Are we all naturally "switches"

[Morgan Ellis]

Been there done that
Have the marks

SDC

Heh. Whoops, my bad.

If you guys could only see MY hands after a hard core spanking session. I get so into it that they're black and blue for days....

I've played around at role playing a sub role, but it usually ends up with me taking over and saying 'do it like THIS, would you?'. You can take the girl out of the power role, but you just can't take the power out of the girl...

Morgan

 

[submissivedave]

Re: Re: Are we all naturally "switches"

I think I know some Lifestyle ProDominas who'd happily kick your ass into next week for suggesting they have secret submissive streaks hiding inside of them.

I hate it when people extrapolate this from their own personal experience - "Well, I'm a switch, therefore everyone else must be one, too." This is almost as bad as that tired old chestnut that "no one can really be a Dominant unless they started out as a submissive."

Try tying up and spanking a true hardcore Dominant of either sex if you don't believe me... Just make sure you have a lot of witch hazel handy.

Morgan

I don't know what to say. I mean yes, BDSM is a lifestyle and you got to live it to trully enjoy the fruits it bears. However, as I have been sitting on my ass for the past few months, I have realized that there are different sides to different people. Furthermore, being, or, leaning towards one extreme is unhealthy. A person must have a good balance. And this is why many sexually submissive men are actually quite powerful in everyday life and that many doms lack power. Of course, I am only being simplistic.

As I once read in a book, the author once wrote "how does Mr. Senator turn off being Mr. Senator? He knelt down before the hooker and kissed her on her feet."

Another thing is, I used to know a very experienced Domme who is considered the grand-ma of BDSM in Toronto. She told me she once had a supreme court judge and that some of the best submissives were Italian men because of the values Itlian culture puts on their men ...

Yes, BDSM is sex ... but there is also spiritualness and etc. to it. Yet, our lives ain't just about sex. We may be a dom in the boardroom but a slave in the bedroom. Or, I could be master of my domain at work ... by I become a total sissy once I get on the 401 cause I am affraid.

It is impossible for someone to be a dom in EVERYTHING, just like it is impossible to be a sub in EVERYTHING ...

 

[Morgan Ellis]

Re: Re: Re: Are we all naturally "switches"

It is impossible for someone to be a dom in EVERYTHING, just like it is impossible to be a sub in EVERYTHING ...

Of course - yet I was referring to sexually, as I assumed you were, as well.

What drives me insane, for example, are the number of people who say to me "Wow, you're really nice for a Domina!", or words to that effect. It's as if people assume that anyone who is a lifestyle Dominant must be a 24/7 bitch on wheels, or kick seniors into traffic, or set kittens on fire. Yes, I'm a Lifestyle Dominant, but I also do volunteer work, have friends I love, have lovers with whom I am simply sensual, and I usually refrain from kicking anyone, unless they really want me to.

I don't find it hard at all to believe that some people simply and truly are wired to be either Dominant or submissive, with no cross over into other roles, in their sexual lives.

But I would never assume that this means that a sub is weak or a push over in their 'other life'. To the contrary, some of the strongest people I know are submissives - few people have more of my admiration than the true subs I've had the pleasure to meet and play with.

Morgan

 

[casey22]

Re: Re: Re: Are we all naturally "switches"

I don't know what to say. I mean yes, BDSM is a lifestyle and you got to live it to trully enjoy the fruits it bears. ..

We are all switches, switches are we all, all are we switches?