not taking responsibility for my buddy behaviour. I don’t know how good a daddy he is. I hope he’s great but I don’t know. I can’t recommend him. I can only recommend her. She is on the site, she chose her profile to be open to the world, she gets contacted and she makes her free and voluntary decisions.

I can see how they may be unhappy if they are reviewed. But it’d be dumb to be unhappy if they are recommended.

 

[Leimonis]

This. Anybody who thinks otherwise is delusional. Just like a lot of men on SA openly state that they will not be paying for sex, a lot of girls do not intend to do sex work. Just because she slept with you doesn't mean she will sleep with anybody else — it’s all about trust and connection. And if you are getting her info and private details under the table, it is extremely invasive, disturbing, creepy and negates any potential bond between you two. Please, do not share people’s private info.

If a girl is on that site her profile is not private. Thinking that it’s private would indeed be delusional. Just like generally believing that people wouldn’t talk about you behind your back is delusional.
And if she’s not there to do sex work who the hell wants to talk about her with anyone anyway? She is about as useless as men who openly state that they won’t pay for sex, isn’t she?

While seeking is trying to change their business model into a general dating site for political reasons, it is still not Christian mingle.

 

[josephkuhr]

You asked me to give you the contact information of two sbs I know who are very submissive and into slapping. I then told you it's a bit of an odd question and you perhaps do some leg work yourself. You gave me attitude. I then reiterated your question to divulge information about a civilian is odd and inappropriate and I get frequent messages with your same request and I was fed up with these obtuse questions. I was also snarky in my response but not vulgar. You then went on to debase yourself with vulgarity directed at me.

I dont think sharing the contact information of these sbs is appropriate as alot of them do care about personality and looks and value their privacy.

You asked me to give you the contact information of two sbs I know who are very submissive and into slapping. I then told you it's a bit of an odd question and you perhaps do some leg work yourself. You gave me attitude. I then reiterated your question to divulge information about a civilian is odd and inappropriate and I get frequent messages with your same request and I was fed up with these obtuse questions. I was also snarky in my response but not vulgar. You then went on to debase yourself with vulgarity directed at me.

I dont think sharing the contact information of these sbs is appropriate as alot of them do care about personality and looks and value their privacy.

Bruh. No one gave you attitude, you’re projecting. You have an inflated sense of morality that you tried to preach to me to help you feel better about yourself I guess? I dunno and don’t care. Once you came at me with your faux virtuous bs I told you to get fucked then you came here to try to stroke your ego. Post the chat if you want, that’s literally how it went down.

I asked

You said you couldn’t, go find your own SAs

I said you could give me their profiles but it’s cool if you dont

You proceeded with your whack analysis of what’s right and wrong and asked patronizing questions

So once again, get fucked.

 

[Leimonis]

It’s not visible to the public. I had no idea that people on this forum engaged in this type of thing. I will definitely tell my friends who might have been interested in sugaring otherwise to stay away. Not every girl on that website thinks of it as sex work, as wrong as it might be. Some people use it as a legitimate dating website connecting supposedly wealthy men with attractive women. SA prohibits PPM, actually. You do whatever you want, but leave those girls out of TERB.

You can make your profile not visible to the public if you pay for it. I do so because I don’t want to be contacted by randos. (So if my profile was disclosed I’d find it invasive albeit not surprising. And it happened a few times). Babies profiles, however, are always visible to the public because they want to be seen and contacted. If they are not visible I would never find them so I can’t disclose them to anyone anyway.

And again, nobody wants to talk about girls who use it as a legitimate dating website. They are very safe.

 

[Leimonis]

I posted here because I was curious and now I wish I didn’t ask anything at all. These replies just made me sad. It’s a true disappointment to know that even civilians are not safe from their info being exchanged on a private escort review forum.

And once again, nobody here is interested in civilians and nobody should believe that their public info is private.

if I had an encounter with a girl and my buddy who is also on a website after a bad break up and he needs my support found her on the site and is asking me if I have any info on her, do you seriously think that I would not tell him if I had a good or bad experience with her? Really?

 

[josephkuhr]

I posted here because I was curious and now I wish I didn’t ask anything at all. These replies just made me sad. It’s a true disappointment to know that even civilians are not safe from their info being exchanged on a private escort review forum.

Let’s try to be clear. No one is talking about sharing anything private, yes we can all agree that’s wrong.

All we’re talking about is sharing anything that is already publicly available.

People’s choices to share or not can still be respected. I’m just pissed off with Rocco’s holier than thou attitude towards me when I asked. Idgaf if you share or don’t. Dude just seemed really full of himself when responding to me which I didn’t appreciate given how much he talks on here about his rough sex escspades and constantly asking people for information. Selfish and rude in a community I think is meant to be open and non judgemental about this stuff.

 

[Leimonis]

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That makes me feel unsafe! I trusted you and you breached that trust!

 

[Daddy2021]

And once again, nobody here is interested in civilians and nobody should believe that their public info is private.

if I had an encounter with a girl and my buddy who is also on a website after a bad break up and he needs my support found her on the site and is asking me if I have any info on her, do you seriously think that I would not tell him if I had a good or bad experience with her? Really?

Wow you are really pushing to be right. You said ‘contact info’ not handle on the site. Huge difference pal.

 

[Daddy2021]

Let’s try to be clear. No one is talking about sharing anything private, yes we can all agree that’s wrong.

All we’re talking about is sharing anything that is already publicly available.

People’s choices to share or not can still be respected. I’m just pissed off with Rocco’s holier than thou attitude towards me when I asked. Idgaf if you share or don’t. Dude just seemed really full of himself when responding to me which I didn’t appreciate given how much he talks on here about his rough sex escspades and constantly asking people for information. Selfish and rude in a community I think is meant to be open and non judgemental about this stuff.

With all do respect most of you act holier than thou. It’s embarrassing to be one of you and lumped in.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

how is seeking handles private information? Isn't it public by definition? Or even saying that PinkCherry12345 is good at sucking dick? Is that really wrong? We need to rethink this and be more open in sharing this info.

SBing is a kind of sex work and we are here to review sex work, aren't we?

Edit - or if one of your Sbs told another prospective SB that she can contact ValuedSupporter on terb or your handle on seeking and see if anything comes out of that, would that be really wrong? Or a privacy breach of any kind at all?

Then no doubt you’re completely confident in telling the SB what you’ve done right? I have no doubt she doesn’t have a different opinion - being the one discussed - than you right?

 

[Leimonis]

Wow you are really pushing to be right. You said ‘contact info’ not handle on the site. Huge difference pal.

Giving out her contact info other than handle would def be fucked up and creepy as hell - there’s no argument there

 

[SchlongConery]

Let’s try to be clear. No one is talking about sharing anything private, yes we can all agree that’s wrong.

All we’re talking about is sharing anything that is already publicly available.

People’s choices to share or not can still be respected. I’m just pissed off with Rocco’s holier than thou attitude towards me when I asked. Idgaf if you share or don’t. Dude just seemed really full of himself when responding to me which I didn’t appreciate given how much he talks on here about his rough sex escspades and constantly asking people for information. Selfish and rude in a community I think is meant to be open and non judgemental about this stuff.

I agree with the sentiment that it is not right to share private, direct contact info of SB's.

 

[rocco_s]

Bruh. No one gave you attitude, you’re projecting. You have an inflated sense of morality that you tried to preach to me to help you feel better about yourself I guess? I dunno and don’t care. Once you came at me with your faux virtuous bs I told you to get fucked then you came here to try to stroke your ego. Post the chat if you want, that’s literally how it went down.

I asked

You said you couldn’t, go find your own SAs

I said you could give me their profiles but it’s cool if you dont

You proceeded with your whack analysis of what’s right and wrong and asked patronizing questions

So once again, get fucked.

You asked for their contact information. Not their profile names. Do you not see how this would be odd? Asking a random stranger on a escort board for a sbs information to be given to a random individual? This is not the first time it has happened. I get these intrusive msgs frequently.

Sps are different. They advertise as sps. Some do more things than others. Last time I checked I have reviewed women and given feedback at a moderate rate.

I dont see you posting any reviews of sps.

 

[Leimonis]

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You asked for their contact information. Not their profile names. Do you not see how this would be odd? Asking a random stranger on a escort board for a sbs information to be given to a random individual? This is not the first time it has happened. I get these intrusive msgs frequently.

Sps are different. They advertise as sps. Some do more things than others. Last time I checked I have reviewed women and given feedback at a moderate rate.

I dont see you posting any reviews of sps.

I also do routinely get these requests for ppl who never contribute and I ignore it

 

[rocco_s]

I also do routinely get these requests for ppl who never contribute and I ignore it

Funny part is he was just the tipping point of my frustration with lurkers on here who just take and do not contribute. I didn't even name him. Lol he outed himself.

 

[Leimonis]

Then no doubt you’re completely confident in telling the SB what you’ve done right? I have no doubt she doesn’t have a different opinion - being the one discussed - than you right?

I gave my friend my former SB's handle, he contacted her on the site, she took my friends money and fucked him. Why would I go to her and tell her what I've done? I mean I could, but I am not looking for a referral fee and I am not looking to speak with my exes. I'd refer to a landscaper the same way. Jesus H Christ. Enough with the whiteknighting.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

landscaper the same way

Enough with the whiteknighting.

I don't know about you but I don't get all that intimate with my landscaper in a potentially unsafe situation. Ever hear the term "False equivalence"?


"Stop calling me out on my bad behavior where I clearly have no idea what consent is and no desire to understand why"

 

[Leimonis]

I don't know about you but I don't get all that intimate with my landscaper in a potentially unsafe situation. Ever hear the term "False equivalence"?


"Stop calling me out on my bad behavior where I clearly have no idea what consent is and no desire to understand why"

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Your hat is weird and so are your posts. I’ll have to put you on ignore under nudnik category.

 

[Daddy2021]

This doesn’t make sense on more than one level.
1. Bros before ladies.
2. I’m not contacting my former SB to organize her dates because I want to keep it this way. Former. (And I’m not sharing my current SBs).
3. I’m not taking responsibility for my buddy behaviour. I don’t know how good a daddy he is. I hope he’s great but I don’t know. I can’t recommend him. I can only recommend her. She is on the site, she chose her profile to be open to the world, she gets contacted and she makes her free and voluntary decisions.

I can see how they may be unhappy if they are reviewed. But it’d be dumb to be unhappy if they are recommended.

Sorry but 1: having character, integrity and not being a douche before Bros. My circle that are my actual bros wouldn’t be so disrespectful. I’m not your bro and when I see a fellow comrade acting like a dink I say something. Why is that a hard concept to grasp? My ‘bros’ carry some sense of decency.

 

[Leimonis]

Sorry but 1: having character, integrity and not being a douche before Bros. My circle that are my actual bros wouldn’t be so disrespectful. I’m not your bro and when I see a fellow comrade acting like a dink I say something. Why is that a hard concept to grasp? My ‘bros’ carry some sense of decency.

I am not your bro either so I wouldn’t recommend or comment on an SB to you even if you asked and even if she was an actual SP pretending to be an SB. Ive been happily sugaring for more than ten years on and off and never ever has I encountered a concept of privacy attached to a handle on seeking that is open to the public. Not her private info, not her private pics, just the damn handle which a grown ass adult willingly puts out there in hope to be contacted by randos to make money.
Perhaps a concept of reviewing them on a board was a bit of a demented dream. Okay. But recommending to a personal friend? It’s not like it’s bypassing her screening process. She’s welcome to screen the fuck out of him and I don’t even need to know about this nor care. The one and only thing it does it helps a friend to sift through bots and scammers and toe dippers and get right to someone who is basically verified by me. There is nothing indecent or disrespectful about it in the fucking slightest. I can’t believe that we are seriously discussing it on an escort review board.