Ever want to date a girl who is seeing someone?
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In university I spent 3 years chasing after a girl who had a boyfriend whom she said was 'safe'. She knew how I felt about her, but never left him because she knew what to expect with him and I was too much of a 'risk'. Almost 20 years later and I still think about her. My advice- if she isn't going to leave him, give up asap.
Yes, girls are risk adverse. The girl I am talking about is currently going to college and her bf is not and has not been to either college or university. He has no driver's license either and lives at home. I really think he was in the right place at the right time.
I am meeting her later this week for lunch at Jump because she picked me up something small in Croatia when she was there this summer. Her birthday is coming up too. I was going to get the restaurant to write "Sretan Rootendan" on the cake plate. It means Happy Birthday in Croation.
She knows I wouldn't mind dating her too. They say 75% of women expect their partner to have equal or greater education than them, so hopefully school will be a factor in changing her mind.
I'm sure she will outgrow him, but I'm not sure if I'll be around when this happens.
I am meeting her later this week for lunch at Jump because she picked me up something small in Croatia when she was there this summer. Her birthday is coming up too. I was going to get the restaurant to write "Sretan Rootendan" on the cake plate. It means Happy Birthday in Croation.
She knows I wouldn't mind dating her too. They say 75% of women expect their partner to have equal or greater education than them, so hopefully school will be a factor in changing her mind.
I'm sure she will outgrow him, but I'm not sure if I'll be around when this happens.
Hi Rubmeister100,
I'm trying my best not to be creepy. I don't call her or email her much at all because I don't want to scare her away or look too desperate. She knows I like her, but I'm about ten years older than her and I think that she thinks that's a problem.
I think I could have probably picked a little better restaurant than Jump. It's not exactly romantic, but all restaurants are loud at lunchtime downtown.
My plan was to talk to her about her trip to Europe this past summer and collect the souvenier she picked up for me there.
I'm giving her an Esquire watch that I got for half price by getting a friend in the U.S. to send it to me. That's her birthday present. I know it's better than anything she has, so I think she'll like it.
I'm not going to go overboard dressing up. I'll just wear a blue Zegna dress shirt with no tie, blue dress pants and oxfords. She doesn't wear business outfits so it will make her feel uncomfortable if I wear a suit.
I'll make sure my fly is done up
I'm also hoping I'm not getting taken advantage of for a free meal.
I'm trying my best not to be creepy. I don't call her or email her much at all because I don't want to scare her away or look too desperate. She knows I like her, but I'm about ten years older than her and I think that she thinks that's a problem.
I think I could have probably picked a little better restaurant than Jump. It's not exactly romantic, but all restaurants are loud at lunchtime downtown.
My plan was to talk to her about her trip to Europe this past summer and collect the souvenier she picked up for me there.
I'm giving her an Esquire watch that I got for half price by getting a friend in the U.S. to send it to me. That's her birthday present. I know it's better than anything she has, so I think she'll like it.
I'm not going to go overboard dressing up. I'll just wear a blue Zegna dress shirt with no tie, blue dress pants and oxfords. She doesn't wear business outfits so it will make her feel uncomfortable if I wear a suit.
I'll make sure my fly is done up
I'm also hoping I'm not getting taken advantage of for a free meal.
Ryan...why would you waste half a page to quote the previous post and reply with 3 words!!! Why not say "Surprisingly good advice from rubmeister100".
Poorboy, don't equate your status with his. Don't compare them, women are an enigma.
You seem to be too much into "checklists". Take Rub's advice, but don't overdo the checklist thingy. It really boils down to chemistry and gut-feeling.
After Jump Cafe, you should consider taking her to the "Beaver Pond" (Commerce Court buildings, King/Bay/Wellington) or TD court yard, somewhere out-doors, if the weather is good.
You seem to be too much into "checklists". Take Rub's advice, but don't overdo the checklist thingy. It really boils down to chemistry and gut-feeling.
After Jump Cafe, you should consider taking her to the "Beaver Pond" (Commerce Court buildings, King/Bay/Wellington) or TD court yard, somewhere out-doors, if the weather is good.
"Beaver Pond" is the outdoor "pool" within the CIBC buildings. If I'm not mistaken, you can see it inside Jump Cafe, just north-west of the cafe.poorboy said:Beaver Pond. Never heard that one before.
As for the term "Beaver Pond", go there in the summer when the weather is HOT, and the skirts are SHORT.
I am not Croation n_v, I am Japanese and Korean.n_v said:
There are several factors going against me that I am going to have to fight against.
I am ten years older than her. She told me once she prefers men her own age. I am only an inch or two taller than her. Women prefer men to be 10% taller than them. I am in between jobs, something she has no idea about and I am asian. Most caucasian women will not date an asian male.
I've known her for about six months and took her out to Canoe back in the spring a couple of months before she went away to Croatia. I emailed her twice while she was over there and recieved no reply. I think she doesn't like writing because her written english isn't that good. She didn't tell me when she got back from Croatia either.
I'm hoping she does view this as a date, and not a free birthday meal.
Tell her you want a girl friend and does she have any friends that she can hok you up with ......... pay no attention to her in that way ......... she'll come around if she is the least bit interested.......
Actually, I was initially interested in her friend and wanted to find out more about her friend. That's why I took her to Canoe in the spring. In between the time I asked her to go and the actual lunch, she was dropping all kinds of signals. At the lunch with her, that's when I discovered she was a better personality match to me than her friend, so I've already worked that angle
But here we are 6 months later and she's not dating me.
But here we are 6 months later and she's not dating me.
One of the results of this hobby of ours is that you learn to watch a beautiful woman walk out the door without feeling any pain. [/B][/QUOTE]
I prefer watching two beautiful women walk out the door and hopefully I'm sore all over!! LOL........Dabbler
I prefer watching two beautiful women walk out the door and hopefully I'm sore all over!! LOL........Dabbler
