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Bad date experiences

SlickRickBBD

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Thought Id share what happened on my last date. My very last date was a repeat session with an SP I hand seen in a few months. I’m gonna leave her name out as I’m not trying to hurt her business, but want to share this experience. She’s a good woman and provider.

I was actually one of her first ever clients. I saw her when she at an agency a multiple times and we always had a great time overall. This was my first time seeing her as an Indy - $600/90 min session this time. She put in absolutely no effort in her appearance when seeing me. She greeted me with her hair wet, no make up and pajamas. I asked if she just got the shower and if she wanted some more time? She said no she’s good and that we can get started. I wanted to leave then but I gave her the benefit of doubt. My mistake. The REAL GF experience I guess. I showed up with a small dessert, flowers and small gift as her bday just passed. She was appreciative and took the gift and dessert and place them in a side table. As walked into the unit and she took the flowers, said thank you and proceeded to throw them on the loveseat in the unit. She then proceed chomping away on a salad she was eating. i instantly knew I wasn’t gonna be greeted with a kiss and hug. We sat and had a very brief catch up on our lives. But she spent majority of the time talking about her upcoming 5 hour dinner date later that evening. She even had her clothes laid out on the bed for her dinner date. She continued talking about her upcoming night and how she loves and prefers these types of dates, like if I we weren’t in the middle of a date I’m paying for. I tried giving her multiple chances and sway the conversation , but she kept talking about the guy she was seeing later that night. I finally had enough. I made a lot of effort to come see her and was getting played. I asked her to stop and then express my dissatisfaction with how everything was going. We are now about 25-30mins into our date time. I politely explained to her how incredibly unprofessional and rude she was being. I broke it down to her. It was like she was oblivious at how she was acting. With a stunned look on her face, she apologized. I suggested that I leave so she can finish getting ready for her more important date.As I headed for to the door, she stopped me. She kept saying how sorry she was and asked me to stay. I told her it’s best I go. She then offered to give me back most of the donation and apologized again for everything. I can hear in voice and see in her face she realized she was in the wrong and felt bad. I told her to keep it. It was never about the money. I just wished she showed me the same respect she was showing the guys she was seeing tonight. I turned around opened the door and left.
Late that night, she sent me a few long texts again apologizing for her behaviour. She also sent me all of the donation back. She was said she didn’t realize how bad things were and how she took me for granted. She said it was a wake up call to the lengths that some clients do go through to set up these dates. She said she went on the date but felt terrible to rest of the day about how she treated me. She went on about how she felt horrible about how she treated someone who’s been good to her as client from day 1. She offered me another date free of charge. Told her I’d get back to her. I don’t know if I will take her up on her offer.

I know she’s a good provider. She has tons of great reviews on here and my previous experiences were great. I just think she just took me (and guys like me) and the effort some of us put in to make a fun date happen - for granted. I make a honest living and partake in dates that I can afford. I’d live to do longer, more glamorous dates. But I do what I can but even more so it’s a service that I’m paying for. I think some girls get caught up in the lifestyle. She’s made a serious effort to make things right so I won’t hurt her business and say who she is. But it’s experiences like this that have me a little jaded about this industry at the moment. Maybe a break is needed.

All I can say is guys, make sure you stand up for yourselves. Don’t get taken for granted because you want the date to go well or just to have sex. can’t wait to hear yall thoughts. I’m sure I’m gonna get kill by some of you guys on here lol.

Slick
 

Ginomore

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With so much attention from men she puts less effort as time goes by maybe without even noticing it.
I would give her one more chance to make it up to you if she’s worth it for you.
 

Bob11771

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They all are in it for money , if you don’t have million $$$$ in your spending account she knows she has no secure future with you she will move to second average earning guy… only winners are the guys who are filthy rich and they can play them like toys rest of us will be played by these SPs … hard put true !!
 

Bob11771

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I guess this game is not for ppl with week heart , don’t get emotionally attached and it’s easy to move on , but the problem starts when guys bring there emotions in play with SP . SPs are different breed no emotions is the best deal !! I guess lol 😂
 

Sonic Temple

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Glad she gave your money back mate - class move in the end. Can't blame any SP who is in it for the money - thats the job for them, not expecting to fall in love with a client and start a long-tern relationship nor should they - this is a alternative universe for all of us. We are in for one reason as well, keep that line very visible gents - we are in the business of paying for a service, SP are in the business of providing a service for a fee - its clear - don't expect anything more. This SP did the right thing when she didn't have to.
 

superman2006

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I have seen it over the years- too many men get emotionally attached to SPs. End of the day, It’s all business to her, Ofc she’s going to prioritize the 5hr dates. Never get too emotionally attached, I’d walked if I saw her in pjs with no makeup, plus I rarely book anything more than 1hr unless she has a min booking policy. I am there to fuck, not to find a gf or anything.
 
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Bob11771

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Easy said then done some time it’s hard not to be played into emotional game , I am into hobby for now more the 20 years ,only once and only once I let my heart vulnerable and tell you it still hurts after 6 months lol 😝 learn my lesson very very hard way !!
 

harryass

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All I can say is guys, make sure you stand up for yourselves. Don’t get taken for granted because you want the date to go well or just to have sex. can’t wait to hear yall thoughts. I’m sure I’m gonna get kill by some of you guys on here lol.

Slick
your response to the lady was right on. In the past I had the same similar experiences like you in being taken for granted by some of my regular SPs. During my early hobby days when I was more of a dummy, I made the mistake of not speaking up during the session. I agree with your advice, speak up if you're less than satisfied with your regular ladies. As many of us know, to be fair to some ladies, they are not mind readers. Communication both ways is key.

Its a wake up call for the lady too. By her reaching out to you and returning the donation, It sounds like the lady is really sorry. Imo, I think you should give her a second chance when ur ready. I get the feeling you will be more than satisfied.
 

L.R.C.33

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Your post reminds me of a girl when I first started with SP. She always made mentions of over clients who have done this and that for her. So when I asked her what more could I do other than see her twice a week. She answered " tip me ", and I answered her, so the donation is not enough, then reset the donation and we will go from there. When I called to make my appointment, she increased the donation for the same service. I declined the service and she started her rage. I hung up on her and texted her will be in touch soon. It's been 5 years.
 

stinkynuts

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Sorry to hear about your experience, OP.

I've had many terrible experiences as well. And sometimes repeating multiple times leads to worse service, as the provider becomes complacent and feels that she can get away with putting in less effort. This is because you keep coming back, no matter what.

It seems that you had some feelings/connection with her. Hence the repeats and gifts, something that one normally wouldn't do unless they really cared about the person. Also, I can sense the hurt (understandbly) that wouldn't exist if you had no feelings for her.

The sad reality is that escorts generally do not reciprocate those feelings. Your gifts, such as flowers, would be well-received and appreciated by your wife (if you have one), but not most escorts. Flowers have no practical value, and are generally thrown away and not appreciated.

$600 for 90 minutes is a lot of money, and as a repeat cllient, who just brought gifts, it would be reasonable to expect good service. The fact that she didn't dress up, casually tossed the flowers, then talked on and on about her next clients reveals the painful truth: she doesn't value you as much as you'd like. Actions reveal one's true thoughts and feelings. To her, you were not as important than the other guy that day. The real catch is the guy who booked 5 hours and presumably will pay at least $2,000.

Of course, her attitude is completely wrong. She was probably so excited and could only think about all the money she was going to make, and had to share it with someone. It was very poor judgment to share it with you.

Her actions after the event also reveals another truth: she was genuinely sorry and felt terrible for the way she acted. She refunded the money, apologized, and I believe her when she said she didn't realize how much she took you for granted, and that she couldn't enjoy her next date.

If I were you, I would give her another chance. I do think that this event should alert you to the fact that she doesn't have feelings for you, however you feel about her, and that from now on you should enjoy the sessions without any expectation of reciprocal feelings beyond that of escort and client. She viewed you as a good client who she was comfortable with, and could share her thoughts with. In a sense, it is a good thing that she is comfortable with you. However, she crossed a boundary and realized it.

Now that this boundary has been established, perhaps future sessions will be better.

I suggest you book one more session to see how it goes, and take it from there. There is nothing to be lost, really, at this point. However, it seems this lady is very special, and it would be as shame to rob yourself of any future pleasurable experiences because of what may have been a naive misjudgement on her part. Many escorts are in the position they are because they lack certain skills. Some may be on the spectrum, and lack social skills and judgement.

Whatever you do, I wish you all the best.
 

Bob11771

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That's the problem with greed and some people these days wanting, wanting and wanting. If the service prices becomes an issue with a client who's seen you 3 or more times then rebrand yourself and ask for more. I've never tipped during this hobby and did a really small gift once (under $10). If ladies are constantly seeing clients offering them more for longer dates then stop seeing clients who prefer HH or H only and state on your ad "Don't waste my time, I only seen guys for 2H or more". And those longer sessions just don't include intimacy and/or a massage of course. They like the bonding time of talking or having a meal or going out doing stuff of course. I generally don't care to pay for all that and will see other SPs. Not everyone wants to pay more for a smaller portion meal at some fancy restaurant where they made some lame artwork IMO when I can go out to another cheaper joint and get a plate full.
You sound like a strong guy ,….I did break lot of promises made to lots of SPs in last 10 years it’s karmas catching up or it’s just me emotionally weaker lol , but trust me I pray it should never happens to anyone , this hobby is not for ppl with soft hearts .. I realize that after 20 years of hobby lol 😝 time to take a break for good 👍
 

SlickRickBBD

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this was not about me catching feelings or anything like that. I haven’t seen this lady in months. I bought her the gift and flowers as I said it was her birthday a few days earlier and thought it’d be a nice gesture and congrats for going Indy. I’m not tied up emotionally with this woman any other way than being a repeat client. We’ve had really good sex and conversation. I’m not looking to date or be with her. Hell, I’m pretty sure she’s already taken. Makes no difference to me. I’m a client. I was being nice. Not in love.
Maybe it is being missed, but for me it was more about respect than anything else. If this is a service, then please treat it as such. She put no effort in seeing me whatsoever. Giving more detail, as we were about to sit and catch up, she literally told I’d have to grab a towel from the dryer when I was ready to shower. I had better overall service seeing some LL ladies way back when. She got complacent. She’s admitted it. I honestly would not have cared if 1 or 2 of these things would have happen. But if I am paying for this experience it would be cool for you to be in the somewhat moment. She understood that after I brought it to her attention. If I would have said nothing, just had sex and bounced, who knows what the next time would have been like. I show her the respect that’s asked by us as clients when we book and when we see a SP that day. All I was hoping for was the same. She learned from this and whomever sees her from here on out will hopefully never have my kind of experience I had with her.
 
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Forzafonz

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Made up story.

The only things that is missing is that the next day the girl showed up at his doorstep crying and begging him to book at least a half-hour lol
 
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stinkynuts

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Made up story.

The only things that is missing is that the next day the girl showed up at his doorstep crying and begging him to book at least a half-hour lol
I diagree. I can usually sniff out a made-up story. To me, there are just too many tells that lead me conclude this is 100% real. However, I do still think that on some level he does have feelings for her, although he denies it. I could be wrong on that, though.
 
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La la land
I show her the respect that’s asked by us as clients when we book and when we see a SP that day. All I was hoping for was the same. She learned from this and whomever sees her from here on out will hopefully never have my kind of experience I had with her.
She never learned from this lesson. And she never will. 95 % of the people never learn from anything.
Not good to give a second chance RFM.
You have to stand up for the paid service or this would not be respect to the client.

Made up story.

The only things that is missing is that the next day the girl showed up at his doorstep crying and begging him to book at least a half-hour lol
I have to agree, one of those AI or the loco poster lurking / trolling here.

Also to @SlickRickBBD to me this sounds like someone mentioned / posted, she was getting ready to dump you because she moved up to the big leagues or was bored with you, seen this type of behavior with regular people.
 
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Snapcat

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I had a 1 hour meeting, services were fulfilled, she got up to freshen up a little after which I expected her to return to bed but instead she said she had to take care of something and got dressed. I didn't object since I figured we would carry on when she returned but then her words made it obvious that once she came back she expected me to leave. It was only when she had left that I realized I had been there for only +/- 35 minutes! Remember we're supposedly paying for companionship ( this wasn't a low cost or leolist sp ) and I had seen her before.
I didn't complain when she returned but followed her cues and left. Now by this point I had been there for almost an hour but she hadn't been!
Should I go see her ever again? :unsure:
 
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stinkynuts

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I had a 1 hour meeting, services were fulfilled, she got up to freshen up a little after which I expected her to return to bed but instead she said she had to take care of something and got dressed. I didn't object since I figured we would carry on when she returned but then her words made it obvious that once she came back she expected me to leave. It was only when she had left that I realized I had been there for only +/- 35 minutes! Remember we're supposedly paying for companionship ( this wasn't a low cost or leolist sp ) and I had seen her before.
I didn't complain when she returned but followed her cues and left. Now by this point I had been there for almost an hour but she hadn't been!
Should I go see her ever again? :unsure:
Absolutely not
 

whitmore

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The provider forgets the money will not be endless. Their income is impacted by the economy like everyone else. When a recession hits the client, they have less money for this hobby. The 5 hour date may get reduced 1 or 2 hours.

Looks fad. If they want to survive in the industry, service needs to be the priority.
 
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