Are we all naturally "switches"

[submissivedave]

I don't know what it is that has made me come up with this conclusion, but, I think that no one can be a 100% Dom nor a 100% sub.

Last night, I was jerking off as usual. What was different was that, in my fantasy, I played a very dominant role fucking the girl really hard, banging her head and making her scream ...

I was suprised when this went through my head. Obviously it turned me on or else I would of not had a good release (although I did it myself) ... After my first release, I still had some "bullets" left in my sacks so I decided to stroke my member once more. This time, I fantasized about having her kneel between my legs while I stood up, grabbing her by the back of the head with one hand and fucking her face. And again, I came plenty ...

After my two shots, I shocked myself at what went through my head. I felt confused about my dominant role in my fantasy ...

... and I still am ...

Could it be that we are "switches" and that we like to play the Dom and sub role from time to time?

I mean, now that I have thought about it, from my observations and reading the posts here, it does seem to be this way.

I have read numerous domination/submission threads about people seeing dominatrices as well as female-subs. And in real life, I have seen female Dommes be "melted away" by a man she is attracted to. It seems to me as if she has "given up" her Domme status. Furthermore, after a man has given the women an orgasm no matter what she is (Dom or sub), the women would be in a very submissive mood or mode ...

What do you guys think?

 

[papasmerf]

SD
I think you need to find a girlfriend...............some one who can break you out of your shyness.

 

[cooper]

SD
I think you need to find a girlfriend...............some one who can break you out of your shyness.

My second hearty laugh of the day.... my oh my......

Dave, me thinks that you think too much.... go out and find a woman my man.... quickly.....

 

[thecoolguyms72]

Or perhaps a boyfriend? I still haven't found out if Dave sucked cock or not............

 

[papasmerf]

Hate to say it
but if Dave sucked it
I do not want to know.



Fact is Dave is too heady, he needs to relax and enjoy.

 

[dogman]

Or perhaps a boyfriend? I still haven't found out if Dave sucked cock or not............

Chances are if he did he would be on here telling all about it in a thread.

Dogman

 

[The Baroness]

Right you are Dogman!

 

[electrol69]

i never thought i was a "switch" meaning i could be a dom or sub...but after meeting up with one sp that likes to play both realms...i realized that i can be quite the sub in her hands..

it amazed me how i turned from a very dom male to a sub male..in her hands.

 

[submissivedave]

it amazed me how i turned from a very dom male to a sub male..in her hands.

That's very interesting ...

Are you by any chance really really attracted to her? I mean, beyond the sexual? Are you dom towards other women?

Secret Touch, yeah ... I try, but don't know where to find such couples. Before, I would only restrict my search to straight single women, but as time progresses and as my sexuality has developed taking on a different form, I am not afraid to look for bisexuals and couples ... weird ...

Find a girlfriend you all say? Where? Are there any mail-to-order girlfriends? Haven't had a girlfriend for two years now ...

 

[train]

Haven't had a girlfriend for two years now ...

Hard to understand .....I mean what girl doesn't dream of getting her head banged .

 

[submissivedave]

Hard to understand .....I mean what girl doesn't dream of getting her head banged .

So are you saying women are "naturally" submissive creatures?

Personally, I would generalize and say yes. And that's why Dommes are such a rare and "hot commodity". There is always a greater supply of male subs then there are female Dommes ...

In terms of this hobby, I have yet to meet a trully dominant and sexually dominant women. Most of the ladies I have seen were only being professional and played along with me ...

 

[sweetdaddyc]

SD
BBWMorgan is real she play but it is for keeps
I do think she would take GOOD care of you
if you lasted the hour
she would probalby keep you an extra for the sheer pleasure
Been there done that
Have the marks

SDC

 

[submissivedave]

Thanks sweetdaddyc for the advice. However, I do not have a BBW fetish ...

Nonetheless, she does seem to be very real and honest with her approaches to this practice and her profession.

I have actually visited a well known Mistress here in Toronto. She used to, or still might be running her own fetish night at a certain club. If you are familiar with the scene you might know whom I am talking about ...
Anyway, to make a long story short, she was not what she percieved to be. Furthermore I did not enjoy the session at all ... although I must admit I was very turned on.

And, in Toronto, the BDSM scene consist of the same circle of people. I heard from someone that this particular Mistress whom I visited was really only in it for the money. After knowing this, I got really turned off ...

Personally speaking, I don't think one can pay for a BDSM Dom/sub experience. It's got to be agreed upon by both parties instead of a certain interest being the determining factor (in terms of Pro-Dommes, that would be money). But of course, there are exceptions to everything ... some Pros do it for the fun of it and enjoy it and take the money as a bonus and to maintain and purchase equipment as well as clothing.

Nonetheless, thanks !!!

 

[sweetdaddyc]

You are correct SD
It is the same circle
That circle is a little greedy
No compassion just in it for the $$$
you are best to spend a few extra $$ on the Lavalife type environment and find a dominant or submissive amateur to you liking and progress from there
It is an inters=esting route to go
I have been here for a long time spending 2 years lurking and then joining only to find as much hypocrites hare as anywhere else
I still love the TERB contacts but individuals are like every where else good and bad
long live the fredom we enjoy in this great country
An Long live TGF and all of their GFE members

Cheers
SDC

 

[La Contessa]

Switches?

Sorry to have to disagree with you Dave, but from my experiences, a Dominant is a Dominant, is a Dominant, and the same applies to submissives. Being a Dominant or submissive isn't about 'playing the role'. It is about having a certain 'mind-set', that does not change no matter what role we play, at the moment.

Many Dominants and submissives can change roles for the play value (this is called Topping or Bottoming), and thoroughly enjoy the physical pleasures that are derived from being on the opposite end of the flogger. But, even during the play their mind does not assume the role of the other.

Switches are a breed unto themselves. I don't truly believe that they fall into either the Dominant or the submissive category. Switches are usually just turned on by Top or Bottom 'play'.

As for the statement, "when a woman orgasms she becomes submissive"...Not true. It's only because our neurons are not firing in the right sequence.

MrsW.

 

[Mrs_Stiffler]

I know I'm not a switch. Nothing turns me on like having a man use me for his pleasure. I've tried to take the dominant role, when requested, but it just doesn't come naturally for me. Funny how I can be the 'take charge' business woman in some realms, but in the bedroom I love being a sexual servant. I've had fantasies like Dave's, but I find it hard to play it through to fruition leaving me to believe that I truely am a submissive.

 

[Wired For Sound]

I know I'm not a switch. Nothing turns me on like having a man use me for his pleasure. I've tried to take the dominant role, when requested, but it just doesn't come naturally for me. Funny how I can be the 'take charge' business woman in some realms, but in the bedroom I love being a sexual servant. I've had fantasies like Dave's, but I find it hard to play it through to fruition leaving me to believe that I truely am a submissive.

Good to see Mrs Stiffler is back, of course, wet and waiting.

 

[Mrs_Stiffler]

Thanks baby, I missed you

 

[electrol69]

That's very interesting ...

Are you by any chance really really attracted to her? I mean, beyond the sexual? Are you dom towards other women?

i am really attracted to her beyond sexual, she's quite a lovely women with similar interests that I do, and has a good head on her shoulders, and yes, i am dominant towards other women, but with this sp, i just melt in her hands, i do as i am told, and she rewards me with great pleasure

 

[Morgan Ellis]

I don't know what it is that has made me come up with this conclusion, but, I think that no one can be a 100% Dom nor a 100% sub.

.....

What do you guys think?

I think I know some Lifestyle ProDominas who'd happily kick your ass into next week for suggesting they have secret submissive streaks hiding inside of them.

I hate it when people extrapolate this from their own personal experience - "Well, I'm a switch, therefore everyone else must be one, too." This is almost as bad as that tired old chestnut that "no one can really be a Dominant unless they started out as a submissive."

Try tying up and spanking a true hardcore Dominant of either sex if you don't believe me... Just make sure you have a lot of witch hazel handy.

Morgan