Dating is so fucked

[Pum-Pum Stabba]

I thought most women shave there bush these days?

There are still a lot of rainforests out there despite the rising effects of global warming!

:rofl:

 

[milehigh]

Sorry, didn't check this thread for a while so I thought it was going no where. Anyway to answer your questions - I met this lady in the parking lot of a mall. The particular place she had to go to was shut down and moved to another location. She told me she is a not a great driver ... doesn't go on the hiway and is kind of lost in the city. I tried to explain the new location, but she wasn't getting it. So I said, tell you what - just follow me I can lead you to the right spot. Fine we get there, she says thank you. Then she says I am really nice and she is busy now, but could we go for a coffee sometime. So I give her my number. And it was not my hobby phone number. I don't hear from her for a month, then she suddenly contacts me and says she just wanted to check me out, but she knew so much about me... about the only thing she didn't was Terb. When I helped her out, I had work stuff with me and she saw where I worked. Well OK we do go for our coffee, and says she wants to go on second date. That's Ok. I thought she was just checking me out to be safe or something. Next though she phones my boss and asks if I can contact her, because I was very nice and I really helped out. I say to my boss, that was kind of odd. He said... "Oh don't worry, she's a really nice lady."

Well she does want a second date. Thank God on the first one no sex was involved. Kind of warmed her up and probably could have gone that way, but so many TERB advisors gave me shit for sex on the first date in the past that I restrained. Attaches civilians or something like that.

Anyway there are all your dirty details. I will go on a second date.... just because I am curious about all this. This lady is cute, she's really nice.... but yet there is something odd... there is checking out, and then there is checking out. AND PHONING MY BOSS!

But bottom line here. Feel odd dating, and after that almost relationship I had for a year that I pulled the plug on (great date - but NOT"the one" - and that's what she wanted).

Been seeing escorts so long now that dating feels really weird. Maybe it is just that I get "different" girls that want to hook up with me.

Maybe the only thing that will work me is to date a retired escort.

Anyway moral of this story - seeing escorts is so stress free.

 

[nobody123]

Anyway moral of this story - seeing escorts is so stress free.

Ahhh, but that's half the fun. Go, flap yer wee wings and fly my man, flyyyyy! See the civies. Date, damn you, date!! Enjoy the nerves, occasional pleasant surprises, disappointments, and uncertainty whether she's suddenly going to get all Glenn-Close-Fatal-Attractions on your ass. Do it for those of us who are too shy, too married, or too ugly (or the trifecta!) to do it for ourselves.

 

[Serpent]

Buddy, if a guy did to a girl the way she went Dick Tracey on your ass, the guy would be getting reamed everywhere for being a creep and a stalker.

Even potential employers don't call your boss without your permission for a reference check, this is bizarre.

Be wary. Even the most cautious of people do not call up a potential partner's boss.

 

[SillyGirl]

Buddy, if a guy did to a girl the way she went Dick Tracey on your ass, the guy would be getting reamed everywhere for being a creep and a stalker.

Even potential employers don't call your boss without your permission for a reference check, this is bizarre.

Be wary. Even the most cautious of people do not call up a potential partner's boss.

I agree. Calling your boss is a huge red flag. If she thinks that's ok at this point, what will she think is ok after she's seen you again...calling your mom?

I might google a guy before I go out with him just to make sure he doesn't come up on a sex-offender list, but no way would I ever even consider calling his boss. She has "psycho stalker" written all over her.

 

[fuji]

If anyone ever called my boss to check on me that would end the relationship. If my wife ever did that, we would at least separate for awhile.

I don't need people fucking up my workplace with their personal issues.

Maybe if your partner is a fry cook at McDonald's, but in a real job controlling your image with your boss is a big deal.

 

[milehigh]

I have to confess, the main reason why I am going on the second date is to ask why she called my boss - and I want to see the squirm with all the body language.


I guess there are ways to get personal info, and she got so much on me, I'm surprised TERB didn't come up!

To top it off, this woman is fairly professional, and should know better.

Oh boy. A have a very close friend who is an escort, and she tells me all civilian dates end in drama - she doesn't do them. I'm getting the same conviction.

 

[Questor]

Anyway there are all your dirty details. I will go on a second date.... just because I am curious about all this. This lady is cute, she's really nice.... but yet there is something odd... there is checking out, and then there is checking out. AND PHONING MY BOSS!

But bottom line here. Feel odd dating, and after that almost relationship I had for a year that I pulled the plug on (great date - but NOT"the one" - and that's what she wanted).

Been seeing escorts so long now that dating feels really weird. Maybe it is just that I get "different" girls that want to hook up with me.

Maybe the only thing that will work me is to date a retired escort.

Anyway moral of this story - seeing escorts is so stress free.

Well, this girl is definitely strange. As others have pointed out, there are at least a couple of bright red flags the way she has acted. I would proceed with extreme caution. And only then if she seems to have a bunch of other stuff going for her i.e. she seems interesting and you are attracted to her.

Tell you what to do. Give me her phone number. I will call her, set up a coffee date with her and check her out for you. See how well she takes to that idea.

I agree. Calling your boss is a huge red flag. If she thinks that's ok at this point, what will she think is ok after she's seen you again...calling your mom?

I might google a guy before I go out with him just to make sure he doesn't come up on a sex-offender list, but no way would I ever even consider calling his boss. She has "psycho stalker" written all over her.

Very good points. Her behaviour is indeed strange.

This girl is ridiculous. YOU should know better. What do you have to gain exactly from making her squirm by confronting her? In effect you are creating the drama.

Yes, the OP is setting up the drama in this case if he is just going on second date to confront and make her squirm. He shouldn't bother if that is the only reason or the main reason for second date.

 

[fuji]

He is going on a second date because she is hot and he wants to fuck her. Same reason why she gets away with doing this, because she can. The resulting drama well be all his fault, by application of the "fool me twice" rule.

I disagree that all civilian dates end in drama. Most don't. But this one sure seems likely to!

 

[red]

He is going on a second date because she is hot and he wants to fuck her. Same reason why she gets away with doing this, because she can. The resulting drama well be all his fault, by application of the "fool me twice" rule.

I disagree that all civilian dates end in drama. Most don't. But this one sure seems likely to!

he should at least get some sex out of this

 

[milehigh]

I guess after thinking it over, I should not go on a second date. I was really interested to find out her reasoning. Curious more than anything. I do realize after thinking it over, that is not a wise thing to do.

Thanks for that advice. Better time with no residual effects seeing an SP, so that is what I will will do.

AGAIN. God I give up on civilians.

I really do appreciate everyone's advice, though, because this situation was unique.

So thanks everyone. Holy smokes, at my age I still need girl advice!