We have a 25yr (good looking), old mentally challenged dude on our street. He is just very slow due to a birth defect, great guy but very shy and his birthday is coming up....so the neighbors got to thinking that we should all chip in and get him laid as there is not a chance in hell he can get it otherwise. His Dad is against it but what he don't know won't hurt him. What do you Guy's think? This Guy is not physically challenged in any way...just really slow mentally and his life span may be short so I figure we should get er done! Any thoughts?
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Not looking for sympathy(unless it's for me) This Guy has a job at crappy tire, has a boat and helps out everyone on the street, he visits me every day, looks at ya and say's nothing...just stares....he has a license to smoke...that could be it! Great Guy, just can't believe he's a 25yr old virgin.
I have to agree. He may be a nice guy but this idea could subject him to emotional turmoil he's not equipped to handle.
I would think his father knows him best. Abide by his wishes.
As stated, don't do it.
If the father finds out, I'm sure he will given his son's state, you could find yourself in for some legal troubles. Besides that, it just isn't right, morally or ethically.
I hear what you're saying and it's a tough decision, but if his father doesn't think it would be a good idea, then you have to respect the old man as knowing his son better than anyone.
And to be honest, you are not the person who should be making these decisions.
And to be honest, you are not the person who should be making these decisions.
I know of a young man who was functional but slow to say the least. Someone against others good advice brought him to Caddy's where he saw titty for the first time. It took years for the family to get him banned from going...literally, banned. Every chance, every dollar, every free minute this guy had, he would head to Caddy's. The family threatened legal action, got the police involved and thankfully this kid hasn't discovered the other fun things to do out there.
It brought a lot of misery and embarassment to them. He was taken advantage of and became addicted to something that may be harmless to us but detrimental to him.
It brought a lot of misery and embarassment to them. He was taken advantage of and became addicted to something that may be harmless to us but detrimental to him.
If it was that easy I'd be riding the short bus and bouncing a red ball in my underoos everyday...even at 40...freebies...lmao.
To you this may be a one-time event of no more consequence than the few bucks you contribute, but that's actully callous and unfeeling and not at all the generous thing you imagine. Why? Because you aren't looking at it from his point of view. Sex is a big deal; we have have thousands of years of history telling us that with laws, customs, ceremonies, and all the other stuff from love comics to custody battles, to wife batterings and honour killings. And it's highly addictive.
Most of us are fortunate enough to encounter it and stumble through the process of getting sorting it out—if anyone ever does—when we're doing nothing much else but stumbling everywhere. And most of us need no more help with all that than our family and friends. And one way or another we rely on that sorting-out help for the rest of our practising lives, whether from wingmen, the Men's Clinic or divorce lawyers, or our wives, sweethearts and the wonderful women of this hobby.
This guy is different; the only responsible thing is to leave that whole matter to those who are willing and committed to the ongoing involvement and care he needs and which such an event introduces into everyone's life. If ever there was a case to be made for 'saving it for your spouse' it would be a situation like this.
On the other hand, if you're saying you and your well-intentioned buds are always gonna be there for him, like his wife or his support workers … . Or, to raise the horrible image, to get him a lawyer when he proves he misunderstood how sex works.
Most of us are fortunate enough to encounter it and stumble through the process of getting sorting it out—if anyone ever does—when we're doing nothing much else but stumbling everywhere. And most of us need no more help with all that than our family and friends. And one way or another we rely on that sorting-out help for the rest of our practising lives, whether from wingmen, the Men's Clinic or divorce lawyers, or our wives, sweethearts and the wonderful women of this hobby.
This guy is different; the only responsible thing is to leave that whole matter to those who are willing and committed to the ongoing involvement and care he needs and which such an event introduces into everyone's life. If ever there was a case to be made for 'saving it for your spouse' it would be a situation like this.
On the other hand, if you're saying you and your well-intentioned buds are always gonna be there for him, like his wife or his support workers … . Or, to raise the horrible image, to get him a lawyer when he proves he misunderstood how sex works.
The long-term negative consequences, in my opinion, far outweighs the few minutes of sex. Don't do it.
Good call. Brownies are a better idea. I think the whole idea is actually, abusive. You would have been making an important adult decision for another adult, which you don't have the right to do. His impairment does not preclude him from being an adult with all rights and privileges. I know you didn't mean it this way, but to have done what you were considering would have been pejorative.
What everyone else has said, perhaps kind hearted but misguided, and particularly going against the wishes of his father.
