Do you agree it is the females job to make the signal of interest - then it is your job to move in (or not ) poll

[Big Rig]

i find a lot of hot women are careful not to display interest in anything other than a simple conversation
as they have learned they are hot and guys try to pick them up so they are cautious in their signals

You may see this as conceit on their part but consider thier postion of guys trying trying to make a move
when they are not interested so they are defensive in their signals so just play along and display no intent on your part


I would assume this is universal among all cultures so I voted yes

 

[angrymime666]

You have probably seen a lot of young people are resorting to on-line matchmaking sites. The problem there is in the absence of any other personal connection 80% of the women are attracted to 20% of the men. I guess you can call it a harem effect. Great for 20% of the men. It sucks for most everyone else.



Good for you. You might have a new friend. Hopefully, you are attracted to her on some level.

I find having women as friend always an uneven expenditure of value. It's very rare that it's beneficial to me as they are not really interesting since our interests are no where near close. Usually it listening to their problems and rambling on about their lives. As for the coffee date it will be entertainment and get me out or something to put my penis in.

 

[angrymime666]

I once had a very attractive woman who I was joking around with sit in my lap and put her arms around me for more than a few minutes. My colleagues were there. It wasn't a bar, restaurant or strip club. I assure you know tip was at stake.

I thought I have this in the bag. When I asked her out, she wasn't surprised. She just gave the almost pat answer "I'm sorry. I have a boyfriend".

My friends were in complete shock when I told them her response. I was more retrospective. She was simply a hot woman who liked the attention of men.

Nailed it on the head. It's a game.

 

[WyattEarp]

I find having women as friend always an uneven expenditure of value. It's very rare that it's beneficial to me as they are not really interesting since our interests are no where near close. Usually it listening to their problems and rambling on about their lives. As for the coffee date it will be entertainment and get me out or something to put my penis in.

At a certain age, female friends can be quite rewarding in getting invited to group gatherings and expanding social networks. This is a mutual interest being a young person living in a big city. You want to know more people whether they be guys to hang out with, other women to date and generally young professionals in professions clustered in cities.

The key here is don't get into lopsided relationships with attractive women where you take them to paid events, always lassoed into helping them with things, etc. and get nothing back in return. These women are used to having everyone kiss their pretty hineys since puberty. At the very least, if you take them to an event where colleagues or friends are present they should look great and have polish.

Anecdote alert: I even had a pretty friend ask me do you want me to wear something that tastefully shows off my legs. She deliberately spoke with the head of the company and got us invited to sit next to him and his wife at his table. They loved her. She knew she could be helpful.

 

[pecker2009]

Casted not always. Just seems fair.

 

[SexB]

Years back, I was at a showcase one of the alt-weeklies put on at the Phoenix during one of the music festivals, I can't remember if it was Canadian Music Week or North by Northeast.

I was leaning on one of the tables they have near the stage and a woman approached me asking me if she could join me. We struck up a conversation since we were both flying solo that night and ended up spending the night hanging out together.

Now, I know the fact she approached me and we spent the night together should have been one of my first clues she was into me. During one of the final acts, we went up to the balcony for a better view and were dancing to the band when she kept looking back at me, keeping her face in profile. Being an idiot, I left before the final act of the night with a handshake. I can't remember if I gave her my phone number but nothing ever came of it.

I later learned that if a woman looks back at you and keeps her face in profile, it's an invitation to get closer. Now, I'm not saying I immediately should have moved closer and started dry humping her but a hand on her arm, see how she reacted and go for there.

I have to admit, I still regret it all these years later because I probably could have got laid that night or I'm ending this story with, "And that's how I met my ex-wife."

 

[pecker2009]

Nailed it on the head. It's a game.

Second that!

 

[angrymime666]

Years back, I was at a showcase one of the alt-weeklies put on at the Phoenix during one of the music festivals, I can't remember if it was Canadian Music Week or North by Northeast.

I was leaning on one of the tables they have near the stage and a woman approached me asking me if she could join me. We struck up a conversation since we were both flying solo that night and ended up spending the night hanging out together.

Now, I know the fact she approached me and we spent the night together should have been one of my first clues she was into me. During one of the final acts, we went up to the balcony for a better view and were dancing to the band when she kept looking back at me, keeping her face in profile. Being an idiot, I left before the final act of the night with a handshake. I can't remember if I gave her my phone number but nothing ever came of it.

I later learned that if a woman looks back at you and keeps her face in profile, it's an invitation to get closer. Now, I'm not saying I immediately should have moved closer and started dry humping her but a hand on her arm, see how she reacted and go for there.

I have to admit, I still regret it all these years later because I probably could have got laid that night or I'm ending this story with, "And that's how I met my ex-wife."

When you get that stare like they are waiting for something.... They are waiting for you.. Kiss them. Worse case scenario you get the cheek and move on....

Your story is the experience of every man. Don't regret... Learn from it

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I once had a very attractive woman who I was joking around with sit in my lap and put her arms around me for more than a few minutes. My colleagues were there. It wasn't a bar, restaurant or strip club. I assure you know tip was at stake.

I thought I have this in the bag. When I asked her out, she wasn't surprised. She just gave the almost pat answer "I'm sorry. I have a boyfriend".

My friends were in complete shock when I told them her response. I was more retrospective. She was simply a hot woman who liked the attention of men.

Gotta love those little minxes. I was at a party once when I was young. An attractive girl was staring me down across the room. My buddies were nudging me on to go over and talk to her because she was being obvious that she wanted me. Walked over and introduced myself and she basically said "what the fuck do you want?" I spluttered some kind of apology about misunderstanding her signals whereupon she said something to the effect. "darn right you did. now go away".
went back to my buddies and thanked them for dropping me in that shit. They were shaking their heads in bewilderment.

 

[JackBurton]

Women need to learn to communicate intent, clearly. In this day and age, it’s no wonder men are confused and simply opting out.

 

[IM469]

I'm not clear on who you think sends the first signal. Not to be challenging you, but it sounds like you might be saying something to effect that men and women lock eyes on each other at the same time and it happens.

This rarely happens and usually to my most physically attractive friends both men and women.

I agree with your comment about rules and guidelines, but I generally think there is some skill required and it most likely needs to be possessed by the man.

Let's look at my actual quote and not what I might be saying ' You know by the eyes, the interaction if a woman is interested in you. '

I'm not taking it as a challenge but- you have physically attractive friends and they can't tell if a girl is attracted to them ??? What do they do if they meet a girl - take out a book and go through a check list ? And you suggest that you have physically attractive females that can't tell if guys are interested in them ???? Really ??? They told you that or is this your interpretation of their reaction when you are talking to them ?

I will concede I could be the odd guy who has no problem talking to women - it doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with them. When I see 'the females job to make the first signal and the males job to move in' - I think of grade school dance with the girls on one wall and the boys on the other. Fuck rule books - just go over and say 'hi' if you want to talk to a female.

 

[IM469]

Gotta love those little minxes. I was at a party once when I was young. An attractive girl was staring me down across the room. My buddies were nudging me on to go over and talk to her because she was being obvious that she wanted me. Walked over and introduced myself and she basically said "what the fuck do you want?" I spluttered some kind of apology about misunderstanding her signals whereupon she said something to the effect. "darn right you did. now go away".
went back to my buddies and thanked them for dropping me in that shit. They were shaking their heads in bewilderment.

Are you sure your fly wasn't open ??

Just kidding. First I commend you on having the balls to try to talk to her. There are guys who are assholes and females that are bitches. You can't discover the truth until you try. Now you were a gentleman but I being confronted with that kind of rebuke would have loudly said '$ 75 - no thank you !'

 

[Butler1000]

Bumble, the dating app where women make the first move, is rolling out a feature where men get an ‘opening move’

Women don't have to initiate conversations as they have.

fortune.com

So the Feminist Dating app, as it as promoted, to have women make the first move, has ended this because women didn't want to have to make the first move.

So much for dating equality.......

 

[angrymime666]

Let's look at my actual quote and not what I might be saying ' You know by the eyes, the interaction if a woman is interested in you. '

I'm not taking it as a challenge but- you have physically attractive friends and they can't tell if a girl is attracted to them ??? What do they do if they meet a girl - take out a book and go through a check list ? And you suggest that you have physically attractive females that can't tell if guys are interested in them ???? Really ??? They told you that or is this your interpretation of their reaction when you are talking to them ?

I will concede I could be the odd guy who has no problem talking to women - it doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with them. When I see 'the females job to make the first signal and the males job to move in' - I think of grade school dance with the girls on one wall and the boys on the other. Fuck rule books - just go over and say 'hi' if you want to talk to a female.

Agreed if a guy is interested in a woman he should take his shot. Signals or no. I respect him even more with no signals. However women being strong independent should also step their game and lose the passivity. It's no longer the 1940s and personally it's attractive when a woman takes initiative and goes after me.

I do what I think is right. Other men may do otherwise. We are hunters, and sometimes we do not catch anything.