Delicate Subject...

[movzzz]

I have a little xenophobe in me. All people general do. It is hard to break away from these views that have been ingrained by the actions of family, effects of media or whatever events that shaped the individual. The hypersensitivity to the issue is what perpetuates the issue. It is challenging to break these notions. People who are well traveled and are educated have better grasp with making these disinctions. So it is quite telling when you see those posts. It is up to the individual if they want to delve into that branch of humanity.

I know white people who are the most "niggerish" people in North America and on the other hand there are black/indian/asian people I know who are so austere and conservative that I actively avoid them. I never judge a book by its cover. Everyone is given their due respect until you open your mouth (or type some trash) and remove all entitlement.

 

[curious68]

This topic again? lol Well at least OP articulated his thoughts in full sentences this time. I hope you quote that guy's post in each subsequent thread about how people think it's improper business practice for a girl to choose who she fucks! I don't think this is a delicate subject at all - it's just absurd to think that there might actually be a valid argument as to why a girl should serve her body to anyone other than who she wants to entertain.

Well said could not agree more.

 

[mrcheeks]

This seems to be a topic that has been regularly discussed in many other threads.

My experience as a Black male is that I don't contact SPs who say "No Blacks" or "Caucasians preferred" in their ad/website because I'd know that they wouldn't want to see me. However some SPs are not so clear about their preferences in what can seem to be an inviting advertisement. Even still I find that when I think it would be a problem I would ask if they were OK with seeing me/Blacks and it wouldn't end up being a problem at all. However there are times when I think it wouldn't be a problem (with the inviting advertisement) when I call them up and they inform me that they don't see Blacks when they hear my voice.

I find that my preferred SP contacting method is email (if available) in order to approach this topic. Within my email I would also attach a pic (I mostly have suit pics) and would say something like "I hope I am to your liking". If the SP responds to set up an appointment then you'd know that everything is OK. There have been some instances where I didn't get a response and I used it as my hint to move on.

This topic has been and will be discussed many times. I conform with the standard that it is an SP's right to be selective about who she sees. However if the SP seems to think that she isn't busy enough at a certain time then she shouldn't complain. She could end up screening out guys who could be good customers of hers.

 

[Conway_Stewart]

This topic was discussed here previously:

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?399069-No-Coloured-Man

 

[genintoronto]

I don't see men under a certain age. Why? Because as a general rule, guys under a certain age lack the qualities I'm looking for in a client, and display some that I don't care to deal with. I also prefer to keep my hooking life in the closet, and the chances of meeting someone I know in my civilian life are higher with guys under a certain age. Of course, there are plenty of exceptions to those rules, and I've certainly refused to see some younger guys who would have been ideal clients. But why take the increased chance of spending time with someone who is not the kind of client I like spending time with, or someone who may blow up my cover, if I don't have to?

I also prefer not to see single women as clients. Mostly because past experiences haven't been very good. Not unlike guys under 35, they lack the qualities I'm looking for in a client, and display some attitude or expectations I don't care to deal with in my business. Maybe I've just been unlucky, and the very few women clients I've seen were all exceptions to the rule. It's quite possible. But why go out of my way to entertain them if I can do very well without it? I'm perfectly happy to fuck them in my civilian life, and I'm always happy to do a duo with a friend. But as clients? Nope.

People don't tend to question my right/choice to only cater to one gender, or to a specific age group. I also can't remember people bitching about the fact that some SP refuse to play gay-for-pay, whether it be with another SP, or with a couple. I wonder why some people go straight into human rights territory when it comes to SP making similar choices based on racialized/ethnic groups.

Don't get me wrong. I am certain that for some, the reason why they refuse to see guys of a certain race/ethnic background boils down to racism. But I also suspect that for many escorts, their rationale for not seeing people of a certain race/ethnic background is similar to mine for not seeing guys under 35 or not seeing single women. A few bad experiences, more chances of being outed, or simply a pattern among people of a certain social group which they don't care to deal with in their business.

 

[Conway_Stewart]

...

To your question Aardvark as to what was my question...I clearly agreed that an SP can choose based on race (and anything else for that matter)...my question was more should she...Should we consider that practice ok (not sure whom "we" is in that sentence).

I don't see it as being ok for SP's to racially discriminate. I realize that they obviously can do this...But, do I think they should do it?

No...I find it difficult to respect any person who behaves this way. I believe that racism is wrong.

 

[Rockslinger]

I also prefer not to see single women as clients. Mostly because past experiences haven't been very good.

I think women tend to be harder on other women than on men. Seen it in the workplace. maybe they view other women as competitors.