And why not? Why does anybody else need to share my proclivities just because they are a 'friend'?
Bachelorhood and SPs
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That reminds me of a conversation that I had with my buddy after he returned from Cuba. My buddy had been using a pimp there, and he started referring to this pimp as his friend. I questioned this friendship and asked him for which amount of money he would be glad to find out that his Cuban friend broke an arm. My buddy gave it a thought and replied: $20.
So I guess some definitions of friendship are broader than others.
Just because I haven't told anyone yet doesn't mean I'll never tell them. When we get together we usually don't discuss our sex lives.
I agree. There should be somethings that you do not want to share. By the way your best friend becomes worst enemy is quite common. So take care with your "trust"
Guys and that too friends hanging out and no talk of sex ? hmmmmmmmmmm...... now I would guess that you do not discuss anything personal like relationship stuff.
Pretty neutral and safe discussions. Hope you are enjoying such company.
It's not even concern over that, it's more an issue of keeping certain things to yourself. I like women's feet and legs; I don't need my friends to know.
Sex lives is one thing (it's fine locker room talk).. but hobbying? No, never.. that's something no one needs to know that I do.
And in reply to the OP..
I don't think ultimately it's sustainable. Even though I very much enjoy the time I spend with the girls I see through hobbying and have a lot of fun with it, I find myself desiring something more.. a relationship that lasts more than an hour, and isn't "on the clock".
Even if you read Chester Brown's book (Paying For It), in the end (spoilers), he ends up with a single woman in a monogamous relationship..
I don't think ultimately it's sustainable. Even though I very much enjoy the time I spend with the girls I see through hobbying and have a lot of fun with it, I find myself desiring something more.. a relationship that lasts more than an hour, and isn't "on the clock".
Even if you read Chester Brown's book (Paying For It), in the end (spoilers), he ends up with a single woman in a monogamous relationship..
Yes, I am enjoying such company. I have been enjoying such company as I grew up with these people. Sure we discuss we relationships, but not who we are currently having sex with. Sorry to hear you're not ok with that. We'll have to talk about it at our next pretty neutral and safe discussion, while we are having some beers.
I think it's the other way around. You should not talk with friends about how you fuck your SO because it's not really your own secret, it's her secret as well. But if you cannot talk about who.. I mean SPs - I say these people are not your friends, they are your buddies at best, there is no trust between you and this is not friendship.
Doesn't matter what starge you are at there will always be nosey people.... e.g. if you are dating the qustion is when are you getting married, if you are married the question is when are you having kids etc.
To get them off your back just say that you've been lucky to have some great kids and that you're not ready to get married again right now. People become more sympathetic when you use some emotional bs like not ready right now, still dealing, want to focus on getting to know yourself again, learning to live on your own again etc.
Or just grow thicker skin and realize that no matter what people will ask what I consider inappropriate personal questions.
If you are happy with your life (and it sounds like you are) then enjoy it. Don't date or re-marry just cause people are bugging you about it.
Marriages don't always work out but it sounds like you are lucky and have a relationship with your kids. What more can one ask for. As far as I can see you are living the life. You did the marriage thing, had kids and now you are hobbying when you can actually afford to!
I'm sure most guys here would applaude you then again it's a biased crowd.
Is his life sustainable? Yes so long as female companionship comprised of a sexual nature and timed intervals is all that he needs.
But at that point when he wants more than this then that's when he can start looking to date again.
To get them off your back just say that you've been lucky to have some great kids and that you're not ready to get married again right now. People become more sympathetic when you use some emotional bs like not ready right now, still dealing, want to focus on getting to know yourself again, learning to live on your own again etc.
Or just grow thicker skin and realize that no matter what people will ask what I consider inappropriate personal questions.
If you are happy with your life (and it sounds like you are) then enjoy it. Don't date or re-marry just cause people are bugging you about it.
Marriages don't always work out but it sounds like you are lucky and have a relationship with your kids. What more can one ask for. As far as I can see you are living the life. You did the marriage thing, had kids and now you are hobbying when you can actually afford to!
I'm sure most guys here would applaude you then again it's a biased crowd.
Is his life sustainable? Yes so long as female companionship comprised of a sexual nature and timed intervals is all that he needs.
But at that point when he wants more than this then that's when he can start looking to date again.
the tricky part about dating when you are a mature terbite is that young women don't want to date you, and you don't want to date old women.
And this gap gets wider and wider with every year.
Hobbying is not necessarily sustainable, unless you are independently wealthy, but even that can be too much (even Hugh Hefner marries now and again).
As they say, everything in moderation.
As far as sharing my proclivites, maybe one friend knows the most, and a couple of others might know a thing or two, but I try not advertise or boast. Envy can turn to jealosy which can turn to spitefulness.
As they say, everything in moderation.
As far as sharing my proclivites, maybe one friend knows the most, and a couple of others might know a thing or two, but I try not advertise or boast. Envy can turn to jealosy which can turn to spitefulness.
the other shitty part of the old women issue is that older women often age without getting classier. What they accumulate over the years is mostly emotional luggage (toxic in nature) and children.
Young women meanwhile don't necessarily even need class because they are, well, young.
Yeah I'm aware of the growing age gap.
Really boils down to what the OP wants. Dating younger girls means they will at some point they will want something more serious. If he wants to comtinue to fuck younger girls he will likely have to continue to hobby or become rich or develop some serious dating skills.
To me it sounds like he should see SPs for the obvious reasons and date when he feels the urge for things that Sps can't provide with the understanding that having both a hot young girl with awesome sex and the components of a good relationship will be rare.
Then again knowing that the total package is rare might take the desperation out of the situation. If it happens great if it doesn't so what it was a long shot anyways.
As for sustainability so long as he doesn't blow his budget he's good. Also, keeps his head screwed on right and is happy with his life. No different than any other vice.... moderation and perspective.
Really boils down to what the OP wants. Dating younger girls means they will at some point they will want something more serious. If he wants to comtinue to fuck younger girls he will likely have to continue to hobby or become rich or develop some serious dating skills.
To me it sounds like he should see SPs for the obvious reasons and date when he feels the urge for things that Sps can't provide with the understanding that having both a hot young girl with awesome sex and the components of a good relationship will be rare.
Then again knowing that the total package is rare might take the desperation out of the situation. If it happens great if it doesn't so what it was a long shot anyways.
As for sustainability so long as he doesn't blow his budget he's good. Also, keeps his head screwed on right and is happy with his life. No different than any other vice.... moderation and perspective.
