Ex girlfriend is hitting me up for money
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Many good answers here. I think you have to decide how much you care about this lass. Since you two have broken up before, this sounds like a rocky relationship. If you want her out of your life, then the easiest is not to give her money now. Recall that she dropped you, and the cleanest is to keep it that way.
Now if you miss her and can afford $2000, you could give it to her. If you miss her and can't afford $2000, then tell her so and instead give her much less. Maybe $500. If you don't miss her, but feel sorry for her or just want to help her, then my advice would be to give her at most $1000.
Keep thoughts of sex out of the equation, unless she has a magnetic hold over you. There are many other women around for you, even before the world of SPs.
Now if you miss her and can afford $2000, you could give it to her. If you miss her and can't afford $2000, then tell her so and instead give her much less. Maybe $500. If you don't miss her, but feel sorry for her or just want to help her, then my advice would be to give her at most $1000.
Keep thoughts of sex out of the equation, unless she has a magnetic hold over you. There are many other women around for you, even before the world of SPs.
I don't know her and it's difficult to ascertain her intent. At the end of the day though, it's your money so you are free to do with it as you please. Clearly some would gift it, others would loan it, and some wouldn't give it period. If you are more well-to-do, that of course also makes a difference.
Definitely a good idea. I wonder though, even though it would take some effort, would it be possible for her to then go to the school and request a refund?
First, one of the biggest mistakes that is a well known is never get involved with family when it comes to money. Lot of people have major issues when it comes to money. So if I were to give money to a family member and it was a significant amount, damn sure I'm legalizing it in some way as I would with a friend. I know too many people who have been burned by giving or lending money to others. With gifts, sometimes the giver thinks they now have the right to comment, influence, and judge the receiver's actions.
Second, if I lend someone money and they don't pay it back, I don't think I'm worried about the stress they'll endure when I take them to court. One of the deterrents to them for not paying me back is the prospect of being taken to court.
Lastly, if you don't understand what exploiting someone by giving them money when they are desperate in exchange for sex means, you have issues. If he wants to give it or lend it, so be it, but making it conditional upon sex is not right.
I suggest you either ignore my comments or put me on ignore so you don't have to read them. Same shit from the same shitters...
The two things I believe we can all agree on are: never expect to see the money again, and therefore don't give it to her unless you can afford to give a $2,000 walk away gift.
leave a cookie trail. Every cookie = $200, and for every cookie you get milk. Fair exchange, unless of course money is no object and $2000 is just a walk in the park for ya
When it comes to big sums like this, it's really not $2,000 you are giving away. Assuming you do something decent with it like invest it, pay off some mortgage, or put it towards buying property...... all trying to growing money...... that $2,000 is more like $4,000 to me.
I haven't flipped property lately, but when I did, my ballpark ROI was $1 in --> $2 back = $1 profit
Call me a business-minded greedy ass, but when it comes to decent sums of loose money hanging around, I think everyone should be doing their best and putting on their Warren Buffet cap to grow their $$$. Leaving it a 0.75% savings account is doing almost nothing for you.
Grow it, feel good about it, and less reliance on that monthly payout pension we all get at 65.
For me, I don't even want to care about those pay outs. I want to be self sufficient and treat those monthly social payout cheques as pure bonus money. And that's how I've always want it to be. Even when I was young with my first bottom of the barrel office job, I don't want to be one of those desperate old men living in a dump waiting for that monthly cheque to pay off rent. Some dude who saved nothing and needs a payout to buy food and feed his cats. Fuck that.
I haven't flipped property lately, but when I did, my ballpark ROI was $1 in --> $2 back = $1 profit
Call me a business-minded greedy ass, but when it comes to decent sums of loose money hanging around, I think everyone should be doing their best and putting on their Warren Buffet cap to grow their $$$. Leaving it a 0.75% savings account is doing almost nothing for you.
Grow it, feel good about it, and less reliance on that monthly payout pension we all get at 65.
For me, I don't even want to care about those pay outs. I want to be self sufficient and treat those monthly social payout cheques as pure bonus money. And that's how I've always want it to be. Even when I was young with my first bottom of the barrel office job, I don't want to be one of those desperate old men living in a dump waiting for that monthly cheque to pay off rent. Some dude who saved nothing and needs a payout to buy food and feed his cats. Fuck that.
This shouldn't be a question.
If you can afford to give away 2 grand with nothing in return then you can afford a better class of female in your life.
In other words you are selling yourself short. You are better than this and better than her. She is obviously not a good person. Why?
She abandoned her child.
If she can do that, where the hell do you think you are.
Move on. She is a vampire.
If you can afford to give away 2 grand with nothing in return then you can afford a better class of female in your life.
In other words you are selling yourself short. You are better than this and better than her. She is obviously not a good person. Why?
She abandoned her child.
If she can do that, where the hell do you think you are.
Move on. She is a vampire.
Your welcome. And don't bother replying to her. The best way to deal with this is indifference. Don't allow vampires entrance. Look forward not back. Energy expended on her is energy wasted.
If you decide to you take someone to court, it's time and lost wages off your back too. You would be taking time off work and the end result is not guaranteed. Few of us could afford to part with $2000 in the first place. If the OP could afford the $2000 and potentially time in court to get the money back, he wouldn't have started the thread.
The OP's relationship has already ended so there's definitely no sex. He also said that he wants to stop talking to her and leave it be. The OP's experience has nothing to do with:
1. Exploiting a desperate person in exchange for sex. The ex seems to be desperate right now, but money has not changed hands and as far as we know is not an escort.
2. Whether or not the ladies you've been with seemed desperate or have no choice but to be in this industry.
3. Why those ladies choose to be in this industry.
The above statements are your usual routine of justifying your involvement in this industry. I would certainly hope you are a good client and not causing women to be be exploited in this industry, but these points have nothing to do with this thread. Yet you complain the loudest of anyone on this board when others take threads off-topic.
Like you always say: it's a public forum so I'm free to politely disagree with you.
For me, it's the work needed to make that $2000. That's a couple of weeks or more of wages.
Give her nothing.
Women have the knack for treating guys like unlimited wallets. That's why the term gold digger is typically associated with a female. How often have you seen or heard a male friend go around asking for money like this?
It happens. But guarantee anyone here, guys do it less.
I've had a business acquaintance ask for money. Someone I barely even knew since I was new to the company, and 6 months later she asks me in a room in secret she is having marriage issues and needs lawyer money. And that I was a nice guy who she could trust and that she'd pay me back.
Forget it. What the fuck. I've barely been at the company and someone is asking for loan money?!?!? Fuck that.
I highly doubt any guys in the same boat would ask people for money.
And then another 6 months later, the marriage issue is solved and she magically didn't need it after all.
I don't think she abandoned her child if they are with her parents and she's sending money back home. Terribly judgmental.
I guess the question is do you consider her a friend in need? Or is she just a pussy to fuck? If the former then the decision is tough. If the latter it's an easy call.
I guess the question is do you consider her a friend in need? Or is she just a pussy to fuck? If the former then the decision is tough. If the latter it's an easy call.
