can i change my terb name
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I think you sir are on the wrong board my friend if that is your true feelings. And prostitutes? I believe the correct term is SW, SP, call girl ? Prostitutes are girls that walk down the street and ask for money and as far as I'm concerned - all the ladies on this board either provide incalls/ outcalls and don't walk the streets looking for men to have "fun" with.
I would venture to say his attempt at sarcasm was as bad as mine. Funny story when I joined this board the first time, I registered my handle as my first name and first intial of last name....ie JohnS. If I remember correctly Goober McFly changed it for me. I believe he was feeling sorry for how stupid I am/was.
I was wondering what the woman on this board found acceptable in terms of what they are called publicly on a review board. Technically, prostitution is providing sex for payment. It doesn't matter where the client and provider meet. So the woman who receive payment can be called different things including the "P" word. I like to use the term SP. On another board, posters use the worst derogatory terms which I find disgusting.
SPs take payment for time not sexual services. Any sp will tell you that. That is why some of use pics that say donations are for time and companionship only.... I personally find it disrespectful to be called the "p" "w" or "s" word.
And prostitution is the term for the criminalized act, as well as for degrading an admirable talent or ability for filthy lucre. In no way is it a positive term.
Which is not to say there are no circumstances when that word, or some of it's nastier synonyms can be used objectively and appropriately without insult being intended or taken. But like the various words for indigenous people or once-enslaved people that have come and gone from acceptance, you only get to joke using those terms with people you know well. And never to an wide audience you only think you know.
I'm keen for a name change as well, but don't particularly want to register a new account. I'd hate to lose the credibility I've earned through my whopping 30 posts
I say this with utmost respect as I truly am ignorant here, but is this for the legal protections that calling it "companionship" over "prostitution" provides you and other sex industry workers who participate in posting on this board? Or because of the offensive nature of a term that broadly suggests "payment in exchange for sex," a term derived from the Latin word "prostituere?"
I guess I'm not following you on calling out yomero5, who I feel was being sarcastic.
I mean, Im sure a lot of people here have a lot of companionship in their lives that doesn't entail payment. When it does (entail payment), that companionship tends to be, from a technical term, with a prostiute.
I imagine in your own life you provide companionship without expectation of payment. Are those encounters different from when you provide companionship in exchange for payment?
I tried to find forum rules about this, to which there is none that specify usage of the term prostitute/prostitution, and gave up quickly After noticing the sticky on this sub-forum which clearly uses the word prostiutuon in its thread title.
I don't think he meant to offend, which I think he would have been doing if he used the "w" word, which I believe means "whore" and is clearly a historically derogatory term for a prostitute.
What I'm getting at is that if a non-supportive SO or employer, or morality enforcement officer (or whoever) finds an open tab with this forum open on a my device, I don't think the "money is exchanged for companionship services only" argument is going to save me. Maybe this works if we're talking ourselves out of trouble with LE...
I mean, just because "they" call themselves Sandwich Artists doesn't mean they aren't taking orders at Subway.
I feel I'm opening myself up for some serious flaming, but once again, I don't intend to offend.
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I was being sarcastic and having some fun with the OP. Regarding the term, 'prostitute': a prostitute is a person, in particular a woman, who engages in sexual activity for payment. Whereas a street-walker is a prostitute who seeks customers in the street. Prostitute is the correct term. Other terms, like SW, SP, call girl, may also be used. The term 'prostitute' is not derogatory. It is used widely by journalists, lawyers, law enforcement and the media, in the statement of facts concerning the sex trade.
To you it is not derogatory, to every other female on this board including me it is offensive ; they are just being nice by not saying anything.
If indeed it is derogatory, then I sincerely apologize for using the term, regardless of the context.
It seems to me that perhaps changing societal attitudes towards SP's/companions/courtesans/sex industry workers may be more fruitful in the long run than simply attempting a rebranding of a worker title in an industry that holds negative connotations within a society which currently brands paying for sexual services as a negativism.
If this board is really a place for people to discuss the quality of their companionship experience, I genuinely feel I'd be reading and writing reviews primarily about non-carnal components of the interactions. Which is generally not the case.
SP is a rebranding of a term within a community (exclusively) that attempts to normalize a socially stigmatized behaviour. I can't imagine anyone here would attempt to use that acronym in an attempt to be PC anywhere but a board like this. 78% of Canadians who work, work in the service industry, or in other words are service providers. Are 78% of Canadians SP's?
I imagine some lawyers resent the derogatory nature of the word lawyer when used as a verb, as a result of the historical negative connotation of the profession within our society. Calling them a SP instead doesn't solve the problem, in that our society still has a tendency to ascribe negative connotations with the services (on occasion) they provide.
I can think of nobody better than Sisyphus to demonstrate the eternal toil I foresee in any true attempt at relabelling the world's oldest profession. If the term (the "p-word") is that aggregious to you or any others here, I feel this may be the wrong industry to choose to work/play in.
And no, I don't feel it's like transphobia towards preferred pronouns in the trans community, or the legacy of colonial racism in the Indian vs. Indigenous "debate." A transperson or an Anishinaabe person didn't choose to be trans or Indigenous. They were who they were, and someone outside of the community lacking in sensitivity chose to apply a problematic label, and that label unfortunately stuck.
I feel if you voluntarily choose to participate in these kinds of activities, as a producer or consumer (buyer vs. seller), it seems like it would then be a hypocracy to decry a label used to accurately, technically and objectively describe the actual exchange (a very specific type of service exchanged for financial compensation) used for literally 1,000's of years.
Just IMO.
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