Is it possible for a provider to develop feelings for a client?

[rockinglad]

You talk and argue like a girl(woman) . Soo i will call you babe

I was raised right by a loving mom and 3 sisters. I have respect for women and the providers working this job, what can I say?
If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem. I'm not here to be liked and cheered on by fellow men. I get a healthy dose of that in my daily living life off the internet.

 

[hawktoulover]

I was raised right by a loving mom and 3 sisters. I have respect for women and the providers working this job, what can I say?
If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem. I'm not here to be liked and cheered on by fellow men. I get a healthy dose of that in my daily living life off the internet.

Oh, raised right? That explains why you’re hanging out on an escort review board pure class and culture, I see.

 

[rockinglad]

Oh, raised right? That explains why you’re hanging out on an escort review board pure class and culture, I see.

You do know that gray areas exist right?

 

[xmontrealer]

Oh, raised right? That explains why you’re hanging out on an escort review board pure class and culture, I see.

I feel no shame in enjoying terb, and getting different points of view on so many sexual and general subjects.

I love the music threads, the photo threads, the sports & political threads, as well as the massage and escort reviews.

I would be very sad if terb no longer existed.

I feel no shame in seeing sex providers. To paraphrase the old Groucho Marx joke, which I have mentioned before, at my age I wouldn't want to date anyone who would want to date me!

How else would I be able to enjoy the company of beautiful ladies half my age or less?

And I was raised just fine...

 

[somjay]

Like cold fusion, it’s theoretically possible.

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

I've always had this fantasy of becoming a regular with someone and eventually we both develop feelings for each other. And eventually she wants to be my girlfriend. Not for my money, but for who I am and of course our sexual intimacy

I like talking and getting to know someone, even if I know it's just a pure client-provider relationship

Overtime I learned that providers are just normal people who can gain feelings for others. Especially if there is alot of intimacy other than just sex

In your experience, is it possible for a provider to develop feelings for a client? And I'm not talking about a celebrity client or anything. Just a regular guy

Do you really think they are rolling around with a bunch of celebrity clients ?…. In Toronto lol. La la land.
yes you’re a regular guy. Whatever your own definition of regular is. They are a regular woman. Whatever their definition of that is. Then add in this dynamic. Yes both can get feelings. Yet both need to be rooted in the reality of their circumstances and not ruin the time together by trying to impose a goal that the other hasn’t agreed to.

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

I see. And I don't get why they don't feel ANYTHING at all if a man cuddles them and gets to know them. Isn't it a natural human reaction to feel attached to someone after cuddling and connecting in a safe space?

Not everyone likes to be touched. And if they don’t know you well it could feel like being smothered.

 

[double0]

I think the reality is that SPs going out with clients on unpaid dates or dating in general happens a lot more then either group would like to admit.

 

[hedo rick]

In principle, yes, it is possible.. in the sense that it’s not impossible. It’s also *possible* to win the lottery, but I wouldn’t bank on it.

The odds are very much stacked against you. It’s very highly likely this won’t turn out the way you hope. Sure, there are exceptions to every rule.. but if you think you’re the exception, you’re probably wrong.

First, there’s no guarantee her feelings are genuine. Escorts are professional fantasy creators.. manipulating emotions is part of the job. This could just be another level down the rabbit hole. Her motivation may range from relatively benign (simply giving you what you’re looking for), to generally malicious (some women are sharks.. and you’re just chum in the water). Even if there are times you’re not “on the clock” and explicitly paying her.. she’s playing the long game: you’ll pay (probably handsomely) in the end.

Even if feelings are mutual and genuine.. it’s tough sledding. By virtue of how you met, trust will always be an issue. Because of social stigmas, your relationship will likely be walled off from the rest of your life. You won’t met her friends/family, and vice versa. It’s safer that way. But you’ll always wonder if she’s actually going to visit her sister for the weekend (if she even actually has one), or if she’s juggling another, ahem, set of balls. She’ll wonder if you’re really working late at the office, or if you’re out seeing other providers.

Breaking down those walls is risky. You might think mutual assured destruction would prevent either of you from wrecking the other’s life by spreading info that should never be disclosed. But MAD requires rationality.. which is often in short supply when emotions are involved.

I’ve made the mistake of going down this road once. Never again. Here, there be dragons.

 

[yessir235]

Since the dawn of time the patriarchy has made sure that there is a subset of women put aside as hoes so that we can give light and honour to the “pure” ready for marriage…

From the Egyptians to the fall of Rome, every culture on earth had whores, hence this being the oldest known “profession”

Oil and water don’t mix.

There is no light without dark.

need I say more? please don’t ever consider that fact that “you” can do it, when it hasn’t worked for anyone else ever before.

 

[hemiman]

This makes me so uncomfortable. How nice of you to offer her a raise. Just because someone is married doesn’t mean they have access to the other persons money. Likely why she does this … everyone should have access to their own money. Men should provide for women. Women should be able to have all basic needs met by men and keep their earned money

loser

Shits on misogyny while pushing misandry.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I think the reality is that SPs going out with clients on unpaid dates or dating in general happens a lot more then either group would like to admit.

Yup. Without really congratulating myself I became off the clock friends with probably 4 or 5 girls. Still friends with most of them even if one or two moved away. Still get texts at Christmas and Valentines etc. It came about by them wanting to hang out on their time off to go shopping or for a meal out somewhere. One wanted to go to Toronto for a week and asked me to take her there as I used to live there. She paid for the air fare and hotel, as I really didn't have much of a burn to go there. However, I paid for some meals and car rental etc. So, I wasn't using her.
Another one used to invite me to go out for a meal and a beer after a session when she was finishing early for the day. One time she said "you need to find a steady girlfriend. Someone like me" I liked her well enough. Just not quite enough.

 

[Elv]

There are no absolutes in life other than death and taxes which I’m sure you have heard before. Yes, it can happen and I carry the fond memories and baggage of such relationships. The key is communication in a respectful and open manner such that you both can manage your expectations.

 

[Birf]

My guess is that escorts see a variety of successful men who want a strange piece and move on. I saw a very popular girl years ago who said she missed some of her regulars when they just stopped visiting. Although I'm sure the percentage is quite low.

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

Shits on misogyny while pushing misandry.

At some point we all have to recognize how we contribute to the things we both love and hate in society and in each gender and look how it hasn’t even been 100 years since women have been able to have their own bank accounts without a man to sign for them.many of us still want a classic nuclear family yet how do we support that desire. Then we are surprised and surly when they find alternate shocking undesirable for “my woman” ways of making money

 

[Bootysmasher]

As a man who dated 2 SPs who even retired for me it is not worth it. Too much of a headache and drama. I even have other SPs wanting to have “more” but never again. Just see SPs for fun. Don’t expect anything except busting your nut and going home.

 

[Sa10]

@Bootysmasher would you say you look like Matt Bommer ? (Just kidding , would you say you’re handsome? )

 

[Bootysmasher]

@Bootysmasher would you say you look like Matt Bommer ? (Just kidding , would you say you’re handsome? )

The ladies always open the door with a big smile on their face hug me tight and always compliment me. I’ve been told I’m handsome, look like a boxer, look like a rapper, I’m nonchalant. So based on women and SPs I’d say so. Some don’t allow kissing in their menu but a lot of them give me light kisses on the lips and body when I’m pounding them lol. I don’t do relationships cuz of drama and bitching. I like to live a peaceful life. Also I treat them good and compliment them as well. Having a sense of humour helps a lot. Girls love to laugh and giggle lol. Just be yourself, be genuine, and aim to have a fun time. I don’t expect anything from anyone.

 

[CasualHobbyist25]

In my experience, lots of women have romantic lives outside of this they won’t disclose for obvious reasons. They have boyfriends. They have friends with benefits. They deal with rejection just like everyone else. They have a real life. The escort client life is an illusion. It’s all play and no responsibility. You get to have great sex and perhaps pleasant conversations with some. We might develop a true connection with some of them because we’re human. We might start liking them and they may feel something for us(rare), but at the end of the day we are just a number to them. If they like us, they think we’re pleasant enough to be in their company and get paid for it. Both parties need to respect boundaries and treat this for what it is. Enjoy yourself, make good memories, and most importantly don’t catch feelings.
I say this as someone who’s seen more women in this industry that I can count( not proud of it). I’ve fallen in love with them before. I’ve gotten to know them on a personal level. This is the reality.

 

[CasualHobbyist25]

Another thing I should add. Most escorts will never admit to this. But they get addicted to this lifestyle because it allows them to spend time with men who obsess over them and treat them like princesses while getting paid. But behind the scenes they’re out there dating men in their personal lives who never value or respect them but they enjoy the chase. Even when they do find someone genuine they find it very hard to give up this life because to them this is “just a job”. They keep their clients and boyfriends separate. Neither knows about the other. They have double lives. I could write books and do podcasts on my experiences and what I’ve learned. Most lessons learned due to my own naivety but I learned at a young age and I’m smarter for it. Unfortunately this life is not something I can discuss in public. Ultimately this game is a losing game. You lose time and money. It’s only worth it if the fun is worth the money to you, you can afford it, you don’t get addicted, and feelings don’t get involved.