Giving her O can do you wonders....I've asked my SO several times if anal is on the table and it was always a firm no....but after every O...once we switch to doggy and aim it at her O...I still politely ask if I can go for it and I always get a "whatever" which means yes....the hard part is because it was too tight....i lose erection before I can totally put everything in...the farthest I got in was the tip...that's it....still a good experience....and I'm always saying..."one day"...