Pretty much this... being emotionally detached has helped (thanks to this heartbreaking experience with this one civvy girl, blame it on her!)
Has your heart been captured with certain providers ?
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So true. The truth does hurt! But it's a pain slowly, slowly will fade away. My heart is like piece of iron when it comes to the ladies. I've heard and felt everything.
She's known on the board, doesn't post much, great boobs if you must know TITlian. lolIs there a link
To answer the OP's question -- yes, definitely.
Fortunately, she's intelligent enough to set boundaries, and I am old enough ( and hopefully wise enough!) to know to respect them. Even then, just like other aspects of life, it is a learning process and I unknowingly let my guard down and have had occasionally over-stepped those lines. I am trying to eliminate or at least diminish those blunders as we go along.
Fortunately, she's intelligent enough to set boundaries, and I am old enough ( and hopefully wise enough!) to know to respect them. Even then, just like other aspects of life, it is a learning process and I unknowingly let my guard down and have had occasionally over-stepped those lines. I am trying to eliminate or at least diminish those blunders as we go along.
The trick is being captivated without falling in too far I think. I kind of like being captivated while still remembering what the implied contract is.
I guess over the years I did get attached to a few MPA's that I saw a few times. It was kind of nice getting a smile of recognition and feeling welcomed more than the usual. I always wondered what is was like from her side when opening the door?
I did let one have a little bit of my heart, she was also my first MPA It was more the fact of how much I just enjoyed our time together and listening to her stories. It was like visiting an old friend. But she broke my heart in a way I was not expecting at all.
I guess over the years I did get attached to a few MPA's that I saw a few times. It was kind of nice getting a smile of recognition and feeling welcomed more than the usual. I always wondered what is was like from her side when opening the door?
I did let one have a little bit of my heart, she was also my first MPA
It was more the fact of how much I just enjoyed our time together and listening to her stories. It was like visiting an old friend. But she broke my heart in a way I was not expecting at all.Yes. unfortunately, i had a serious infatuation with a provider that got ridiculous. i could not stop thinking about her, i would visit her profile here regularly and check to see everytime if she's online and when i know where her incall was i would sometimes drive by just to be close to her almost to a point where i was becoming obsessed .
It all change when i realise it was all business to her and she had no interest in taking the relationship to another level nor does she want our relationship to get personal, that's when i stopped seeing her and took a 4 months break from seeing companions period.
changed the password from my previous terb acc. so i would not remember and therefore not be able to log in.
i'm not such i'm completly over her so i stop seeing providers to avoid a repeat. the heart is such a vulnerable thing! i learn the hard way.
It all change when i realise it was all business to her and she had no interest in taking the relationship to another level nor does she want our relationship to get personal, that's when i stopped seeing her and took a 4 months break from seeing companions period.
changed the password from my previous terb acc. so i would not remember and therefore not be able to log in.
i'm not such i'm completly over her so i stop seeing providers to avoid a repeat. the heart is such a vulnerable thing! i learn the hard way.
Big help you are .....lol ;-)
I have been captured as well. It really sucked actually and seems to happen more than I thought it does.
I thought it was just me being stupid but this thread had given me some relief that it's not just me
Now I try to keep as much distance as possible cuz liking someone more than they like you really really blows
I've changed my view on finding another regular because of this. I really dont want that attachment again and it's tough often times not too.
I thought it was just me being stupid but this thread had given me some relief that it's not just me
Now I try to keep as much distance as possible cuz liking someone more than they like you really really blows
I've changed my view on finding another regular because of this. I really dont want that attachment again and it's tough often times not too.
This type of thread seems to weave through these forums frequently, and this happens more than people wish to admit. Sharing orgasms together seems to create a chemical bond between partners, and when those are accompnied by a bit of mutual personality compatability feeling for each other are undeniably created....
I did spent way too much time in session and out with 1 incredible woman from 2010 to end of 2013 (JUST ABOUT 4 YEARS)...... We had to stop seeing each other reluctantly because realistically we were not in any posible way likely to follow it up. It took a year to get over it. But I hold her memory close to heart.... dinners, movies, theatre, dog walks, starbuck, just hanging, shopping, and sessions....different times and places......
I did spent way too much time in session and out with 1 incredible woman from 2010 to end of 2013 (JUST ABOUT 4 YEARS)...... We had to stop seeing each other reluctantly because realistically we were not in any posible way likely to follow it up. It took a year to get over it. But I hold her memory close to heart.... dinners, movies, theatre, dog walks, starbuck, just hanging, shopping, and sessions....different times and places......
Yes it is amazing. Funny how things work out sometimes. It started just business, then we would go for a drink or dinner after, Then it became a regular dating situation until it has become a permanent relationship, and we have been married for over 10 years.
She is fine with me hobbying with escorts as long as it does not go any further than physical pleasure. I don't partake as often anymore. As for her she occasionally has a little fun on the side. We don't ask or tell about it.
Kudos Fantasyman , And well done :thumb: ....Having been in many relationships mostly civie, If the thought of perusing a provider ever came into play, this is the way I would
go about it. Not to sure if I would continue hoppying, but I wouldn't tie her down either. As long as I know, our hearts are connected.
Are we really after just sex or nah?
I think I prolonged venturing into a SP encounter just because of this topic. Interesting that it is as common as it is among die hard hobby veterans. I want to thank you all for sharing and enlighting me.
I think "in theory" is always harder than "in practice". Knowing that it is just business is one thing. When you find a really good SP that plays a good fantasy game then it can be hard not to be "played". What those key indicators of being "played" are is still a mystery to me.
I think I prolonged venturing into a SP encounter just because of this topic. Interesting that it is as common as it is among die hard hobby veterans. I want to thank you all for sharing and enlighting me.
I think "in theory" is always harder than "in practice". Knowing that it is just business is one thing. When you find a really good SP that plays a good fantasy game then it can be hard not to be "played". What those key indicators of being "played" are is still a mystery to me.
Yes, me too smitten in some ways by them all (thanks to this board almost always pointing me to high quality SP's). But by one in particular. What makes it hard as a newbie to this is that you spend most of your life under model that an actual dating relationship comes with such physical intimacy...thus the script with an SP is just familiar enough that it is easy to drift into a mistaken idea of what it is. It is starkly different. It is a business relationship (and the best SP businesswomen understand the psychology as well as the physical aspects of the job). So it is very, very easy to see how you can have your heart captured. So, you get the big head off the bench and back into the game; you might think that in the weeks between visits, she will likely have sex with over 50 guys...it brings home the real nature of the relationship. Particularly if someone reviews her and they talk about cim and stuff like that...But at the same time, the big head can at least see the upside for what it is, and (in my case) to be grateful for a DDG, smart, kindhearted 20 something woman who for an hour makes a 50+ yr old guy forget he is over 50, forget his troubles at home or work, and to feel desirable again. Money well spent.
