Being a sugardaddy???

[babygurl]

I use to have a sugardaddy...

and it was the easiest money in my life. I got a credit card with an unknown limit that I could never seem to max, cash whenever I asked (in the thousands each time), vacations with him and on my own with my girlfriends, and all the clothes and accessories I could imagine. All he ever wanted was for me to be at his disposal which was not very often as he was a workaholic.

However, looking back now I realize how unhappy I really was. I am happily married now and could never go back to that life. I realized a long time ago that finding someone rich is very easy. Finding someone to make you happy is the hard part.

BTW, if you're wondering why I'm on this board, I like to check out the action for my husband. I love watching him with another girl so I like to check out what's new for him...

 

[tittilater]

I think the best way to make it not so "professional" would be to buy her presents once in a while (ask her first if she seems picky) and perhaps deposit money into her bank account maybe every week so there is no hand exchange of money because when that happens it seems too "business-like". She would feel like less of a hooker if you go with this approach.

 

[ragincharlie]

If you pay her a regular retainer, you know what's going to happen to the service, don't you? It's just like having a girlfriend who gets too comfortable and figures she doesn't have to blow you anymore. It doesnt happen all at once but slowly over time it always does.

My advice is to keep the money in front of her like a carrot - something for her to reach for. Pay her generously but not the same amount everytime. If you've had a particularly good time, leave her something extra, send her flowers or an expensive gift. Likewise if she hasn't pleased you don't leave her as much, don't call her for a week or two. She'll get the message. Most of all don't get too predictable, that's when she'll start to get complacent with you and realize that she can take advantage of you. Remember you're the sugar daddy, you're running the show, she needs you more than you need her. If you keep this in mind you'll both have a great time - and in the end, she'll still respect you.

 

[jetfuel]

Excellent point Charlie, but does he really need to get into this type of relationship. This relationship tells you what type of girl she is! Depsite having all the money in the world, men just want to be respected at the end of the day.

I say tell the girl to F.O, do some travelling (if you can) and go find a supermodel for the fraction of the cost. I also realize the M.P scene starts to get a little tired really quickly. Strip Clubs are even more pathetic.

 

[jetfuel]

But RockyRoad, we both know these words of wisdom provided by the Terbites, will not sway your decision.

I am looking for a job, do you have any openings?

 

[Violette1976]

my thought on reading this thread

Darius, your observation is painful but truthful. The reason for establishing a sugardaddy arrangement is usually, that the Daddy is somewhat smitten with the sugar (why else), and somehow is expecting or hoping for more than what is provided by the usual SP encounter.
Rockyroad says as much in his posting:"I obviously don't expect her to ... fall in love with me (although it would be nice)".
Sadly, that is not likely to occur, as I know from personal experiences, and the whole concept is in my opinion flawed.

"On this note. the part of falling in love" I have a theory on that. In my search and thought on this. which is a pretty touchy subjetct in sorts.

Do you pay a woman that much? Does the women have to do more now that she is a mistress?

There is the point that in time as they get to know each other unless they know each other already... Of course I believe there would be much much more expected of the mistress. As for love if there is a connection between them and they spend a lot of quality time together I am sure the it might happen. They would be in turn dating (money included) you never know where the mind and heart leads you.

Good luck on your endevors but for a last note. Do not let yourself be played in sorts. If you want excluvitity? or other things out the norm for an Sp be clear. and it's a little harder to know if she is being a one gal guy.

It's just a thought that came to my mind as reading this thread,