GFE Etiquette question

[ycghiydvo]

I am meeting an indie whom I have been with in the past for a dinner and back to my room date. The restaurant is about ten minutes away from where I am staying. I have offered to drive her over, but her driver demands that she be driven by him only (it is part of their deal, I don't ask more) as he would not be able to guarantee her safety, which I am fine with.

My question is....

If her ride doesn't appear when we have finished dinner, what is the correct procedure? Do you offer to wait with her until he does arrive, and therefore compromising her privacy, or do you just leave?

I am not sure what is preferrable. Anybody able to help?

 

[mike1rotch]

how would staying with her compromise her privacy? if it's a date you're paying for, I mean, why would waiting with her break the metaphor?

also, could you walk as an alternative? 10 minute drive means how long of a walk?

also, you could ask her driver to drive you as well, hehehe

 

[revolver]

If her ride doesn't appear when we have finished dinner, what is the correct procedure? Do you offer to wait with her until he does arrive, and therefore compromising her privacy, or do you just leave?

I think I'd just ask her what her preference would be.

 

[ycghiydvo]

The metaphor isn't the question.

The concern I have is her getting safely from one point to the other. As I stated, her driver will not guarantee it otherwise, but some SP's do not want to reveal the vehicle, driver etc. that they want to remain anonymous away from the profession. Which I understand completely. So my question therefore goes to "Should I break her anonymity or not be a gentleman?"

I should probably have addressed this to SP's only...

 

[mike1rotch]

some SP's do not want to reveal the vehicle, driver etc. that they want to remain anonymous away from the profession.

ahh, you didn't mention this was the reason for the privacy issue; it's not apparent from your scenario

the SP will more than likely have a cellphone anyway, so you leave when she gets the call

 

[TheNiteHwk]

Never heard of such a thing...

I worked as a driver for 2.5 yrs and I never heard of such a thing. Also since you have seen her before... she I would think should feel safe with you. She should call the driver on his cell when dinner is done and let him know what hotel etc you are going to. (she should check all that even before the date) He can then go to the hotel and wait till she is ready to leave. She can also call once you both have arrived at the hotel and say she is 'in'. And let driver know when or how long she will be till she is 'out'.

 

[Allan]

Things that make you go hmmm.....

 

[ycghiydvo]

This is an etiquette question, and I was looking for an opinion as to the proper thing to do etiquette-wise.

I was planning to ask her what she preferred, because as a gentleman (yes there still are a few of us out there), I would respect her wishes in either case. However, my overall preference is to make sure she is safe, and to then get back to my room.

I had hoped someone reading this has had a similar situation, but from what i can tell, this has not happened...

 

[DenWa]

I think you're overthinking the whole thing...it's not that big of a deal. Just ask her the "what-if's" before the date.

DW

 

[ycghiydvo]

Sorry folks...

I had not included the cell phone, which I realized she had later on, so a wait would be minimal. So thank you those who were supportive, and to those who were not, well you know what you can do.