guys, do you tell your female friends that you are hobbying?

[afterhours]

Why would anyone have the need to tell anyone? I understand if some told other ladies who are SP's or join them in threesomes, etc.. but other than that why do you feel you have to tell others?

lets say your female friend asks you how come you don't have a GF...would you rather she thought that you are a chronic masturbator or a hobbyist?

another reason - I more than once was able to fuck civilian women for money after talking about hobby and it was cheap too as I explained to them that they are only entitled to half of what the agency would charge

on a more general note - you people live a sad life if you cannot even talk to your friends about your hobby...

 

[freestuff]

lets say your female friend asks you how come you don't have a GF...would you rather she thought that you are a chronic masturbator or a hobbyist?

another reason - I more than once was able to fuck civilian women for money after talking about hobby and it was cheap too as I explained to them that they are only entitled to half of what the agency would charge

on a more general note - you people live a sad life if you cannot even talk to your friends about your hobby...

It might be sad but that's the life they want to protect.

 

[robc2343]

I don't really keep my hobbying in T.O. or my hanging out in SC's much of a secret because I don't have to, but I still don't bring it up unless it comes up in a conversation. The only females I've ever told about hobbying in T.O. are all strippers though, its easier to tell them about it than regular civilian women. My friends down here like hearing about it because they can't believe that I can hobby freely in T.O. without worrying about cops busting me, its sad how repressed the USA is about the hobby.

 

[Back Burner]

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on a more general note - you people live a sad life if you cannot even talk to your friends about your hobby...

That's a very sad generalization.

 

[The Options Menu]

on a more general note - you people live a sad life if you cannot even talk to your friends about your hobby...

Oddly enough I'd have a far sadder life if I talked about my beer and boobies fetish openly. (The 'moral' and 'social' judgements of my flings, friends, family, and co-workers can indeed have a direct impact on my life.)

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

lets say your female friend asks you how come you don't have a GF...would you rather she thought that you are a chronic masturbator or a hobbyist?

Perhaps, in your world, those are the only two choices.The rest of us know you don't have to have a steady GF to have a busy social/sex life.

on a more general note - you people live a sad life if you cannot even talk to your friends about your hobby...

Perhaps what is even more sad is the fact that you have such a narrow perception of life.

 

[big.guy_13]

What? No!
Never!
Do you know how many of my friends I would lose? All of them.

 

[mur11]

I couldn't even comprehend sharing my hobbying life with my friends, in particular my women friends.
It is just something that is very difficult to discuss in an open forum. I guess perhaps one or two of my closest male friends I could see myself in a moment of weakness sharing with, and though I ultimately think they would keep it close, and not be judgemental, the risk is too great. Prostitution (or 'the hobby') is one of those visceral issues, where people are either in the mindset that prostitution is an aborrent and depraved practice, or that prostitution is okay. There's no middle ground on the issue for alot of people, there's far too much stereotyping and misinformation swirling around the issue, and people who have strongly held feelings one way or another, are highly unlikely to change their minds
For something that has no bearing on my relationships with friends, it's stupid to bring it up. For females, although there's many females such as blissful, and some TERBite's wives who apparently embrace the lifestyle, there's a vast majority who don't, and while some guys are open to the possibility of one day hiring a SP, or are themselves hobbyists in secret, there's very few females who can withhold judgement on the issue.
Besides, my social life and my hobbying are two separate things, and even if my friends were aware of my hobbying, I don't really want to get into any psychological discussion about why I hobby, or a blow-by-blow description. That's what TERB is for
Also, another factor, particularly with the females I am friends with, is that us being in our mid-to-late twenties, there's not as much tolerance and understanding for this type of thing, as opposed to twenty years for now, when there's more life experience on the table.

As far as relationships go, again it's a complete non-starter. I'm sure there's some people who are open about their hobbying with their SOs, and hell there's some people on here who allegedly see SPs with their SO. However, to most females it's an instant deal-breaker.
It's hypocritical, and harsh and I wish that there was more openness and frank discussion outside of the cloistered walls of TERB about it, but that's the way it is and there's no changing it anytime soon. On this issue, I'm not going to be an activist

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

The issue is that there are always some people who take a very negative (if misguided) view to this hobby.

If you start to share your "secret" with anyone, you lose control of who else will find out. While I'm fine with what I do for entertainment and I'm sure that most of my friends would not be appalled by the idea, I prefer not to be placed in a position of defending my lifestyle if the wrong people find out and decide to challenge me.

I never take a hypocritical position if the topic comes up. I merely don't discuss my participation.

 

[massman]

The first rule of fight club....

 

[The Options Menu]

I never take a hypocritical position if the topic comes up. I merely don't discuss my participation.

I do the exact same.

 

[freestuff]

The first rule of fight club....

Almost as cliche as "thinking outside of the box."

 

[The Options Menu]

Almost as cliche as "thinking outside of the box."

Well, we could try to switch to the Bountiful BC polygamists' "Keep Sweet" but that doesn't quite have the same reach. And yeah, 'old meme is old', but...

 

[Smash]

Wat happens on Terb stays on Terb IMO.

 

[The Options Menu]

Wat happens on Terb stays on Terb IMO.

Brought to fame by Laura Bush, and reminds me of the Bush administration... Uuugh...

 

[Hard Idle]

lets say your female friend asks you how come you don't have a GF......

LOL! I could counter by asking them "How come you don't have a white walking stick?"

Now I don't call anyone up out of the blue to tell them "by the way did you know I pay form my flesh fixes?" but if the subject ever comes up I wouldn't hide or deny it at all.

It would surprise me if any of them would be shocked by the revalation. And if they were I'd ask them "Really? So what do you suggest? Do you know any gorgeous young women who wouldn't mind getting me off for free at my convenience? How about you yourself? ....I didn't think so." Seriously, how do they think I get my jolies these days anyway? Do they truly believe guys like me are just going to spend the next 35 years or so exclusively wanking to porn a few times a week, never again to lay a finger on some fantasy-worthy flesh?

I imagine the reason the subject doesn't come up is more due to THEIR discomfort in discussing such things, not mine.

I haven't discussed it with any family members simply because we generally don't have the custom of discussing our intimate/sexual activiteis among each other regardless their nature.

 

[The Options Menu]

LOL! I could counter by asking them "How come you don't have a white walking stick?"

Now I don't call anyone up out of the blue to tell them "by the way did you know I pay form my flesh fixes?" but if the subject ever comes up I wouldn't hide or deny it at all.

It would surprise me if any of them would be shocked by the revalation. And if they were I'd ask them "Really? So what do you suggest? Do you know any gorgeous young women who wouldn't mind getting me off for free at my convenience? How about you yourself? ....I didn't think so." Seriously, how do they think I get my jolies these days anyway? Do they truly believe guys like me are just going to spend the next 35 years or so exclusively wanking to porn a few times a week, never again to lay a finger on some fantasy-worthy flesh?

I imagine the reason the subject doesn't come up is more due to THEIR discomfort in discussing such things, not mine.

I haven't discussed it with any family members simply because we generally don't have the custom of discussing our intimate/sexual activiteis among each other regardless their nature.

The notion that any reasonably healthy male would asexually wank it by themselves for 35 years is positively 'Catholic' in it's foolishness... It doesn't stop people from believing it... But it's foolish.

 

[reallywhiteguy]

I've told my dogs....but they are sworn to secrecy.