falling in love with an SP.

[superstar1]

Have you guys ever had such great chemistry with an SP, that after a number of visits that fly you to the moon each time, you fall head over heels for her?

There are so many beautiful smart S.P.'s out there it's bound to happen.

If that's happened to you, who was it with and what did you do about it?

 

[drlove]

this should be in the lounge

 

[Average Joe]

Take it from someone who was conned by an SP. If she keeps mentioning her financial problems walk away, if she asks you for money - run.

SPs are in this for the money. It's not a dating service.

 

[drlove]

Just a thought...

Falling for an SP is not a good idea as it ruins the fantasy... that is after all what you're after, right??

 

[blackdog]

check your PM superstar

 

[shack]

It is indeed a slippery slope to attempt to negotiate.

My advice is to allow things to progress if you feel it's right because, in spite of the fact that the odds are definitely low because of the reasons other members here will give you, in life one can never say never, especially when human emotions are involved.

But, and this is a huge but, keep your eyes wide, wide open and always be realistic of the basis of the relationship, money. Until the moment comes when she'll see you and no money is exchanged you should always have some doubt as to her sincerity.

Average Joe gave some great advice. Even without the money issue there will be other things to possibly deal with as well. It's not easy.

 

[shack]

Re: Just a thought...

Falling for an SP is not a good idea as it ruins the fantasy... that is after all what you're after, right??

He's talking about a different fantasy.

 

[500miles]

Superstar, ask yourself how many times love has happened in real life between you and a girl of this particular SP's caliber, and you pretty much know the answer. Why even ask? Just enjoy the moment, savor it for a couple of hours afterwards, and get on with making money because you'll need for the next appointment.

 

[dudelove]

Falling in love with an SP?

Are you asking yourselves for self-inflicting wounds?

Falling in love with an SP is NEVER a good idea. Like many users say before. This is pure a business transaction. What really count is money or I would say the redistribution of wealth. Put it this way, the hobbyists are cash cows in the eyes of the SPs and their bosses.

There is a big difference between intimacy and infactuation.

I am not so sure the so-called emotion safety zone for the SP. But I am pretty sure that many if not all SP are very cool-headed and they don't believe any shred of craps the hobbyists say.

Many SPs regardless of their ages are well-schooled and have seen all those BS, including the hobbyists so-called "affection" to themselves. That is the due or price one SP has to pay to earn a fast trek decent livihood. The price can be steep since many SPs would find it hard to trust any "decent" men.

But again when the SP achieves financial independence, why would she need to find a man to spend the rest of her life with?

The best way one can cope is thinking of seeing a SP as trading shares like Nortel or Intel, blue-chips for those high mileage gorgeous SPs. As many financial advisers use to say never fall in love with the stock you own, always take the profit and leave.

One should have this kind of mentality when you deal with the SP. You get the "capital gain" when you get the best service money can buy and you "take the profit" to move on when you sense the danger of getting emotionally involved.

But again many speculators do not heed such advice.

 

[ToronToto]

Why are you guys so pessimistic? It does happen, ever wonder if an SP can fall in love?

Admittedly, she may do so outside the biz. Nevertheless, it could happen with a client.

What are the odds? Probably very low, but not bleak.

If it happens, you'll know, and you won't have to ask. Just like normal love!

 

[ToronToto]

btw, it's unlike you'll get responses for:

If that's happened to you, who was it with and what did you do about it?

 

[dudelove]

Hey ToronToto,

Are you that lucky guy who has an SP girlfriend?

 

[anon1]

It happened to me.
The best 3 months of my life.
The worst 4 years of my life.
I'm still hurting.
Shit, the complete lyrics to a Country hit.

 

[Chaosmagi]

Fall in love with anyone you can. The world is in short supply these days and needs it. I love lovers where ever they are. Remember though that it is your love that you feel and in most cases the sp will not return your love. She is (in many cases) a professional-this is what she does for cash-and customers fall for her all the time if she is doing her job. Her job is to create a fantasy for you-a fantasy of love, sex and intimacy. You have to realise this and stay with your feelings for her-they are your feelings, not hers. This may sound a little preachy but I have had this experience and it was a great experience(not at the time-it hurt like hell)I see now that in a sense unrequited love is far more valuble than the kind that is returned. If you can stay with it long enough it transforms and a whole new sense of love emerges-less personal and involved but way more powerful and it does not involve pain. You still feel pain but it is somehow removed-as if it is not "your" pain-just pain. It is more unconditional-not perhaps completly unconditional for I find the hardest condition about love to drop is the condition that it be unconditional-which is a condition.(too many conditions in that last sentence)

Don't take it serriously CM(YL)

 

[blackdog]

thin ice

I would love to hear an SPs opinion on this one. Yeah sure anythings possible but starting out in the client/SP context is leaving the door open for alot of argument amunition later on down the road. "you f@#$ing ***** you had to pay for sex! and "Men are a bunch of pigs and you are no better". This is to be countered with "You are such a whore!" or "Do you do with clients what you do with me? How can you do that with complete strangers". We all are capable of low blows and hurtfull quips in the heat of battle. Its very nasty and destructive, starting out a realationship in a world where there is no truth can be very dangerous. Escorts are about making you believe the intimacy is real. Problem is. it's not.

 

[Quirt]

If that's happened to you, who was it with and what did you do about it?

Kept making appoinments.

On a more serious note, if you have the time, energy, and means, go for it. If you're looking for an emotional rollercoaster that will change your life, take you to new highs, then sink you to depths you never knew you had in you, then don't think twice, dive in.

 

[Tony-the-Tiger]

It's the ultimate during the highs and the most painful in the lows...

I've been in this situation in which I believe she had feelings for me, although it was only for a few months. I think that we became intimate friends for the 3-4 months I had sessions with her, leading to the time that she went thru some emotional tough times in her life. At that time, she confided in me because she trusted me and felt comfortable with me. In this vulnerable stage, she started having feelings for me and I had already told her before how much I cared about her and had strong feelings for her. It was the greatest feelings I have ever experienced as we went on a few dates and had the greatest sex of my life (because she was the most gorgeous and sexy woman who I have ever met). But then, it ended very shortly as she met someone else and left me in the dust. It hurt more than anything I have ever experienced because of the sudden drop from such a high. Looking back, I have no regrets about that romance although it hurt so much for so long. Time heals. Also, other beautiful gf's, MPA's and SP's have helped lessen the pain.

You know you really care about an MPA or SP when you hope they get out of the biz as soon as possible and lead a more normal life.

 

[twobigo]

Falling in love with an SP or any one for that matter isa tricky thing to pinpoint.Maybe it,s just a strong physical attraction you feel, maybe it,s the great sex. However after all that excitement simmers down are you really in love? Do you share common values? Do you enjoy just holding hands?Is there a feeling of trust and respect and committment?Are you willing to go anywhere at anytime with your object of desire?Will you put her wellbeing equal or above yours?.Love is unconditional.Do you accept her "flaws" and not try to mould her into something she is not?Are you willing to share your innermost thoughts and feelings?Falling in love is a gift from God. When it is returned that is one of the greatest feelings that is experienced. Be careful when you tell someone you love them because your making a serious committment.Saying "i love you"involves taking on responsibility.If your ready for committmentandthink thru all the ramifications then and only then are you truly in love.

 

[TWOTIGER]

the worst...

gotta agree with Tony-the-Tiger on this one:

"You know you really care about an MPA or SP when you hope they get out of the biz as soon as possible and lead a more normal life."

I fell HARD for one SP -- probably spent 80K+ in one year, plus gifts and lunches, etc... -- not that the money was a huge issue, but just to give you an idea...even after I/we/she decided it was best we made a clean break of things -- the only thing I really wanted was for her to get out of "the game" -- not for me -- but for her.

I think most guys will admit if they look close enough that it's their fault usually and not the SPs. I think (here comes my minor in psychology) that the SP begins to represent for the guy more than a just sexual escape -- the SP beings to represent in their minds things such as youth, freedom, vitality -- and for a married guy that "emotional pull" becomes very drug-like.

What did I do about it? Stopped all correspondence and appointments -- sent one final, sincere e-mail to wrap things up on a good note and as one referred earlier -- letting time heal things.

I'd be lying if I said I didn't lose sleep some nights wondering if she's OK -- but I know if I get in touch with her again -- I'd be fucked (and not in a good way) --

good topic. gets you thinking.

2T

 

[Dr Watchsom]

Fitman & misty

Id just leave this one alone. Most of the guys on this board are too jaded to understand that falling for an sp in just like falling for any other woman. Besides this subject has been done to death