69er dirty?
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I think there are women who don't provide oral, even within a committed long term relationship. From my experience, it has had to do more with upbringing and yes the belief that the act is "dirty". I'm not sure what religious laws also may prevent one from performing this act.
Muslim guys that I know have said that they don't like to give or receive. I guess the more fanatical ones prefer a "blow job" of a different kind!
For me, mutual oral is absolutely essential, as is DFK.
I know some guys who do not like DATY, but they all love their blowjobs.
I know some ladies who don't like to give blowjobs, but most of them love DATY, although amazingly, some don't.
Those who expect to receive but have no desire to make any effort to give are inconsiderate, selfish, and a waste of time.
I knew a woman who was totally turned off by kissing.
Not just DFK, any kind of kissing at all, even with her boyfriends.
This was hard to believe, as she was into mutual oral, although I wouldn't say she was big on the blowjobs.
I know some guys who do not like DATY, but they all love their blowjobs.
I know some ladies who don't like to give blowjobs, but most of them love DATY, although amazingly, some don't.
Those who expect to receive but have no desire to make any effort to give are inconsiderate, selfish, and a waste of time.
I knew a woman who was totally turned off by kissing.
Not just DFK, any kind of kissing at all, even with her boyfriends.
This was hard to believe, as she was into mutual oral, although I wouldn't say she was big on the blowjobs.
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sara@select
mmouse, should one not be sexually compatible with their prospective spouse from day one? I think if there are issues from the beginning you do need to ask yourself seriously if these are things you can live with. I would guess that if you are contemplating the idea of marriage monogamy may come into play here and by that line of thinking sexual chemistry is a big factor.
. I guess if that was the case, business wouldnt be too good for the sp's hihihihiih.I personally, full heartedly, agree that sexual compatability has a huge impact on weither I'll marry someone or not. Before I accept any propsal I have to know that he will sexually satisfy me and will fullfill the majority of my fantasies...also I need to know that I will do the same for him...One of the requirements in fact of getting a commitment out of me would be a CLEAN dick.....and strong skills in the DATY department.
Catherine
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Catherine
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Good luck.....
The whole point is, when making a major decision like what kind of mortgage is necessary for what you want, financial decisions, what kind of car to get, your dick doesn't make a decision, unless the mortgage lady is a hottie. When making a decision about who you're going to have sex with for the rest of your life, well, then your dick better have a say, since that's supposedly the last vagina the little guy will see again. If you make such a decision as marriage without consulting your dick, mmouse, good luck with you. As for telling your kids, I know you were just trying to make a point, but it was an awfully weak point. In case you hadn't guessed, kids don't even want to know that their parents had sex more times than the number of children they have!
Coolguy.
in a sexless marriage. I have a buddy that didn't let his dick make the decision, and he's a bloody wreck trying to decide how he's going to leave his sexless wife. I've never met a guy that on outward appearances has it all, beautiful wife, big home, great kid, great job, making big bucks, driving a nice car, his wife is intelligent, independent, great looking, most of the things any guy would want in a wife, yet he is the saddest human I know right now. It's not just that he isn't getting the odd hummer, but even when they have sex, she just wants to get it over with. One time she actually said, when he was going down on her to try to give her an orgasm, "Let's not make a big production about this."mmouse said:
The whole point is, when making a major decision like what kind of mortgage is necessary for what you want, financial decisions, what kind of car to get, your dick doesn't make a decision, unless the mortgage lady is a hottie. When making a decision about who you're going to have sex with for the rest of your life, well, then your dick better have a say, since that's supposedly the last vagina the little guy will see again. If you make such a decision as marriage without consulting your dick, mmouse, good luck with you. As for telling your kids, I know you were just trying to make a point, but it was an awfully weak point. In case you hadn't guessed, kids don't even want to know that their parents had sex more times than the number of children they have!
Coolguy.
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Cool Guy
I know what this friend of yours is going thru; I am in a marriage completely void of sex although I wouldn't be discribed as miserable. And I agree with Catherine completely on her point of the importance of sexual compatability before any decisions are made, like marriage. In my case, everything was fantastic (to the point of wildness!) until we got married, then after less than 1 year of being married, the sex completely dried up. And it's been that way ever since.
SB
Cool Guy
I know what this friend of yours is going thru; I am in a marriage completely void of sex although I wouldn't be discribed as miserable. And I agree with Catherine completely on her point of the importance of sexual compatability before any decisions are made, like marriage. In my case, everything was fantastic (to the point of wildness!) until we got married, then after less than 1 year of being married, the sex completely dried up. And it's been that way ever since.
SB
SoldierBoy,
What have you done to remedy the situation? At least with my buddy, he knew she didn't like sex going into it, but I think she "completed the picture" so to speak, as far as outward experiences go. In his case, he thinks it's hopeless and isn't doing anything to see if it can be remedied. He's as much to blame as she is because he didn't think enough with his dick.
SB, if you could tell me what you have done, or intend to do to remedy the situation, I'd appreciate it. I am single, so I only have so much to offer him as far as advice is concerned.
Coolguy.
PS I think that's shitty when women perform great in bed until the ring goes on the finger, then it dries up. I hear that all too often and it doesn't motivate me to get married. And ladies, I realize that happens with some men too, but from what I hear, more with women.
What have you done to remedy the situation? At least with my buddy, he knew she didn't like sex going into it, but I think she "completed the picture" so to speak, as far as outward experiences go. In his case, he thinks it's hopeless and isn't doing anything to see if it can be remedied. He's as much to blame as she is because he didn't think enough with his dick.
SB, if you could tell me what you have done, or intend to do to remedy the situation, I'd appreciate it. I am single, so I only have so much to offer him as far as advice is concerned.
Coolguy.
PS I think that's shitty when women perform great in bed until the ring goes on the finger, then it dries up. I hear that all too often and it doesn't motivate me to get married. And ladies, I realize that happens with some men too, but from what I hear, more with women.
SoldierBoy sorry to hear that but how in the world would you ever know that your sex life would deterioriate after marriage? You can't unfortunately. At least you had wild sex before which lead you to believe that things in the future would be ok. I think in your situation something happen in your relationship to cause this sexless situation. However in coolguy's friend's case it sounds like he married in despite knowing he had a frigid wife.
