If she doesn't have kids and there is an exit strategy before diving in, it certainly makes it easier.
Affairs with married women - too complicated?
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Often only in the rearview mirror, thats why sailorsix says to stay away from affairs of the heart. The emotional draw overrides lots of other rationale reasoning; but there is usually other underlying reasons that lead one into an emotional affair.asn said:
One of the first SPs I met had huge beautiful knockers that I could barely get my hands around. Had to digress. But anyway, she had great insight. She said she had a lot of married men as clients because they wanted to have an affair but didn't want to have the woman fall in love with them. Interesting observation. So the lesson is if you want to run the risk of love happening, have the affair. If not, don't. Try as hard as you can, there is a truism, that in Russell Peters's words says, "Somebody's going to get a hurting".
such prudish responses.
First, are you talking about a purely sexual affair or a love affair. If it's the latter, you're seriously fucked for considering it.
If it's the former, there are only two questions to consider: 1) Is she hot? 2) Is she insane?
If she's not hot, again, you're seriously fucked for considering it. If she is hot, make sure she's not insane. You want a chick who isn't going to blab it to anyone; isn't going to let it out to her husband in the middle of a fight.
If you can get that, take it. Go for it. Make her the most unfaithful chick in history.
First, are you talking about a purely sexual affair or a love affair. If it's the latter, you're seriously fucked for considering it.
If it's the former, there are only two questions to consider: 1) Is she hot? 2) Is she insane?
If she's not hot, again, you're seriously fucked for considering it. If she is hot, make sure she's not insane. You want a chick who isn't going to blab it to anyone; isn't going to let it out to her husband in the middle of a fight.
If you can get that, take it. Go for it. Make her the most unfaithful chick in history.
It Can Get Real Ugly...
I met someone at the workplace 8 years ago... we fell for each other hard. Both of us married.. both with kids. I was so into her I was ready to take on any of the consequences and so was she (or so I thought). Then... my wife at the time found some e-mails and cell phone bills (Quincy had nothing on her let me tell ya...). Nothing damning but enough to get her suspicions up. She then proceeded to call her husband and present the evidence.
As you can imagine all hell broke loose... and this girl decided to go into denial and save her marriage. Not so much to be with him (he was a prick to her) but for her children and their future (very wealthy). Her parents were ready to write her out of their will.
We still work together, still see each other once in awhile and still love each other. I am divorced, have had a couple long term relationships since but never felt the same for someone as I do for her. Her husband despises me.. and if we crossed paths, God only knows what would happen. I don't like him either.
Moral of the story... the price can be VERY high if you decide to go there. Make sure she is worth it.
I met someone at the workplace 8 years ago... we fell for each other hard. Both of us married.. both with kids. I was so into her I was ready to take on any of the consequences and so was she (or so I thought). Then... my wife at the time found some e-mails and cell phone bills (Quincy had nothing on her let me tell ya...). Nothing damning but enough to get her suspicions up. She then proceeded to call her husband and present the evidence.
As you can imagine all hell broke loose... and this girl decided to go into denial and save her marriage. Not so much to be with him (he was a prick to her) but for her children and their future (very wealthy). Her parents were ready to write her out of their will.
We still work together, still see each other once in awhile and still love each other. I am divorced, have had a couple long term relationships since but never felt the same for someone as I do for her. Her husband despises me.. and if we crossed paths, God only knows what would happen. I don't like him either.
Moral of the story... the price can be VERY high if you decide to go there. Make sure she is worth it.
Herodotus said:This reminds me of the story from the 1970s New York Yankees where two teammates traded families - wives, kids and pets. Fucked up but funny!
I can't find a link, but will post when I do...
I remember that. more than a tad odd it was.
Sex with married women?
In my experience it works out really well if you are single and she is married. Treat it as sport fucking and you will find that the women are eager to please and good to go whenever you call them. Leave your emotions at the door, 90% of the time they won't leave their husbands, nor would I want them to! There is that old saying about fucking married women: "They don't swell, they don't tell and they are grateful as hell". Treat them as a pet, find out what it is they aren't getting at home and deliever it to them with the pillow talk and they will be eating out of your hand.
As long as you are upfront about the rules that make them feel comfortable ie: "Don't worry, I won't ever call you at home I don't want us to get caught" blah blah blah they love being excited about illicit affairs and will deliver their pussy right to your front door.
However if you are married - don't go there. No one likes a cheater - they are despicable in every sense of the word.
Enjoy romping!
In my experience it works out really well if you are single and she is married. Treat it as sport fucking and you will find that the women are eager to please and good to go whenever you call them. Leave your emotions at the door, 90% of the time they won't leave their husbands, nor would I want them to! There is that old saying about fucking married women: "They don't swell, they don't tell and they are grateful as hell". Treat them as a pet, find out what it is they aren't getting at home and deliever it to them with the pillow talk and they will be eating out of your hand.
As long as you are upfront about the rules that make them feel comfortable ie: "Don't worry, I won't ever call you at home I don't want us to get caught" blah blah blah they love being excited about illicit affairs and will deliver their pussy right to your front door.
However if you are married - don't go there. No one likes a cheater - they are despicable in every sense of the word.
Enjoy romping!
I think it's a really shitty thing to do even if SHE is the instigator. I've turned down a few solid offers myself solely based on my fucked up moral compass. There's dozens of single women out there. When i find myself in situations like this I usually try to reverse the roles and put myself in the husbands shoes and ask I wouldn't do something that I wouldn't want done to myself. But to each his own.havingfun said:
Don't Do It
Stick with SPs/MPs... but don't get involved with married people, it just gets incredibly messy in every way imaginable. I know how hard it is to NOT want to touch that other person in a more sensual manner. It becomes even more difficult when you have to break up with them (right before the s**t hits the fan), yet you continue to see them in the workplace, gym, or where ever you may continue to cross paths. Save yourself the grief. Humans are emotional creatures and you cannot guarantee that neither of you will fall for the other. For the love of cute, fuzzy, forest creatures, don't do it.
Stick with SPs/MPs... but don't get involved with married people, it just gets incredibly messy in every way imaginable. I know how hard it is to NOT want to touch that other person in a more sensual manner. It becomes even more difficult when you have to break up with them (right before the s**t hits the fan), yet you continue to see them in the workplace, gym, or where ever you may continue to cross paths. Save yourself the grief. Humans are emotional creatures and you cannot guarantee that neither of you will fall for the other. For the love of cute, fuzzy, forest creatures, don't do it.
I'm confused.Dewalt said:
So it's ok if you are single and she is married, but cheaters are despicable, so I conclude the lady you are fooling around with who is married is despicable but you're ok?
What do you call youself if you are screwing a despicable lady? Maybe I missed something here.Hi Mia
I would be happy to clarify it for you:
Married cheating people are doing something terrible to their partner and will go to hell. Just because I am sticking my dick in them doesn't mean my own moral compass needs any recalibration. I believe in being upfront and honest with anyone I am seeing and that includes 'I really like the time we spend together but you have to know I am also seeing other people, those other people also practice safe sex with me as it is a priority in my life".
How hard is that to say to someone you are interested in? One should always be upfront with people you are going to be intimate with.
They may not like it and walk away (their choice) but at least they can respect my honesty.
I would be happy to clarify it for you:
Married cheating people are doing something terrible to their partner and will go to hell. Just because I am sticking my dick in them doesn't mean my own moral compass needs any recalibration. I believe in being upfront and honest with anyone I am seeing and that includes 'I really like the time we spend together but you have to know I am also seeing other people, those other people also practice safe sex with me as it is a priority in my life".
How hard is that to say to someone you are interested in? One should always be upfront with people you are going to be intimate with.
They may not like it and walk away (their choice) but at least they can respect my honesty.
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No no, it isn't only married men on terb who cheat. Women are just as guilty as it. I think that women cheating is worse as emotional infidelity is more hurtful when found out than sport fucking.
I still don't see how complicated it is to tell your partner you want to bone someone else, as long as you come home to them.
No no, it isn't only married men on terb who cheat. Women are just as guilty as it. I think that women cheating is worse as emotional infidelity is more hurtful when found out than sport fucking.
I still don't see how complicated it is to tell your partner you want to bone someone else, as long as you come home to them.
Did some one say something about selective moral compass?Dewalt said:
Or is it, simply, hypocrisy?
Perry
Wow, you haven't talked to many women in the "vanilla world" about cheating have youDewalt said:
