Did She Just Experience What I Did?

[Samranchoi]

I have met quite a lot of women over the years and my experiences range from truly horrible to Holy Sh!$, that was the best experience I have ever had, ever! From the moment I leave, I am already thinking of our next appointment and thinking of how much better it is going to be since we now know each other. Of my very best first experiences, I would say that second appointments were very similar or not as good as the first appointment while a handful were truly mind blowing. Have you ever wondered if the woman you have had a great first session with thinks the same thing of you and hopes that you see her again. If you sense a strong positive vibe from her, do you ask her for her phone number or other personal info. What types of things does she do to make you think that she truly likes you and it is not just an act.

I know that many women in the business try not to get emotionally attached to a client but it can happen, although not as much as guys who become physically and emotionally attached to the woman. This is not about having great sex but rather, a perceived true connection by one or better yet, both parties. And for those that seeing an SP is solely a business transaction, I can assure you from my own personal experiences, from what I have heard from numerous women and guys via PM's, relationships outside of the provider/client experience can start with some leading to marriage. Or it can be solely a friendship based upon a genuine fondness for each other.

 

[spraggamuffin]

I've heard it said that when you have sex with someone you form a spiritual connection with that person.

This article goes beyond and is exciting to read on the topic at hand.

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[Robert Mugabe]

she sounds like a pro. it's called being a service provider

 

[massman]

Ive been able to establish a great connection with a few women on the first visit. I believe they genuinely enjoyed spending time with me and the encounter definite felt not like “just business”. The physical stuff was extra passionate and our conversations more intimate than usual. Now you must also realize that this is miles away from her wanting to be friends, or more. I only have met one woman who we discussed getting together “outside of work” and i didn’t partake. I think you absolutely must be sure she wants more before you go asking for personal numbers etc.

Otherwise enjoy what i consider the “true meaning of gfe”. An encounter that leaves you completely satisfied, and one in
Which during, you forget it’s a paid one.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

What types of things does she do to make you think that she truly likes you and it is not just an act.

Oh, I dunno. the whole not asking for money thing.

 

[wickman12]

It's no different from girls in the real world. You ask them to go out outside of work and they say no in some fashion, not giving u a maybe or even a 'perhaps another day and time may work', the answer is a pretty clear 'not interested'.

Even if they give u their number, and u msg them, the time it takes for them to msg u back is an indicator of whether they actually like u beyond work or not. Sure they may msg u back from time to time because they want to maintain a relationship for work purposes, but if it's personal for them, they're no different from normal ppl. Long delays between msgs is a good sign they're not into u in that way. Also consider how they respond back to u, if they just strictly answer your questions and don't so much engage you, another bad sign.

As Mugabe said, they're professionals and give u that illusion that they're into u. Of course they're gonna say they had a great time and want to see u again if they want your business. Would u go back to them if they said, 'no I had a shitty time'. As per my personal and business motto in life, don't get too attached to the outcome or you will be disappointed.

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

SPs love me once I've made them cum.

 

[sempel]

Because there's money involved, it will always be difficult to know whether a provider really likes you, really enjoys your company, really enjoys the activity, and if there's a real connection OR it's all an act designed to make you happy and repeat. I think there's a number of providers that have the ability to pick and choose their clients and are able to decline a repeat appointment if they didn't like the individual. OTOH, there are a number of ladies who aren't in this position and for sure have a few regulars who they tolerate or continue to see despite really not wanting to. If you are dealing with the first type of provider and she asks to see you again, clearly the connection is more real versus the second provider, who is only wanting the repeat appointments purely for the financial gain. But I doubt most guys know what position the provider they are seeing is in.

Have I seen a few ladies who I really liked - for sure. Have I gotten numbers from a couple - yes. But did I feel there was any real possibility of seeing them outside business hours? No. If they asked, even if it was just to hang out, I'd be open to it as I'm sure some other guys would be. Do I want to ask and risk the possibility of rejection? No. But when you meet someone and there is that chemistry, that mutual attraction that's clear (assuming she's genuinely attracted), of course you hope that she's really into you and perhaps she is. Will that grow into anything more is the question or is it just the making of a great client/provider relationship.

I think I'm like most guys in that I'm pretty self-conscious about my looks. I'm definitely not winning any contests. So, I rely on other qualities to make a lady comfortable with me with the hope that she'll like me and connect with me on some level. I may not be the absolute best client but quite a few ladies will state they feel extremely comfortable with me and enjoy spending time with me - why? Because whenever I'm with a lady, I treat her the way she deserves to be treated - with respect. Regardless of some of the BS I post on Terb, if you want to have a fun conversation with someone about anything, I'm great at speaking AND listening. I'm relaxed, crack a few jokes, never forceful/demanding, complimentary, focused, and I make it clear that my pleasure and happiness is dependent on hers - if she has a good/great time, I'm having a good/great time.

 

[james t kirk]

Lord give me strength. Another "I'm in love with an SP thread" .

Try telling her how much of a "special connection" you feel and that you can tell she feels the same way.

Then tell her that you think that it should not involve money, because after all, it is a "spiritual connection".

Let us know how that works out for you.

 

[mclarkez1980]

The best I hope for, if we repeat, is that she looks forward to our dates and enjoys our time together. Listening, laughing, treating her right, reciprocating pleasure, and even spoiling her a bit goes a long way. I've had some amazing long term companions and i would like to think this is why. Epecially when she is winding down her sp career and only sees regulars. Overthinkng things beyond the client/sp relationship can be an effort in futility

 

[wangbang]

No but she did figure out what she was making her kids for their school lunch tomorrow. izza:

 

[malata]

tough question, can i call a friend

 

[Born2Star]

Lord give me strength. Another "I'm in love with an SP thread" .

Hey we haven’t had one for a while.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

Lord give me strength. Another "I'm in love with an SP thread" .

Try telling her how much of a "special connection" you feel and that you can tell she feels the same way.

Then tell her that you think that it should not involve money, because after all, it is a "spiritual connection".

Let us know how that works out for you.

I am sorry but I do not agree with this. At least not with your negative spin on the boundary of the paid transaction.

I personally use this industry as my form of safe dating. I get to have all the good, none of the bad and the fee for my time is a boundary put on the relationship to ensure that it does not go further emotionally. Not because I don't feel but because I do. I would think the same is said for my clients. They have wives, and lives outside of me. None of us want to run the risk of emotions taking over our proper senses which can happen easily in affiars, FWB sitations, etc.

Having said all that, I am not an idiot. Clearly, most are not in this for the same reasons I am, but I decide which clients I will take based on a scale of whether I would go on a personal date with them. Just because money is involved doesn't mean emotions are not. The money just ensures no one fucks up their life because they get enthralled with each other.

I hope that made sense, I am not running on enough coffee yet this morning so be gentle with me. :wink:

 

[Annalise Lane]

This is my reason as well. I wonder if how we think is because we are older. That we have had committed relationships and decided that this type of relationship works best for us ? Maybe the younger gals have yet to ______ (insert any word you'd like)

It is food for thought.

I am sorry but I do not agree with this. At least not with your negative spin on the boundary of the paid transaction.

I personally use this industry as my form of safe dating. I get to have all the good, none of the bad and the fee for my time is a boundary put on the relationship to ensure that it does not go further emotionally. Not because I don't feel but because I do. I would think the same is said for my clients. They have wives, and lives outside of me. None of us want to run the risk of emotions taking over our proper senses which can happen easily in affiars, FWB sitations, etc.

Having said all that, I am not an idiot. Clearly, most are not in this for the same reasons I am, but I decide which clients I will take based on a scale of whether I would go on a personal date with them. Just because money is involved doesn't mean emotions are not. The money just ensures no one fucks up their life because they get enthralled with each other.

I hope that made sense, I am not running on enough coffee yet this morning so be gentle with me. :wink:

 

[Jasmine Raine]

This is my reason as well. I wonder if how we think is because we are older. That we have had committed relationships and decided that this type of relationship works best for us ? Maybe the younger gals have yet to ______ (insert any word you'd like)

It is food for thought.

Totally agree. I think being older and having possibly more expereince in the committed dating world, we have found what works for us.

If you really think about, we are no different then men who want to see escorts for the fun and to leave the drama of relationships out of the equation. We just happen to be on the paid side of the transcation. Lucky us.

 

[black booty lover]

We just happen to be on the paid side of the transcation. Lucky us.

The title of this thread is "Did She Just Experience What I Did?"


I can't see how this is possible when one of the two participants gets a large sum of money after the encounter even if the sexual chemistry is equal. The fact your getting paid to have this great time has give a bit of extra euphoria...lol.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

Yeah even though the title of this thread is a little messed up it’s actually quite simple.

If you made her dripping wet she enjoyed it.

If she invites you over her place and does something special like makes dinner she digs you.

There is nothing wrong with forming connections with work associates/clients/service providers regardless of the industry, however some people put a stigma because of other influences.

People are emotional beings and will form connections despite the situation or stigma associated with it.

I say just enjoy the moment and fuck what the rest have to say. Sometimes these things last only a session and sometimes they evolve over a lifetime.

 

[sempel]

As Jessica says, "the fee for my time is the boundary". Gentlemen, please read this very carefully, and understand that there is nothing between the two of you beyond what is happening during the session. Also know that this is the beauty of the situation; you are paying her fee in part to protect yourself from misunderstanding what is going on. She is not your girlfriend, which is also why it's perfectly fine for married men to see professional ladies. So have fun, make her dripping wet, then forget it and get back to your ordinary life...thanks to men and women of good sense, like James Kirk and Jessica who have written intelligently on this subject!

Given that some clients have dated and/or ended up in long term relationships with providers, it's not entirely out of the realm of possibility. That said, one should not expect this to be the norm going in and mistake the lady's intent as anything more than what it is. In say 99% of cases, there is nothing there.

 

[black booty lover]

No, Sempel, not quite. They SAID they wound up in such relationships. Not the same thing! I have had companionable friendships (well, "acquaintanceships", perhaps), but the clothes never came off when not in the room. I very much doubt this "I married a hot SP" bullshit. Sorry, but I am a realist.

There are absolutely situations where lines between sex worker/client have been crossed. Weather it's strippers, escorts, etc. Does it happen often? No. As sempel said, the percentage is pretty low, but you gotta be kind of naïve to think it never happens.