Cheapest possible date to get laid

[Jami77]

Man the amount of money Ive spent in my life trying to get some action. And its not just dates - its nights and weekends at bars and clubs just trying to hook up or get numbers. If I could tally it up it would be a fortune.

If I could go back in a time machine I would have told myself to not bother with clubs. I think my average pulling rate was very very low. And I spent sooo much money.In gact it got so expensive I would buy a mickey of scotch and drink that before I went out just so i would have a buzz on.

And did I get anything long term out of any of those nights? No. All my long term girlfriends came from random stuff. I dated someone I met at work, someone who lived in the flat next door, someone a friend introduced me too and one I met through a classified ad back when that was cool. If I got a number from a club then the date would go to crap because we were both now sober and not into each other.

My point is if I had spent aaaaaaaallll that money on SPs and AMPs I'd have been a lot less frustrated and waaaaay richer. And happier. And all those mornings with the world spinning and vomit in bowls at the side of the bed....

So yeah thats what I would tell myself - dont worry about going out to pull. Your more likley to find some chick in the romance section of a bookshop. Or move apartments every year and hope you end up next to some cute girl you can chat with at the mailboxes. Then when you get horny go see an SP. Get a few regulars. Get a massage once in a while. But dont fret it. Life will work out better.

So I hope that answers the OPs original question cheap dates - well first you find the best girls in everyday situations. Until then if you get horny then you needs to see a professional. And my best dates once I did meet a girl were always walks in parks, picnics with a bottle of wine (girls sooo love that stuff) and the second or 3rd date I would always grab my climbing gear and find a cliff to rappel off. Climbing can be hard without experience but its always fun and pretty easy to rappel off something. And a lot safer. And the adrenalin always stirs up the strong feelings of lust.

And when you strap a girl into her harness you have to get all up and personal to make sure the straps are done up properly and nice and tight. Its all very 50 Shades of Rock Climbing

 

[xix]

While I am seeing posts about cutting down on seeing SP’s.. how about we also brainstorm good ways to have a date and possibly get laid without spending any big money!?

What did she wanna do for date 2? Drinks again AND A MOVIE… that’s $150 right there

please fill me in on some cheap ways to have a date and still get it in!!

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[Forzafonz]

Three simple rules to get laid cheaply:

1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive
3. Make sure you never break rules 1 and 2

 

[massman]

Three simple rules to get laid cheaply:

1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive
3. Make sure you never break rules 1 and 2

Sometimes it’s even more simple
1. Don’t be a dick
2. Be a non dick
3. See 1 & 2

Lol

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Sometimes it’s even more simple
1. Don’t be a dick
2. Be a non dick
3. See 1 & 2

Lol

Women like dicks.

 

[Bucktee]

Sometimes it’s even more simple
1. Don’t be a dick
2. Be a non dick
3. See 1 & 2

Lol

When you're attractive, it makes no difference, other than being a dick will get you laid even more.

It works similar in the opposite direction. Men will put up with a beautiful woman's bullshit if it means he gets to smash.

 

[IM469]

While I am seeing posts about cutting down on seeing SP’s.. how about we also brainstorm good ways to have a date and possibly get laid without spending any big money!?

I swear every woman on these dating apps wants to do drinks and some food for a first date, without fail it’s always some restaurant that wants to charge $15 for an appetizer and the rest is uphill from there

Last time I said sure to this idea for a date, the girl didn’t have “her purse” with her at the restaurant.. and after I paid for everything all I got was a kiss in the car and handjob action while we were making out and then she said we gotta wait for date 2 to go further

What did she wanna do for date 2? Drinks again AND A MOVIE… that’s $150 right there

please fill me in on some cheap ways to have a date and still get it in!!

This thread reminds me of a scene from Risky Business ...

 

[Ceiling Cat]

Jenesis. How much for a gift certificate for a fish mouth job? I want to buy one for massman.

 

[Jami77]

Yeah being a dick is actually one of the well known tricks of the pick up artist world. being a dick suggests you have options and have other women on the go which makes her interested. You are dangerous. Its social proof.

Whereas being a super nice suck up says you have no other options.

Hey it just came to me - having other options can simply be an SP or AMP. Right? It basically means I can get laid anytime i want so if you give me attitude Im gone. And if I suspect Im not getting laid tonight. Then lets cut it short cos the AMP closes in a few hours

Man I gotta invent that time machine and go see my younger self. Bill and ted got it all wrong. No way would I have gone back to see historiacl figures. id be hanging out with my horny 13 year old self...

Oh and one final things for now - I remember the few times i did pull in a club it was usually because I was hanging out with some female friends from work - I used to work in the medical field and started hanging out with a bunch of nurses - they were not into me. Always after doctors so I had no chance...but they used to let me go out with them to the clubs and just hanging with them gave me instant street cred with other random bar girls... Social proof is big.

In fact they would often point out girls in a club and say "go get that girl in the red dress" and I would use that as my line... "hey Im hanging out with my friends" point back to the group of giggling nurses... " and they think you and me would be good together. But they said you were out of my league. So to prove them wrong do you want to dance?"

Worked like a charm every time....

Man this reminiscing is tough. Now I'm married and.... well I'm on here so you know how thats going...

Me to 13 yr old self "Dude yes its a time machine. And one thing. Dont get married. Just use massage parlours and the romance section of Indigo... seriously... yes its right next to the World of warcraft section... now go...."

 

[LP191]

Well last night went well, met a girl off the dating apps and we have chatted for a week and decided to hangout by the beach and have a coffee together, the coffees were $4.75 for both and after we started making out I convinced her to go for a drive with me somewhere more discrete and fucked in the back seat

not the most attractive woman I’ve ever met but felt good nonetheless

 

[superman2006]

Well last night went well, met a girl off the dating apps and we have chatted for a week and decided to hangout by the beach and have a coffee together, the coffees were $4.75 for both and after we started making out I convinced her to go for a drive with me somewhere more discrete and fucked in the back seat

not the most attractive woman I’ve ever met but felt good nonetheless

Nicely done

 

[Maxxx17]

I understand your pain, buddy. Nowadays, such dates can really cost a lot of money, especially if there is no guarantee that the evening will end in mutual pleasure.

One way out I've found for myself is to chat with an AI girlfriend at https://golove.ai/. There you can relax, flirt, get attention and even some intimate dynamics without the expense of cocktails and movies. Of course, it won't replace live socializing, but it's a great alternative, especially when you just want to be heard and feel the contact without the stress and expense.

And if you still want real meetings - maybe you should offer something simpler and more informal right away? A walk, coffee, board games. The main thing is the atmosphere, not a restaurant with golden forks.

 

[Jenesis]

The one's who don't wanna meet up for something small like a coffee or drink and prefer a dinner you can take them to a generic chain restaurant at least twice then hopefully by the third hangout there's some mutual pleasure otherwise you're spending too much for a fuck. And if they can't host cause they live with others then it's either vehicle, your place or some hotel and the last of course adds up. And the ones you do meet and get pleasure it shouldn't be a hassle seeing them again for the same with the odd times going out here or there than daily. Even a pizza meal while hanging inside and watching tv goes a long way. If I'm seeing some FWB or just dates I won't do a whole lot until a few months later such as road trips to places. Anyone expecting things like that the first few weeks can get annoying with demands.

First dates should be coffee or drinks. No food. In my opinion. This is strictly for conversation to get to know each other. You don't need a meal for that. Personally I would go Dutch on this.

Second date should be something fun and/or unique. Anything from pool, to bowling to a trip to the zoo or mesuem, the aquarium, picnic, driving range, etc. You get the idea. An activity of some sort that allows for fun, interest and conversation. I would also go Dutch on this.

Third date can be dinner at a typical box chain restaurant. I would also go Dutch but wouldn't fight if he insisted on paying.

None of these means you are getting laid. That all depends on you and the vibe. Not the money spent.

 

[Jenesis]

I agree and even if she doesn't pay her half those 3 dates are fairly cheap. But if he's dating women who are spending over $100 for meal dates which includes whatever drinks she orders often and wants more on top of that later on for him it's adding up. Maybe it's not as pricey as a high end escort, but I'm sure he can figure out the simple math if the dates are worth it for the time/money compared to going back to a SP. I've also dated low key ladies who don't want a lot compared to those who do so for him to find some like that like he already mentioned now seems fine. I personally got no issue forking over funds for dates and being a gentleman, but I also don't enjoy going to fancy restaurants or places too often which some do want. Overall he seems to be looking for something perhaps short term where two people are typically introverts and enjoy being indoors than always out and about. As for getting laid it heavily depends on her sex drive and mood of course along with the vibe. He seems to be figuring it out and weeding out the one's who aren't cheap.

We all gotta screen. In escorting, in dating. It is just a matter of how well you do it. The better you are at screening, the more money in your pocket and the less hassle you have to deal with. At least in my experience.

 

[MuffDiver]

the amount of women in their 30’s 40’s living at home with their parents is fucking staggering

They're the ones that use terms like gifts, generosity, provider, shopping, intentional, real man, traditional woman, etc. . I'm sure I missed some. Some are still waiting for their whale with a money tree.

 

[Jami77]

I'm taking notes. 1. Be a dick 2. Be dangerous. So if she denies me I'll whip out my phone and browse LL and tell her I got options. I'd assume most of these ladies already know how dangerous LL can be based on some of the news feeds right?

Does the same apply to married life?

Husband: we fucking tonight or what???
Wife: fuck no
Husband: alright where's my phone I'll check LL
Wife: what's that???
Husband: a site to get fucked
Wife: alright my legs are open

Ha ha I wish it worked like that. More like there's the couch and your gonna need a lawyer!

In reality it'd be

Husband: we fucking tonight or what???
Wife: fuck no
Husband: alright Im gonna watch TV then. Fuck you.
Wife: what's???
Husband: ignoring wife
Wife: hmph - storms off
Husband Following day: Hey Im gonna be late home tonight. I think I pulled my back. Gonna stop in at the "chiropracter"

 

[Jami77]

If it were me these would be my going for a cheap date ideas...
- Picnic on a warm evening on a patch of grass where you can see the sunset.
- Bar with outdoor patio - couple of drinks and share a plate of fries.... meet late 7-8pm so its kind of a given that you'd have eaten before you go out...
- Museum exhibit... not the standard ROM experience - see if theres something new on...
- CN Tower - yes expensive but its different and instead of drinks just grab an ice cream.

Running out of ideas for Toronto... But if this was Europe...
- A walk down any downtown riverfront or canal grabbing an ice cream. IF and only if you hit it off can end in a bar.

Note: Ive read tons of pick up artist stuff and they say that women often need around 7 hours over 2-3 dates before they are likely to put out. But 3 dates can happen in 1 night. Pick up artists will switch venues often so its... Meet for coffee... continue to a bar.... sit in a park watching the world go by.... go to a restaurant.... walk by the canal.... Thats 5 dates. In a womans mind she has experieced 5 events and so feels like she knows you that much better. Basically dont spend more than 1 round of drinks in any one venue before moving on.

 

[Jenesis]

the amount of women in their 30’s 40’s living at home with their parents is fucking staggering

Same can be said for men. Just sayin'

 

[Ahri]

Maybe I am just a cheap date I gave it up to some guy on tinder after some bubble tea

This is before I started working as a SP LOL

 

[Forzafonz]

Maybe I am just a cheap date I gave it up to some guy on tinder after some bubble tea

Two options i see here:
1. He was attractive
2. It was Gold Foil Brown Sugar Boba Milk Tea