Asking a girl w/ a bf out?

[fjdude]

Wondering what kind of advice I would get from fellow terbites -

This girl i know is a friend and she keeps talking about how she wants to meet the right guy (despite the fact that she's been w/ her bf for 3 yrs) so i've taken to mean that she's not happy w/ him but is afraid to dump him (from talking to her she's hinted that she's emotionally insecure). I have started to develop some serious feelings for this girl and I get the impression that she likes me as well but is confused.

My question is should I ask her out??? I know the bf (i've met him 2-3 times but we've hardly spoken) and feel bad about asking a girl out who's already in a relationship.

open to suggestions...thanks.

fj

 

[tboy]

MY first question is: what's a gird? is that like some sort of cross between a bird and a girl? lol

Well, do the honorable thing and NOT ask her out.....ever heard of the saying "don't mow another man's grass"? (especially while he's sitting in a lawn chair on it sipping lemonade).

Another thing: do you REALLY want to date a woman who is emotionally insecure? (lol, you might have to considering most are lol) and in addition, if she DOES leave him for you, what's to stop her from doing the same thing to YOU?

 

[ig-88]

steel girder? I guess, if you're in construction, you might know how to ask it out.

But seriously, I would leave it alone. At most, just be "friends" with the girl, but not too close to arouse the dude's suspicion. Just monitor their relationship from afar, and "be there for her" if it goes down the tubes. Unfortunately, that will probably never happen, or even if it does, you will probably have moved on.

Keep fishing, my friend.

 

[RTRD]

How well...

Wondering what kind of advice I would get from fellow terbites -

This girl i know is a friend and she keeps talking about how she wants to meet the right guy (despite the fact that she's been w/ her bf for 3 yrs) so i've taken to mean that she's not happy w/ him but is afraid to dump him (from talking to her she's hinted that she's emotionally insecure). I have started to develop some serious feelings for this girl and I get the impression that she likes me as well but is confused.

My question is should I ask her out??? I know the bf and feel bad about asking a girl out who's already in a relationship.

open to suggestions...thanks.

fj

...do you know the guy?

If you know him, then keep away. Not only is it breaking "man-law" and "the code" (you don't fuck a buddy's girl), it is also potentially dangerous to your health.

On the other hand...

If you don't know the guy, then HER relationship is HER issue. Just ask her out like you would any other woman. She will either accept...or she won't.

And remember...before you accept any moral guidance from anyone on terb...remember these are guys fucking around on their wives and girlfriends with women who have husbands and boyfriends...how do they defend THAT???

 

[drstrangelove]

Go for it! Don't let your life be run by other people's rules. If it's meant to be, it will happen.

 

[Mikehorn]

Ask Greekster

 

[B52]

Take what you want, if you have what it takes.

 

[tboy]

......And remember...before you accept any moral guidance from anyone on terb...remember these are guys fucking around on their wives and girlfriends with women who have husbands and boyfriends...how do they defend THAT???

LOL dude, speak for yourself!

 

[RTRD]

I

LOL dude, speak for yourself!

...did.

 

[capncrunch]

Seems that this girl already has you in the dungeon known as the "friend zone." Once she sees you as "just a friend," there's no escape. Any type of play to get to know her on a more intimate level will backfire 99% of the time.

Cut her loose, and refuse the temptation to pine after her. You're not her therapist, you're not her girlfriend, you're not in her life to listen to all her problems.

And please don't fall into the trap of thinking, "If it's meant to be, it will happen." Nothing worthwhile comes about without some effort. From the info you've provided here, however, I don't really see anything positive coming out of this.

 

[papasmerf]

she been dating a guy for 3 years and still is seeking love????????


She is all about the cash and security............Advoid as if she is the first lady with aides.

 

[stang]

Just have sex with her.

 

[Edifice]

And don't forget to post a review, lol.

 

[trisket]

Do the two of you talk about anything besides her feelings? Are you mostly a sounding board for her complaints or do you also laugh and have fun together?

 

[Caveman]

I believe in equal opportunity. Since her bf is not really your friend anyway, ask her out, why not? Get to know her more and see if you really want to get into this messy love triangle, or if she is worth it. Hey you never know, some times what we've been looking for could be just around the corner. One world of advise though, try not to sleep with her until you're sure. I know...I know...it is "hard" to do, but once sex gets in between, it gets even messier and clouds our judgement. I know I preach this gentleman's rule but don't really practice it, but you could be stronger than I and avoid hurting too many people including yourself during this relationship turmoil.

 

[basketcase]

Just remember if you succeed, she'll likely treat you the same way she did her soon to be ex (and some other guy will be on here asking the same question).

 

[RTRD]

Pretty much...

Just have sex with her.

...what I was thinking.

 

[RTRD]

Frankly...if he is lucky...

Just remember if you succeed, she'll likely treat you the same way she did her soon to be ex (and some other guy will be on here asking the same question).

...she won't take 3 years to do so.

Oh wait...he did mention "serious feelings" didn't he?

Sigh...its a hopeless case.

 

[alex52]

before you accept any moral guidance from anyone on terb...remember these are guys fucking around on their wives and girlfriends with women who have husbands and boyfriends...how do they defend THAT???

How do you defend being on terb Pope MLAM.

 

[RTRD]

Intel gathering....

How do you defend being on terb Pope MLAM.

...back when I was going to strip clubs (so many of you seem to forget that there is strip club info here I've noticed through the years)...now it is just amusement.

BTW...currently I have no GF and I am seperated...

That said...I HAVE no moral dilemma with "mowing another guys lawn"...I figure the opportunity wouldn't exist if he were doing it right. Indeed, I take a perverse pleasure in it....