Advice

[Mrboobs]

Hello gentlemen, my fiancé has hinted to me several times that she wants me to take a fatherly role with her teenage son.
The kid isn’t easy and I haven’t established much of a relationship with him the whole time we been together.
I really not sure what to do at this stage of the game and starting to have mixed feelings about marriage and the whole relationship.
Any help/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Mr Deeds]

Taking on a fatherly role with a kid is a huge responsibility. You're going to be responsible for how grows up and Views life. Everything you do with him everything you say to him will affect him in one way or another. You're going to be responsible for his life and your life is going to be changed forever. Think hard on this I don't envy your position. On the other side of it raising a boy has your son can be a fantastic experience and you will have wonderful memories as he grows up good luck

 

[dvous11]

Hello gentlemen, my fiancé has hinted to me several times that she wants me to take a fatherly role with her teenage son.
The kid isn’t easy and I haven’t established much of a relationship with him the whole time we been together.
I really not sure what to do at this stage of the game and starting to have mixed feelings about marriage and the whole relationship.
Any help/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

If you’re gonna marry this broad, you’re marrying her kid as well.
Your marriage won’t work if you don’t assume a fatherly role.
Are you prepared to burn your hard-earned money on raising a kid that’s not yours in addition to what your marriage will cost?
After you invest $ into the kid are you prepared to hear “Fuck you, you’re not my dad!”?
Baggage ain’t easy.

 

[poker]

Be friend and good example to the kid. She likely means disciplinarian. But you have a fatherly role with being an asshole. Play catch. Ask questions. Listen. Fish. Tell dirty jokes. Give good advice.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Got involved with a single mom with a two year old little boy. Fell in love with the little boy. Even though I ended it with the mom, stayed close to them both for the boy, and for familial friendship. For 12 years. Until she married a nice guy. Still friends with them all. The boy turned out great. In spite of me. lol. Couldn't walk away from the kid.

 

[poker]

Got involved with a single mom with a two year old little boy. Fell in love with the little boy. Even though I ended it with the mom, stayed close to them both for the boy, and for familial friendship. For 12 years. Until she married a nice guy. Still friends with them all. The boy turned out great. In spite of me. lol. Couldn't walk away from the kid.

I married a woman with a 4yr old. He’s simply been my kid. Even after divorce.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I married a woman with a 4yr old. He’s simply been my kid. Even after divorce.

Yup. That's what happens. Can't walk away from a kid.

 

[oakvilleguy]

A buddy married a woman with a 4 year old boy. He loved the kid. They were doing alright until the kid became a teenager and started to rebel. Whenever he would try to lay down the law, the mom would side with the kid. Got so bad that he was afraid for his life as the kid would threaten to kill him in his sleep. Eventually he moved out of the house. Lost the house in the divorce and half his net worth after 12 or so years. The sad thing is he still has to see the woman as he has joint custody of the daughter they have together.

 

[Adam_hadam]

My dad ostracized me and hit me with his belt. Abuse and neglect was my dad's MO.

 

[dvous11]

A buddy married a woman with a 4 year old boy. He loved the kid. They were doing alright until the kid became a teenager and started to rebel. Whenever he would try to lay down the law, the mom would side with the kid. Got so bad that he was afraid for his life as the kid would threaten to kill him in his sleep. Eventually he moved out of the house. Lost the house in the divorce and half his net worth after 12 or so years. The sad thing is he still has to see the woman as he has joint custody of the daughter they have together.

This is a great example of how you, the person with no baggage has good intentions towards the woman and her child….and through no fault of your own, or change in the way you feel, the uncontrollable variable of the child ends up being the cause of you losing 1/2 your wealth and will probably NEED to keep working till you’re 70 to recover.
My advice…never marry a woman with kids that aren’t grown past 18yrs old. Even if the father is in the picture and funds half the child’s expenses. That shit has a very high probability of causing you mental and financial stress and no pussy is worth that stress.

 

[IM469]

Maybe the secret is find something you can bond. What about taking him out to a strip club ?

 

[John Wick]

Trust your gut. Run.

 

[Ref]

He is a teenager and you are not his dad. He will not listen to you and trying to play a dad role will never work. Just treat him like a man and he will respect you for that.

Forget trying to do what your spouse wants you to do as you are already not doing it and somehow still surviving her wrath. Much easier to deal with her as opposed to a pissed off teenage boy.

 

[chrispalen]

Run away. You don’t need the grief.
Why bother with a woman with a kid not your own.
Soon she will lose interest having sex with you , just like what wives always do.

CP

 

[xix]

Run as fast you can. I have seen and have cousin who use men for money some discipline the son for a year and dump them.

The majority of Single /divorce women WILL NEVER allow you to DISCIPLINE the kid unless you run it through her. Her comments are just a façade.
There are plenty of videos on the net about this topic.

I know a lady who stuck with her 2nd husband because she had no money and loved the man and allowed the man to discipline her son, his children gave her a hard time as mentioned above. This was in the 70's she is now 80 and step children rarely visit her except her son.

A friend helps a super in the building he lives, 2nd cycle never works for women, most men leave after a year or less, the simps stays longer but still leave.

 

[Moose134]

Hello gentlemen, my fiancé has hinted to me several times that she wants me to take a fatherly role with her teenage son.
The kid isn’t easy and I haven’t established much of a relationship with him the whole time we been together.
I really not sure what to do at this stage of the game and starting to have mixed feelings about marriage and the whole relationship.
Any help/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

Don’t rush into a marriage. Learn to trust your body. Your body is obviously telling you something, follow it.

One key thing…when you get married, any issue or annoyance is now magnified by 10X.

I think you already know how you want to the deal with this, the problem for many people is saying ‘no’ to the things you want to say ‘no’ to.

You’re free to make up your own mind for you. It’s a tough situation, and that’s ok.

 

[explorerzip]

If you're dating a woman with kids, you should expect to have some role in their lives even if they are adults. Seems to me that you should have asked about kids in the first few dates and definitely before getting engaged. None of this should have been a surprise to you.

1 . You could dump her, but that comes with an emotional cost to her, you and her teenage son.
2 . Have a long discussion about what she wants from you as a father figure regardless of how difficult the son is.

Option 1 is the "easier" choice, but there is an emotional cost to you, her and her son.
Option 2 is the "harder" choice, but it could help you and her son grow as people.

 

[richaceg]

You need to ask yourself first...are you ready to be a father because raising a kid doesn't just involve taking him to the games, buying him stuff and providing roof over his head and food on the table...what happened to the real father btw?

 

[JohnnyWishbone]

Hello gentlemen, my fiancé has hinted to me several times that she wants me to take a fatherly role with her teenage son.
The kid isn’t easy and I haven’t established much of a relationship with him the whole time we been together.
I really not sure what to do at this stage of the game and starting to have mixed feelings about marriage and the whole relationship.
Any help/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

I'd walk away. The woman can't be that nice otherwise you wouldn't be here on a prostitute review site! Does this woman have equal or close to the same net worth and cash flow as you or is she broke and wants a walking ATM ?

Taking a fatherly role probably means she wants you to pay for her teenage son's expenses, drive him around etc - why can't she or the dad do this?

 

[Mrboobs]

You need to ask yourself first...are you ready to be a father because raising a kid doesn't just involve taking him to the games, buying him stuff and providing roof over his head and food on the table...what happened to the real father btw?

He’s in the picture but poor quality of a father. Think he battling demons.