Being a sugardaddy???

[rockyroad]

This is a question to the women out there...
I met a young woman who I would like to have this sort of relationship with but am not really sure of the conditions. What I would like is a longterm friendship with this woman where I would see her once or twice a week for dinners,a date for business functions, travelling companion, etc. I would want it to be physical, as well. My 'friend' seems okay on these conditions- but how should I 'pay' her. I've heard of guys who will pay their rent, buy them cars,clothes, etc. and give them an allowance. would it be offensive to pay her per date or is it better to give her something standard. Would it be fair to pay her rent for her and give her $3000 a month, with the expectation that i will see her once or twice a week. Presents, trips, etc. would be part of it as well. I don't want to offend her if this isn't enough, so speak up ladies- what would you want in this sort of deal?

 

[great bear]

Goober. Fang, YYC, this is the chance you have been waiting for.

 

[zydeco]

Don't you think that she could answer these questions for you better than anyone else?

 

[great bear]

rockyroad - talk with her. All of your suggestions have been done by others, all successfully. But it differs from relationship to relationship - a lot. You'll get a ton of opinions here, none of which will matter. Talk with her.

Hey, wait one minute. SB are you suggesting that our opinions are well worthless, or just somewhat worthless?

 

[great bear]

My humble apologies, I should clarify!

Your opinions are totally worthless unless you've been a sugardaddy to this particular girl.

That being the case I can speak now with the voice of reason and clairty.

Offer her $3500.00 a month plus vacations. That's $300.00 a month more than she was getting from me.

 

[jetfuel]

Rockyroad, I am not a woman, but please listen to what i am about to say.

Unless you are a Arab Sheik I would not give "any" girl $3000 a month allowance. This will not get you respect, you will labelled a sucker.

I am sure she seems like a "nice" girl, but I would try to avoid that type of relationship. I am curious to what type of hints she has dropped your way.

Recently I was talking to a girl and she floored me with the statement " I have bills to pay and I do not know how I am going to pay them". To be honest I did contemplate helping out, but I thought otherwise.

I could give you a list of a hundred girls that would love to meet a guy like you.

 

[great bear]

What, you were seeing her too?! Where was my rent money going?

We used your rent money to furnish our other condo in Puerto Valharta. By the way we never did thank you.

 

[Body Opus]

Would it be fair to pay her rent for her and give her $3000 a month, with the expectation that i will see her once or twice a week. Presents, trips, etc. would be part of it as well. I don't want to offend her if this isn't enough, so speak up ladies- what would you want in this sort of deal?

LMAO

There's a sucker born every minute.
I can guarantee you this, the money you give her will be spent on some BADBOY her own age, and both of them laughing all the way to the bank.

 

[Violette1976]

This is my personal opinion

I was a mistress for a man for a year. It was a fun relationship, out to dinners, sex at me house, gifts and all. He even helped me out with my bedget and some financial things I needed. I would visit me once to twice a week and He would pay me once a month. He would also at times buy me gifts but that was above and beyond the monthly allowance.

If she is ok with receiving money to being with you then might suggest how she might like to have it. In gifts/ money to help her get ahead or even help her to buy a house. Or both. It all depends on both of you.

Good luck! ​

 

[Back Burner]

Unless you are a Arab Sheik I would not give "any" girl $3000 a month allowance. This will not get you respect, you will labelled a sucker.

A very smart man^

 

[jetfuel]

Rockyroad, do you expect any woman to give you a negative response to your question. They are all gone to say "lucky" gal, but in the back of there head wishing it was them.

This culture has turned into a gold diggers enviroment.

With that kinda of money you could have a harem.!!!!

Why not buy a red sports car and chase young girls.

 

[ottawasub]

Would it be fair to pay her rent for her and give her $3000 a month, with the expectation that i will see her once or twice a week. Presents, trips, etc. would be part of it as well. I don't want to offend her if this isn't enough, so speak up ladies- what would you want in this sort of deal?

"don`t want to offend her if this isn`t enough" ? Look at it this way: $3000 a month is $36000 a year, I don`t know what her rent is but let`s say another $1000 a month- that makes $48000 a year. Since you`re giving her this she`s not paying tax on it so that`s $48000 a year take-home. Your salary at a regular job would have to be at least $60000 a year to let you have that much take-home.

So basically she`s receiving a salary of about $60,000 a year to go out with you once or twice a week. Some people have to go to university for four years in order to be qualified for a job that pays that much. It`s your money and your decision but....

More important than that is the effect this could have on you emotionally. As much as you may enjoy your time with her, remember she`s there for the money. After all, the rest of her friends don`t have to pay her to go to dinner with them. The money`s first, and no matter how sweet she may think you are, you`re secondary. You may think you can handle that but it`ll be tough when she decides she doesn`t need the money anymore. Whether she decides to start a family with a regular BF or finds an even richer sugar daddy- well when she doesn`t need your money, she doesn`t need you. Any illusion you may have built up regarding a friendship between the two of you will be quickly smashed.

I`ve known a few girls who were in these types of relationships, and I`ve never heard of an instance where the girl and the sugar daddy remained friends or kept in contact after she ended it. Although, if she thinks you`re safe then she`ll probably try to arrange that one of her best girlfriends gets the "job opening".

 

[danmand]

I am in the final phase of a sugardaddy arrangement, and it is not a happy time for me, because I made the mistake of falling in love with her. I still expect us somehow to stay friends when it is over (soon).

 

[Smash]

Maybe she doesnt want you to give her anything. Maybe she jus likes being with you and cares for you regardless of your financial situation....................... yea, right

Pay her rent and take her shopping every other week and vacationing a few times a year fer starters...

 

[sarasota]

...Your salary at a regular job would have to be at least $60000 a year to let you have that much take-home.

So basically she`s receiving a salary of about $60,000 a year to go out with you once or twice a week. Some people have to go to university for four years in order to be qualified for a job that pays that much. It`s your money and your decision but.... .

If Rocky is a millionaire or billionaire, 60K ain't gonna put much of dent in his bank-roll. Sounds fun. Good luck brother.

 

[rockyroad]

Thanks to everyone you replied, your input has helped a lot and I have talked to her and I think all is well on both ends. Some might see me as a sucker for paying this woman $50k a year or whatever was estimated, but I am unmarried, too busy for a real relationship and spend nearly $2000 a month at massage parlors. i would rather see my money go to one woman who I can see longer than an hour at a time while lying on a cold massage table or to escorts who i always have felt uncomfortable seeing. I obviously don't expect her to not be involved with other people or to fall in love with me (although it would be nice).

 

[wop]

the money would be much better spent on therapy

 

[elmo]

Yeah, but you won't fuck as good as she will him so why would he pay for your therapy?

I dunno...wop's good for a little anal every now and then...

 

[Darius]

To state the obvious the adult industry thrives on men/women who feel they the need to replace a void in their lives with visiting these establishments. If you think for a second that paying someone for companionship/sex is going to bring that person closer to you, you are wrong!!

Not to be judgmental but the terbite who posted a thread stating that she is spending your money with someone else closer to her age is correct IMO.

Remember that its you who is in control and can pull the plug at any moment if you feel you are not getting a return on your investment.

 

[danmand]

To state the obvious the adult industry thrives on men/women who feel they the need to replace a void in their lives with visiting these establishments. If you think for a second that paying someone for companionship/sex is going to bring that person closer to you, you are wrong!!

Darius, your observation is painful but truthful. The reason for establishing a sugardaddy arrangement is usually, that the Daddy is somewhat smitten with the sugar (why else), and somehow is expecting or hoping for more than what is provided by the usual SP encounter.
Rockyroad says as much in his posting:"I obviously don't expect her to ... fall in love with me (although it would be nice)".
Sadly, that is not likely to occur, as I know from personal experiences, and the whole concept is in my opinion flawed.