Addiction help

[Jenesis]

OP hasn't replied since post #1. I wouldn't worry about derailing anything.

Someone challenges your point of view and you just fold, because "let's stay on subject"?

I said it before your so-called challenge as well. LOL.

I'm done posting with you now. You are clearly not capable of simply agreeing to disagree with someone and letting others have their own opinion when it differs from yours. This is the second thread you have done this with me, where you simply can't let things go and move on. There will not be a third. I have no desire to engage with people like you who just always want to fight for the sake of the fight. So ignoring you is just the best for both us. You can have the last word. You can think what you want. You can assume you “stumped” me with your “challenge”. LOL. I don’t care. Your opinion just doesn’t mean that much to me. Have a good one. The last word I know you need is all yours now.

 

[jimieboe]

Most people aren't going to respond well. In a perfect world, he wouldn't have been paying for sex outside of marriage, but he's not in that situation. Telling her will create wounds which he will need to be prepared to deal with. This isn't the first time someone has made a post like this in the past. In most cases, either the person can't break the addiction and keeps seeing escorts secretly or they eventually get caught. He's been incapable of breaking the habit behind her back. He's just going to have to think long and hard how he wants to approach that situation. It won't be rainbows and butterflies, but taking responsibility for his actions is a starting point. If he wants to pussy out of having to deal with the situation, so be it, but the conflict will only continue to multiply.

You married???? Because sounds like you don't have a clue of what's involved...just my 2 cents

 

[shadeau]

The best book that I read about addiction was The Freedom Model For Addictions:

Amazon.ca

Reading the description on Amazon should give you some notion of the book’s approach. Of course, it deals with booze and drug problems, and I don’t remember it mentioning sexual addictions, but a lot of the same thinking applies.

If you’d rather watch video than read, the authors have a YouTube channel that you can watch for free:

The Freedom Model

Break free from addiction with The Freedom Model for Addictions—the most successful approach available today. As the pioneers of the non-12-step movement since the 1990s, we remain the only true Non-12 Step program. Our Freedom Model Workshops and Coaching Programs empower you to overcome...

www.youtube.com

The same material can be listened to as audio-only podcasts.

 

[Sweetface09]

Well I hope the OP finds the help he is seeking as it would be on his best interest. As someone who has gone through divorce, seeing SW's is not worth losing your family and not to mention possible debt that might incurred

Focus on your family and you will overcome the challenges and addiction

 

[Ahri]

Get the agencies who you frequent to self ban your self

No shame in that I had a client tell me he did this before to be forced to take a break.

 

[lir2016]

Get the agencies who you frequent to self ban your self

No shame in that I had a client tell me he did this before to be forced to take a break.

By any chance, did he go into detail of how it works? I have thought about requesting SFT to temp ban before, but I’m just worried that they’ll make it a permanent ban

 

[Ahri]

By any chance, did he go into detail of how it works? I have thought about requesting SFT to temp ban before, but I’m just worried that they’ll make it a permanent ban

I actually don’t know how it worked - so I’m sorry I can’t help you with that but give SFT a message and take screenshots that your requesting a TEMP ban.

 

[Climberx]

You married???? Because sounds like you don't have a clue of what's involved...just my 2 cents

Yes and we have GREAT communication. Some of you guys don't know how to talk with woman! Not all woman are out with a pitchfork!

 

[Portishead]

Get the agencies who you frequent to self ban your self

Just as casinos do.

 

[Portishead]

I have thought about requesting SFT to temp ban before, but I’m just worried that they’ll make it a permanent ban

PM SFT here so you have a record of your request.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

Addiction is hard. You have to recognize your triggers and work through them.

Quitting anything is hard and sometimes people just switch out one addiction for another. Make your family or something you do with your family your addiction. Prioritize yourself and them. Sex is sex. Its not worth losing ANYTHING over. Definitely not worth losing a family you love.

 

[Trevor Wong]

Any tip/suggestion to get out of this addiction? Have a beautiful wife, young daughter and i know what i am gambling with. My family is everything for me and i am really feeling stressed and concerned about their health and safety. I really don't want to spoil my life for a 20 mins fun and really want to come out if this hobby. Any suggestions? Thank you.

Go on to pornhub right away. Internet porn helps me with my own sex addiction. Once you "blow your load", the urge to go to SP's or MP's at least dies down for the moment.

 

[Sweetface09]

Go on to pornhub right away. Internet porn helps me with my own sex addiction. Once you "blow your load", the urge to go to SP's or MP's at least dies down for the moment.

I'm not an expert but don't you think visiting porn sites adds fuel to the fire?

 

[Trevor Wong]

I'm not an expert but don't you think visiting porn sites adds fuel to the fire?

You would think so, but I can only speak for myself. I'm presently single, but have a high sex drive. By partaking in internet porn, I save myself thousands and thousands of dollars a year. Internet porn has literally saved me from declaring bankruptcy. With that being said, when I do occasionally see an SP, I have a lot of performance issues because I'm so used to porn. Sometimes I'm on pornhub and other porn websites for 5 hrs straight.

I admit I have a porn addiction, but it's financially better for me, then having an SP addiction. On another subject, if I was married or in a relationship, and was seeing SP's behind my wife's or girlfriends back, I would have trouble doing it, as I'm a bad liar. I totally admire married guys on terb, who can lead double lives etc. For example, seeing SP's on their lunch break, and then coming home to their wife of girlfriend at night, like nothing happened during the day.

 

[Trevor Wong]

100% but it makes the urgue of today go away but what you have watched fucks with ur brain in the following days making u still want to go to SPs or porn again .... and repeat the cycle

Yes, but if you're watching porn again, you're not spending money. I agree with you. The porn cycle will keep repeating itself.

 

[Sweetface09]

Yes, but if you're watching porn again, you're not spending money. I agree with you. The porn cycle will keep repeating itself.

Yea to me this is the thing, porn just adds fuel to the fire because it makes you want to experience that same feeling that you're watching. So seeing a SP is the easiest thing to do. I thought the same thing, "oh if I get the urge just jerk off" but it made me wanted to get a BJ more.

 

[Ahri]

I did do something similar. Set appointments with the escorts i love so much and then ghost them after they give me the room number on the appt time hahahahahaha

Don’t find this funny at all the most infuriating thing a client can do is just ghost a SP they just booked

 

[jimieboe]

Yes and we have GREAT communication. Some of you guys don't know how to talk with woman! Not all woman are out with a pitchfork!

So she knows you cheat? Does she as well?

 

[maxers]

You would think so, but I can only speak for myself. I'm presently single, but have a high sex drive. By partaking in internet porn, I save myself thousands and thousands of dollars a year. Internet porn has literally saved me from declaring bankruptcy. With that being said, when I do occasionally see an SP, I have a lot of performance issues because I'm so used to porn. Sometimes I'm on pornhub and other porn websites for 5 hrs straight.

I admit I have a porn addiction, but it's financially better for me, then having an SP addiction. On another subject, if I was married or in a relationship, and was seeing SP's behind my wife's or girlfriends back, I would have trouble doing it, as I'm a bad liar. I totally admire married guys on terb, who can lead double lives etc. For example, seeing SP's on their lunch break, and then coming home to their wife of girlfriend at night, like nothing happened during the day.

i think id rather be addicted to a real life interaction even if it drains my bank account, idk the way u phrase internet porn is very dystopian/black mirror to me. but to each their own what works for u works for u

 

[maxers]

Don’t find this funny at all the most infuriating thing a client can do is just ghost a SP they just booked

like insane, what goes around comes around. people who leave ppl in the dark, waiting are scum