Couldn't disagree more. My experience with AFF has been fabulous. I met my wife on AFF, and together we've met DOZENS of couples and single women in the swing lifestyle. It's well worth the 15 bucks a month for a silver membership, (the free memberships are quite restrictive on what you can access in terms of photo profiles.)
It's time-intensive, for every ten emails I send out, I might only get 1 response, which might lead to one meet and greet for every five responses.
But neverthless, it's a great way to network.
Sure there are some phonies out there, but nothing like it was a few years ago. You'll meet people with ten-year old photo's, and with a broad range of opinions on what the terms "fit and attractive" mean, but you'll also meet real people too.
Internet dating has lost most of its bad reputation, and every one knows someone else et their partnersonline.
Lavalife is a mine field of phonies, in its "Intimate Encounters" section, and you'll get what I believe are Lava employees sending free "Smile" contacts, hoping you'll spend a couple of bucks to reply. We get 22 year old women bugging us on a daily basis, which we simply ignore.
Some may be real, of course, (my buddies teenage daughter says her friends like to have little parties where they contact middle age men and talk them into prancing around naked on web cam, as they roll around on the floor giggling...) but Lava is pay as you go, and they're in the business to make money.
AFF is pay up front, so there aren't as many fakes, but there are plenty of whackos who just want to waste your time and peek at your private photo-album. It doesn't take long to figure out who's fake and who's a player.
If you're looking for a girlfriend, or a serious relationship, however, Lava is great - if you put in the time, and are upfront about who you really are.
Let's face it, there are many more women who are looking for relationships out there, than there are those looking for casual encounters. But they are out there, believe me, and AFF is a cost effective and efficient way of hooking up.
Everybody lies online.
Meet for coffee, not lunch or dinner, or you'll go bankrupt. I'd been on hundreds of first dates, before meeting my wife, and not onle of those women made even a pretense of reaching for the check.
Suck it in and post a picture. Not a dick pic either. Spend some money and get a pro to shoot you. You'll get ten times as many responses.
Good luck and good hunting
