How addictive is this hobby for you? Is it getting worse?

[igotaboner]

... Have you seen what 99% of women in their early to mid 40's look like? The idea of spending time, money and mental effort to get involved with someone in my appropriate age range for sex is zero. ...

A lot of folks would see your comment as fairly shallow but it is a reality. If you want to play with a gorgeous woman you're generally looking at someone between 18-40. There is more to life than just sex though and I found that an hour or two a week of sex did not make up for having someone to hang out with and share my life with. The trick is to find someone who shares your views on the fun aspects of sex and has a brain....it's not easy and it took me a while but they are out there. At our age she is not likely to be 18-40.

 

[curiousm7]

Certainly this can be addictive. For me personally, I know I have seen too many these past 6 weeks but, I am looking for what I don't get at home:
awesome bbbj (i do get bbbj, but it isn't awesome unless she's drunk)
cof
cim preferably with swallow
greek (still looking cuz I don't want to shell out xtra)

Just looking for that one who makes me feel like the hottest sob out there...the one that fully lets go and releases all inhibitions. When she is found, she will get all my sp money.

 

[Mable]

This hobby is not addictive for me, at least regarding frequency and cost. I have always been very picky with women and the older I get the pickier I become. That, in combination with living in Ottawa, has kept things in check for me in that I have found it very unusual to find anyone I am interested in here. I can go through literally hundreds of ads and, if anything, by the time I have finished looking, feel rather sick and turned off by what I see. But the hobby obviously is addictive for me in that I think about it alot. I remember the fantastic times I have had with that handful of ladies who were nothing short of spectacular. Trying to find those experiences again, but alas....

 

[too2shy]

This hobby is not addictive for me, at least regarding frequency and cost. I have always been very picky with women and the older I get the pickier I become. That, in combination with living in Ottawa, has kept things in check for me in that I have found it very unusual to find anyone I am interested in here. I can go through literally hundreds of ads and, if anything, by the time I have finished looking, feel rather sick and turned off by what I see. But the hobby obviously is addictive for me in that I think about it alot. I remember the fantastic times I have had with that handful of ladies who were nothing short of spectacular. Trying to find those experiences again, but alas....

So Mable, if a truckload of hot montreal minxes arrived and started up here in Ottawa.. You'd be done for eh? lol. I think we would all be seeing many more sps if rates and looks were like Montreal and Toronto. There's sp's in Toronto, hot young girls starting at 60bucks.. sure its not a fancy agency.. just some bs incall in someones apartment but.. really? lol.

 

[symbiosis]

Hmm. Good topic question. For me the reconnaissance can be addictive but the actual act less so. It's the lead up, the anticipation and yes the act for sure but I like to spread it out over the year. I haven't lived too long in Ottawa and since arriving I found it's not the best hobbist scene but not complaining.
I don't get very good sex at home and definitely no oral either giving or getting so I get it elsewhere, where it is more carnal and raw (although never rough or disrespectful. I strongly believe in treating everyone properly with due respect and dignity)

I find I go long spells of not hobbying then binge for a bit then stop. For example it's been about 4 months since last seeing an SP but I'm going to TO this week and plan to binge while there.

 

[Mable]

You got it Too2Shy, I am addicted to a very very small aspect of the hobby (elegant, classy women with great attitudes) not easily come by in this town. When the Montreal ladies used to come up here my wallet was much thinner than it is now.

 

[curiousm7]

Ottawa may not be as good as Montreal or Toronto but we do certainly have a few gems that have thinned my wallet a bit. Immediately Emily at Pink Kitty and Jennifer at Asian Passion come to mind. They treat you like you are special, like you are the only hot man in the world. And their services and talents are very addictive.

 

[deejreckz]

Hi everyone! this web-site,cerb backpages are addicted lol, nah but I am just looking for the right girl in Ottawa! not the same in Montreal where I use to ask the dancers for escort services! it was easier the get em that way! but I've only did it by computer in Montreal a few time, but yea it was addicted for me in Montreal, but no money issues, but I was missing work just to be with one particular girl that was available during the week Monday to Wednesday, her hours was 12:00 am to 2:00 pm and she was addictive! but then she booked me on some weekends, Saturday and sometimes Sunday

 

[TheRiddlerMan]

Hmm. Good topic question. For me the reconnaissance can be addictive but the actual act less so. It's the lead up, the anticipation and yes the act for sure but I like to spread it out over the year. I haven't lived too long in Ottawa and since arriving I found it's not the best hobbist scene but not complaining.
I don't get very good sex at home and definitely no oral either giving or getting so I get it elsewhere, where it is more carnal and raw (although never rough or disrespectful. I strongly believe in treating everyone properly with due respect and dignity)

I find I go long spells of not hobbying then binge for a bit then stop. For example it's been about 4 months since last seeing an SP but I'm going to TO this week and plan to binge while there.

A lot of similarities in my own situation. I also find the research phase addictive. There's so much more information available now than there was when I first started in the early 1990s. Back then it was a single line ad in the paper, which had a 50% chance at best of being accurate. Now there's websites, reviews, direct exchanges with the providers in advance, etc. I lack the time and funds to have many "meetings" but I make a point of keeping up with the local scene so that when I actually can do it it will be something special.

 

[BuckyKatt]

It's not the sex that's the problem, heck it's part of a great weight loss and exercise program and it's a great feeling to give a woman pleasure and to make her come. But!!! the $$$$ really add up fast. Maybe it's time to hang out at Walmart and crappy tire and try to meet some single women.

 

[birddogs]

I've met some great women and had many amazing experiences but find that it's not nearly as much fun now. No replacement for a real/fun/intimate relationship which has been missing for years in my marriage. Hobbying has helped fill some gaps the past few years but divorce is probably not too far off followed by little or no hobbying.

 

[too2shy]

I've met some great women and had many amazing experiences but find that it's not nearly as much fun now. No replacement for a real/fun/intimate relationship which has been missing for years in my marriage. Hobbying has helped fill some gaps the past few years but divorce is probably not too far off followed by little or no hobbying.

does that last in any relationship? Fucked if it did in mine. And we aren't even married or having kids yet.

 

[learningtoplay]

I have tried to quit for years and I keep coming back. Called the sex annoymous people once and spoke wih someone about the rules. No Porn, no masterbating and sex with only one partner.
I believe that I was addicted before I even started. It was always my fantasy to sleep with an escort and when I finally did... I wanted to do it again a couple hour later.

 

[raj_sekar_100]

I've been a hobbyist for 10 years now. I went thru a phase when I was seeing an SP almost every week. But somewhere I just lost interest. Not because I wanted to, but I just got bored. Things that wud excite me earlier just didn't anymore. . I also got sick and tired of being scared of getting some bug each time after visiting SP. These days I go for massage, once every 3 months or so... only because I have my favorite MP who is nice. Even that has become sorta boring. So.. to summarize, u will fall out of the habit when ur body/mind does not want it anymore.

 

[kaempferrand]

In the beginning this hobby was like walking into a candy store. It was like this for the first two/three years. As time went on things really slowed down as I got bored and just limited to two or three SPs a year. After seeing Emmanuelle of MGF in Jan 2011 the experiences thereafter could not be compared with that one time encounter with her so things have really slowed further. Plus most importantly I started to meet quality civilian chics so that also contributed to the slowdown of my hobbying.

 

[Freedom1]

In the beginning this hobby was like walking into a candy store. It was like this for the first two/three years. As time went on things really slowed down as I got bored and just limited to two or three SPs a year. After seeing Emmanuelle of MGF in Jan 2011 the experiences thereafter could not be compared with that one time encounter with her so things have really slowed further. Plus most importantly I started to meet quality civilian chics so that also contributed to the slowdown of my hobbying.

What ever happened to Emmanuelle? Is she still around? I remember banging her when she visited Ottawa that winter. Vivid memories. Hope she is doing well and if you keep in touch with her please ask her to come back to Ottawa !!!

Yes, the hobby is an addiction. Montreal in such a close proximity to Ottawa makes it even worse. It has become just too easy! The deer along side the 417 know it too

 

[too2shy]

Certainly getting worse for me. Browsing terb leads to Backpage, which after some time of messaging and finding something interesting. Leads to a outcall or a incall. Time spent reading, hunting, booking, travelling, and the shortest bit.. fucking. Add on the expense. Serious expense in time and money monthly. Detriment to myself in truth.

Quit eating poorly four months back, quit porn two months back, now it's time to let go of terb, and backpage. I'll still continue to hookup with a couple regular chicks, and ween off the escorts I do see.

Figure I'll give myself 2 months of a hiatus to jump start the progress. Will need six months to a year in the gym and away from this, before I can consider coming back to this hobby. Best wishes everyone.

 

[curiousm7]

All the best my good man. This hobby can quickly become a habit that can easily lead to financial ruin...
I personally stick only to regular ladies/agencies now. Have not seen a bp girl in quite a while and found that I spend less now that I have quality instead of quantity.

Certainly getting worse for me. Browsing terb leads to Backpage, which after some time of messaging and finding something interesting. Leads to a outcall or a incall. Time spent reading, hunting, booking, travelling, and the shortest bit.. fucking. Add on the expense. Serious expense in time and money monthly. Detriment to myself in truth.

Quit eating poorly four months back, quit porn two months back, now it's time to let go of terb, and backpage. I'll still continue to hookup with a couple regular chicks, and ween off the escorts I do see.

Figure I'll give myself 2 months of a hiatus to jump start the progress. Will need six months to a year in the gym and away from this, before I can consider coming back to this hobby. Best wishes everyone.

 

[movzzz]

Certainly getting worse for me. Browsing terb leads to Backpage, which after some time of messaging and finding something interesting. Leads to a outcall or a incall. Time spent reading, hunting, booking, travelling, and the shortest bit.. fucking. Add on the expense. Serious expense in time and money monthly. Detriment to myself in truth.

Quit eating poorly four months back, quit porn two months back, now it's time to let go of terb, and backpage. I'll still continue to hookup with a couple regular chicks, and ween off the escorts I do see.

Figure I'll give myself 2 months of a hiatus to jump start the progress. Will need six months to a year in the gym and away from this, before I can consider coming back to this hobby. Best wishes everyone.

Good Luck

Question.... Why not just quit hobbying and keep the cash for doing stuff with civilian chicks?
I can understand gettting into financial trouble and needing to quit that aspect but you make it sound like you are quitting vagina as a whole. I wish you all the best but as a man you should know your apetites and deal with it accordingly.

The freedom of having fun with beautiful girls who leave after is the greatest thing in Canada. To sum it up
"I love bad bitches
I've got a problem
Yeah I like to fuck
I've got a fucking problem" ASAP Rocky & Two Chains!

 

[Skinflute]

You're quite on point about it being an addiction. Sex is, and can be a real addiction. Similar to alcohol, porn, drugs, etc. The key difference is that sex naturally occurs in our lives, which makes an addiction more difficult to treat, as you can't generally quit it for life. If I recall you just recently returned to hobbying. As did I, now from my recollection, (it's been almost six-seven years) I didn't see sps/mps as often as I am now. I'm seeing them once or twice a week. Which is fucked, from a monetary perspective most especially.

So I'm with you, I'm not sure if this is just a phase as I'm just returning to the hobby. Or if I'm fucked and right addicted lol.

If you want to piss yourself off, think of the opportunity cost of your hobbying. If you spend 250/session, and have 4 sessions a month. You've spent 1k. Would you rather have had a new 50" TV on your wall for that 1k? Or a new suit, or watch, maybe a trip to cuba. Those items are your opportunity costs.

You may be better off setting out a budget, how much you are willing to spend on hobbying. Now if you've got a large amount of disposable income.. well. This makes for many women, and leaves you back at square one lol. To poon or not to poon.

I personally hope it's a fucking phase.

VERY WEL to the point my friend. Myself retired, now on a FIXED income unlike the Members of Parliament, I can MAYBE visit a MA every month. If I am LUCKY twice in a month. Can only afford long time MA's and not the high end VIBE or CMJ, after all the end result is the same but in a different more pleasant environment. To me as long as the service is clean and reasonable as well as satisfactory, I have no objections.