Anyone Regret ever starting this Hobby

[Gyaos]

Do I regret ever starting this hobby?

ABSOLUTELY ***NOT*** I am absolutely glad I found it, went in it and ***GOT LAID***! 2 girls at once on most occasions, and may I say, single, single, single. It even made me choose, who I really want, so I can have *a challenge*. Have a nice day!

Remember, in the end, everything can be explained mathematically. So regrets are simply contradicted.

Gyaos Baltar.

 

[onehunglow]

No regrets and i think that is mainly due to the ladies i have seen. For the most part all were classy and not from CL. Was always gentlemanly and courteous and was most often rewarded with great service. Not much of a risk taker like some fellow hobbyists who always looked for that hidden gem. They often walked through minefields to find one.
Never hobbied while i was involved with someone. To each his own.

 

[Rockslinger]

I have blown $100,000 and much more .

What? Would you rather die a millionaire? Life is about experiences. When you are 99 years, you will look back on these memories with great fondness. God, that is a pitiful looking smilie.

 

[S.C. Joe]

I can't understand how people can die and give all their money away to like a school / church.

That is totally crazy, IMO

So what if shes a gold digger, if she makes your life more happy its worth it to me. I'm sick of hearing how some are looking for true love, its great if you can find it but they say the grass is always greener on the other side.

As for barging at work, depends on the workers..at a auto body bump shop I was at guys talked about S.C. gals all the time, shit we could drink beer after 12 too. I was a young punk back then, seen one guy sell his nice Corvette to get married..to some gal he met in a bar. He was a drunk thou, she did help him out. He looked much better when I seen him a few years later.

Some people need people, I was able to kick my bad habits by myself and don't mind sleeping alone..in fact I can sleep better and more soundly.

 

[GDLLover]

No regrets, hobbying has given me something that my civilian like cannot. I have met some great ladies and had some very interesting discussions and experiences that I wouldn't normally have had the pleasure to.

Sure one can say its throwing money away with nothing to show for it, but can you say anything different of a vacation. Once the event is done we are left with our memories. We all value our memories in some way so hobbying shouldn't be any different.

 

[Brill]

I'm open to a different word from "hobby", but it fits. It's not a matter of dressing up what is unacceptable, it's just that a short one-word term is useful.
Are "poon" and "pooning" better? I know that's used in Vancouver.

Maybe "whoring"? That could be used by either participant, someone who sees a prostitute could be said to be whoring around but it can't be used as a noun and verb like hobby can.

 

[S.C. Joe]

Call it whatever doesn't really matter. What did they used to called it when whores came in to town on a motor home back in the 1970's. Then it was the cb's radios to get the word out were they were at. Motor homes were cool cause they could move to different cities. Today thou its way better. You younger people don't know how good you have it. One of the reasons I haven't stop, WHY I ask. I can pre book a date for say midnight or 1 am and go about my plans for the evening.

Only thing I will say is the older days more gals were putting out just for the fun of it. Now more look at it as a job to please guys, oh well have to take the bad with the good I always say.

Another thing is looking at non sp's (its bad were I am at) and just thinking how much fun you know they could be, while they are stuck working at some crappy min wage job. But they are so brainwashed in to thinking sex for money is wrong....until they look back after a bad marriage or two, even then some never see the light. God will take care of them once they die.

 

[Questor]

Has any of you ever had great regret of starting this whole hobbying thing that we do?

The more I hobby, the more disappointing it gets and the more it affects me negatively. The only thing is that I don't believe I can stop as I am addicted to the idea of having any girl I want whenever I want, within a few hours of contacting her - it's like the feeling of ordering food delivery x 1000.

So I just have kind of accepted it as one of my weaknesses. After my first visit with an sp, I was so happy, but since then I have found my experiences, in hindsight at least (during and immediately after I am always happy) to be less and less pleasureable for so many reasons. Also, I have found that all FS feels the same no matter how hot the gir is. One thing that keeps me doing this is the fact that I don't have a woman in my life right now, and I do always enjoy the company of the opposite sex - it's much different than hanging around guys. I mean, I am married, but my wife is out of country, she doesn't want to return, and many of the woman I have know from my past have moved on to other relationships and are no longer available. Plus, if I try to start a relationship in civiain life, it is so time-consuming and often the girl wants more of a commitment than I can offer - it always ends bad. So, I feel I am going to keep going back to hobbying even though I know I shouldn't.

Don't get me wrong, I think sp's are amazing woman, it's just that they can only offer one thing and after a while it loses it's appeal if that's all that is available.

Regret starting? No.

I've never becoming so involved in the industry that's its ever gone over more than a few 1 hour visits a year. Certainly never into double digits. I've enjoyed meeting many lovely ladies in ways that would never have been possible otherwise.

I am surprised to see so many posters declaring their regrets. But I guess if I thought it was an addiction, I'd regret it too.

I have experienced that empty feeling sometimes too. It is that feeling that helps recognize that 1 hour visits with SPs are not what I really want in my life. I am looking for a more meaningful connection. But sometimes a quick romp with a beautiful and charming lady feels pretty good.

Good thread. Good discussioin. Thanks mb12ca for bringing it up. I think you need to take a break for awhile. Look for something else that doesn't leave you feeling empty.

 

[Insidious Von]

Guilt and regret are encumbrances I cannot afford. As men we need sex to maintain good health, it doesn't matter if it's bought or cultivated.

A friend of mine just had his cancerous prostate gland removed, how did he get to such a state? He spent too much time drinking and not enough franking. Your prostate gland is a leverage device that allows you to frank at will, if you don't use it you lose it. Life is shorter thank you think so quit feeling guilty and enjoy the ride.

And remember what Red Green said: "you're never too old to be smart".

Btw, my prostate-less friend is younger than myself.

 

[Questor]

I'm open to a different word from "hobby", but it fits. It's not a matter of dressing up what is unacceptable, it's just that a short one-word term is useful.
Are "poon" and "pooning" better? I know that's used in Vancouver.

Maybe "whoring"? That could be used by either participant, someone who sees a prostitute could be said to be whoring around but it can't be used as a noun and verb like hobby can.

I don't like using the word hobby in this context, but I don't expect people to stop using the word hobby anytime soon because it makes people feel good about doing it. Whoring is somewhat disrespectful towards the ladies we see. Pooning is better. The business or the industry, as in the sex industry, are probably more accurate.

 

[Questor]

Guilt and regret are encumbrances I cannot afford. As men we need sex to maintain good health, it doesn't matter if it's bought or cultivated.

A friend of mine just had his cancerous prostate gland removed, how did he get to such a state? He spent too much time drinking and not enough franking. Your prostate gland is a leverage device that allows you to frank at will, if you don't use it you lose it. Life is shorter thank you think so quit feeling guilty and enjoy the ride.

And remember what Red Green said: "you're never too old to be smart".

Btw, my prostate-less friend is younger than myself.

ROFL I think your friend needed to jerk off more then.

Life is shorter than you think makes more sense than the health rationalization.

 

[fuji]

The only thing I regret is that I don't walk away as much as I should, and I believe I am in the top 10% of people who walk away.

What I mean by that is when the SP turns out to be unattractive to me, in that case, while I have a personal policy of walking away, there have still been far too many times that I have not walked away. In practice I only really walk away if I feel I have been blatantly lied to, such as obviously fake pics. However, many times an SP is completely unattractive to me, but hasn't completely misled me, seems nice, or whatever.

The result is that I wind up having sex with someone I am not even remotely attracted to and would never, ever give the time of day to if I met her in a bar, even if she walked up and said "let's go home and fuck", I'd say no. Worse, I paid her for it.

I *always* regret that, and think about all the better uses I could have put the money to--and it's not likely I miss the money (I am fortunate) but it's a principle.

 

[Rockslinger]

I've never becoming so involved in the industry that's its ever gone over more than a few 1 hour visits a year. Certainly never into double digits.

I go to more hockey games than that. Lord, what a waste of time and money. I must quit going Leaf games. Why did I ever start? Insert smilie here.

 

[Insidious Von]

ROFL I think your friend needed to jerk off more then.

Life is shorter than you think makes more sense than the health rationalization.

To each is own Questor, it's as compelling a reason to hobby as any.

And wanking doesn't help you much; it's like using an elliptical machine and staying at level one.

 

[Rockslinger]

And wanking doesn't help you much;

There are only two advantages to wanking. It is cost-free and STD-free. Oh, and it is still legal (until Harper gets his majority). Insert smilie here.

 

[Cligghanger]

I hear what everyone is saying. I appreciate the feelings of regret and guilt. In AA they say the first step is admitting you are powerless over alcohol. In this case one might consider admitting they are powerless over gorgeous women. Only thencan one correct the situation...if in fact it needs correction. One beauty of the hobby is that it addressess a male carnal instinct wthout a relationship. Thus, no fuss. It is the relationship that can cost a fortune...far more than SP activity. So, if single, knock yourself out (within budget). If married, stay away from relationships.

 

[winstar]

Pro's

1. Seeing SPs help to keep your head on straight. It doesn't put you in a compromising situation with girls who claim to "love" you, and stays off heartache. Also, I have found in my personal life, it completely does a 180 for the guy/girl dynamic when you are dating a girl and you see the early warning signs of deception and manipulation (I have yet to meet any girl who doesn't try that, or try to establish this early). If she tries that, you just secretly laugh it off, knowing you'll be seeing an SP sometime soon instead of wasting money on a date trying to court her, because of her behavior.

2. Seeing Sp's allow for a type of sexual freedom most men I know simply can't get in the real world, and impossible for one girl to compete with. Where else would a 19 year old blonde go to Hawaii with a 56 year old? (from another thread) Or being able to have threesomes at your convenience, or the variety of women in terms of age, looks, race etc.

3. If you can mange costs, it can be actually more affordable than a girlfriend or wife. You don't have to buy b'day gifts, take them out, or financially support them.

4. No chance of being betrayed by cheating. Yes, they are SPs, seeing lots of men, but you're not making that emotional investment of trust.


Con's

1. No chance of developing true intimacy, even if you're seeing them outside the industry.

2. It can develop into an addiction, which can then also become expensive to maintain and hard to control.

Seeing Sps are a distant second to a real genuine, trusting, loving relationship with someone you find physically and emotionally attracted to, but of the people I know, none of them have that. They either are going out with an unattractive nice girl, or having a hard time managing an attractive, messed up bitch, who more than likely frequently cheats on them.

Seeing an Sp can give you almost everything, but not intimacy, truth and trust. But then again, most girlfriends and wives can't offer that either.

I would summarize by saying SPs are the best compromise for men presently. This may not have been true generations ago, when women added to the lives of their men and took care of them, but that is not so much the case today. Of course you could really be lucky and find a girl who will see SP's with you, or other types of arrangements, but that is a rare find I think.

 

[S.C. Joe]

Pro's

1. Seeing SPs help to keep your head on straight. It doesn't put you in a compromising situation with girls who claim to "love" you, and stays off heartache. Also, I have found in my personal life, it completely does a 180 for the guy/girl dynamic when you are dating a girl and you see the early warning signs of deception and manipulation (I have yet to meet any girl who doesn't try that, or try to establish this early). If she tries that, you just secretly laugh it off, knowing you'll be seeing an SP sometime soon instead of wasting money on a date trying to court her, because of her behavior.

2. Seeing Sp's allow for a type of sexual freedom most men I know simply can't get in the real world, and impossible for one girl to compete with. Where else would a 19 year old blonde go to Hawaii with a 56 year old? (from another thread) Or being able to have threesomes at your convenience, or the variety of women in terms of age, looks, race etc.

3. If you can mange costs, it can be actually more affordable than a girlfriend or wife. You don't have to buy b'day gifts, take them out, or financially support them.

4. No chance of being betrayed by cheating. Yes, they are SPs, seeing lots of men, but you're not making that emotional investment of trust.


Con's

1. No chance of developing true intimacy, even if you're seeing them outside the industry.

2. It can develop into an addiction, which can then also become expensive to maintain and hard to control.

Seeing Sps are a distant second to a real genuine, trusting, loving relationship with someone you find physically and emotionally attracted to, but of the people I know, none of them have that. They either are going out with an unattractive nice girl, or having a hard time managing an attractive, messed up bitch, who more than likely frequently cheats on them.

Seeing an Sp can give you almost everything, but not intimacy, truth and trust. But then again, most girlfriends and wives can't offer that either.

I would summarize by saying SPs are the best compromise for men presently. This may not have been true generations ago, when women added to the lives of their men and took care of them, but that is not so much the case today. Of course you could really be lucky and find a girl who will see SP's with you, or other types of arrangements, but that is a rare find I think.

Well said.

You forgot about the lucky few who have a great wife that also earns good money (at a 9 to 5 job) but its rare to have both. Plus how many wifes stay 19 (to those who enjoy the younger ladies).

Very true how seeing sp's can help in real world dating. You aren't (at least me) swept off your feet just cause she is smoking hot and filrting with you. If it wasn't for this hobby I would have been F by one for sure (and not in the good way)

 

[Bear669]

NEVER regretted, only wish I could keep going

Sincere condolences for those of you with regrets, especially those who feel the SPs have"..only one thing..." to offer.

You were/are clearly missing the right women, and maybe, just MAYBE, you only GOT one thing,

because you only GAVE one thing.

 

[nova5]

This hobby has provided me with many wonderful moments that I will treasure for the rest of my life. Furthermore, I look forward to experiencing new adventures in 2010.