Advice

[Mrboobs]

I'd walk away. The woman can't be that nice otherwise you wouldn't be here on a prostitute review site! Does this woman have equal or close to the same net worth and cash flow as you or is she broke and wants a walking ATM ?

Taking a fatherly role probably means she wants you to pay for her teenage son's expenses, drive him around etc - why can't she or the dad do this?

 

[Mrboobs]

These are all good points.
She is a good woman, the fact that I see sp’s has nothing to do with her but more to do with me. I think most of us are in the same situation where it has nothing to do with our SO.

 

[richaceg]

He’s in the picture but poor quality of a father. Think he battling demons.

well that's going to be a challenge...better to talk to the kid one on one and see where he stands. Let him know what your intentions are. Give him some wiggle room (freedom) but also show him there are rules that need to be followed inside the household...let him know you went through that age and know whats up so no need to hide anything, let him know you can lend an ear if he needs it...best way really is to win a teenager's trust...also best to talk to him without his mom as that will only look like you're trying to impress her than him. Good luck.

 

[richaceg]

These are all good points.
She is a good woman, the fact that I see sp’s has nothing to do with her but more to do with me. I think most of us are in the same situation where it has nothing to do with our SO.

Definitely...my SO is good in the sack but don't do bodyslide...and hates oil...

 

[Not getting younger]

If you’re not ready for children, or hers I would have a good long honest (be honest with yourself too ) talk with her.

If her son is a source of concern or anxiety to you. He will become a target of any friction between the two of you. It could create a wedge between you and her, or her and her son.

In short, the two of you need to talk. Express your concerns and go from there.

 

[JohnnyWishbone]

These are all good points.
She is a good woman, the fact that I see sp’s has nothing to do with her but more to do with me. I think most of us are in the same situation where it has nothing to do with our SO.

Do you think she'd be ok if she found out about you seeing SPs still ? The kid's dad being a loser may be a red flag - might start playing the kid against you, getting jealous since he sounds like a loser and you probably are wealthier than him. I'd still run a mile...just have a GF and live separately....there's another long thread here somewhere with many good points why no man with any half decent net worth should get married..but best of luck to you.

 

[xix]

Hello gentlemen, my fiancé has hinted to me several times that she wants me to take a fatherly role with her teenage son.
The kid isn’t easy and I haven’t established much of a relationship with him the whole time we been together.
I really not sure what to do at this stage of the game and starting to have mixed feelings about marriage and the whole relationship.
Any help/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

How old is the kid?

Off to college/ Uni? who pays?

Will he come back live the rest of his life with you?

Will she leave you once he graduates?

IF no Uni/college he must work and pay his share, will mother allow it?

 

[Mrboobs]

How old is the kid?

Off to college/ Uni? who pays?

Will he come back live the rest of his life with you?

Will she leave you once he graduates?

IF no Uni/college he must work and pay his share, will mother allow it?

Still n high school.

these very good questions to be considered.

showing signs of being a slacker and not motivated at all.
This is another thing that concerns me cause I feel the pressure will be on me to motivate him.
I have my own kids (2) to worry about.

 

[Mrboobs]

Do you think she'd be ok if she found out about you seeing SPs still ? The kid's dad being a loser may be a red flag - might start playing the kid against you, getting jealous since he sounds like a loser and you probably are wealthier than him. I'd still run a mile...just have a GF and live separately....there's another long thread here somewhere with many good points why no man with any half decent net worth should get married..but best of luck to you.

Of course she wouldn’t be ok with it.
but like I said it’s a me issue. I’m a man that enjoys sex with different beautiful women. This may sound dumb but I don’t think we would have to relationship we have if I didn’t do this. It’s an outlet that I use 1 to 2 a month.