Hobbyist Dating a Beautiful SP - Met Elsewhere: What To Do?

[MrLuvr]

Sgr daddy, no offence, but you seem to be way too into her for a casual dating relationship. Probably much more than she is into you. Unless you pull back, your eagerness and affection for her will make her run away.

But, right now you are sounding quite pathetic.

 

[sgr daddy]

Thanks for the advice Mr. Luvr - who knows maybe you are right - but to the crux of the issue - would you address it at this time? Sounds like you have lots of wisdom ). Cheers.

 

[MrLuvr]

but to the crux of the issue - would you address it at this time? Sounds like you have lots of wisdom ). Cheers.

Nope, I would not address it at this time. I know it is easy to say, but not easy to do.

The situation TODAY is that you are dating her casually. She does not owe you anything. And on the other side of the coin, you do not owe her anything either. If you are seeing SPs and that is what you want to do, good for you. You should not feel guilty about it, nor do you need to tell her.

Moreover, you should expand your dating pool and start dating other women if you are not doing so already. You seem to be developing a disease called "oneitis". An obsession for one woman and the thought that she is the only one that will make you happy. You seem to be too caught up in the this relationship.

Keep her as only one potential for a long term relationship and audition other women as well for the role. Who is the chooser here? Make yourself the one that chooses the woman and decides whether you want to be with them or not. Don't be the type of guy that waits around for women to choose you.

IF the relationship with her advances, and knowing what you know about her, you may choose not to advance it, THEN and only THEN does her SP career become pertinent.

 

[sgr daddy]

Thanks MR LUVR

Hey Luvr - once I licked my wounds (pathetic loser) I must admit this is SOLID advice. Thank you. I will tell you that it is the woman who is trying to "close" the relationship ... I am trying to slow it down but she is too darn HOT, nice and smart. Total package and I am drawn like a moth to a flame. However - me - just came off long relationship w model and I am in no hurry. BUT - I do see the potential here and despite my plan I am falling for this girl. Hey to SP's regs - I don't want to be resp for her stay or go decision - I will council stay. cheers.

 

[Old-T]

There are enough emotionally tough decisions involved here you probably don't need to add another. Do what's right for you & the lady. If that means she retires, so be it. The others on this board will get over it (and if they don't, too bad). Real things are more important than play time.

 

[Coach]

She's an SP, you're still hobbying. Why not see her more often and pay her?

 

[Old-T]

MM: Well said, I completely agree.

Coach: In this case that isn't the relationship they have. I think doing that would be a bad move at this point. It's running away and hiding from the situation. Just my oppinion.

 

[bound&gagged]

I can't comment on your situation, the decision is completely yours, it depends on your relationship.

I can tell you that my husband/Master (Lord Maxx Payne) is also a hobbyist. I have no problems with it. But then again, i'm a little more perverse than most people.

 

[ASYLUM]

Lookat her as who she is rather than what she does. I'm sure she appreciates that more than you know. I usually avoid telling people that i was a dancer at all costs. but thats just me. However when i did meet good guys, it always meant alot to me that they didn't see me as (stage name) and just saw me as myself.
What she does doesnt change who she is.

 

[goodtime]

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As a lady that retired to pursue a relationship I can tell you without uncertainty that the fantasy was my reality and I didnt know the difference until I was shown the real thing , some choose this way of life. Reality can be harsh at times but the rewards out weigh the challenges .
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Besides I cant think of more of a compliment to a lady and your relationship then you wanting to keep her all to yourself and not share her with anyone . Where will the realtionship go ? Who knows but I do feel as long as you continue to live the fantasy and not the reality you will not find out . Good luck to you both if you choose to give it up its not so easy ! Misty

Kudos.

 

[sc dave]

why not book the lady and when you show up act totally surprised. Wasn't there a song about a relationship that went sort of that way

 

[sgr daddy]

Thanks to all!

Hey all - just want to say that this discussion has been invaluable for me. I have taken your advice and things appear to be working out. The details I will leave personal at this time. I will keep you posted if anything changes either way - but, so far so good. cheers.

 

[Peace4u]

You drag all these fine people along and then leave us on the hook.Details needed,please.......

 

[sgr daddy]

ok

Fair comment P4U - okay then - short and sweet ... all good - having a great time and everything much better now after a talk ... she is still working .... including tonight .... I'm still part-time hobbying (including tonight) once or twice a week... if she stops working (her decision and only a matter of time IMO) ... I will stop in a second out of respect. Out for now.

 

[baci2004]

Fair comment P4U - okay then - short and sweet ... all good - having a great time and everything much better now after a talk ... she is still working .... including tonight .... I'm still part-time hobbying (including tonight) once or twice a week... if she stops working (her decision and only a matter of time IMO) ... I will stop in a second out of respect. Out for now.

Lucky bastard!

 

[Meister]

I'm still part-time hobbying (including tonight) once or twice a week...

Once or twice a week is part time hobbying ??? Damn!

 

[sgr daddy]

Selina

Selina I think I know who you two are! Never underestimate the power of love.......

Selina ... pm me and we will see? If not - what are you doing later? cheers.