How do you control it?

[WULA]

What is too fast ?

Just focus on having great orgasms. THAT is what it is about, not the duration.

IF you get on the right path, the duration will often take care of itself. Good breathing and good direct pelvic thrusts. IF you want to understand the proper mechanics, read the key chapter in 'The Function of the Orgasm' by Wilhelm Reich. I think that is the correct spelling of his name. Probably from about 1930. Older editions are better than the current one.

Let your animal self take over your conscience. Go with your natural flow.

IF you can find a cat in heat next summer, get yourself a coffee or a beer and just take some time to watch the males hump her. Animals do not watch porn, so they know the proper technique.

The other possibility may be to study tantric sex. I practiced tantric for a while, but I think it does not lend itself to GREAT orgasms, so I have given it up.

Just enjoy yourself and lose your mind in your orgasm. It is a bad idea to think of anything while you are heading into an orgasmic state. Clear your mind and focus on your and your partner's breathing and movement.

And try to find a girl that does not burn out her sexuality with a lot of porn and a vibrator. That helps a lot.

Great orgasms are all about the pelvic thrust. No twisting, no turning, just direct and strait on and rhythmic.

Hope that helps.

 

[einar]

What is too fast ?

I practiced tantric for a while, but I think it does not lend itself to GREAT orgasms, so I have given it up.

Can you tell us a bit more, WULA? This is very interesting, since tantric holds itself up to be the cat's pajamas regarding delay and release. Thanks!

 

[Fathammer]

Sometimes depending on the Sp, I cant cum fast enough!!

 

[WULA]

einar,

IMHO sex is about achieving a great orgasm. I think orgasms have great mental health benefits. Likely physical benefits too,

Your sexual experience is cumulative, so it is not easy to understand, how you exactly got to where you are in your current state. Tantric sex is probably good for learning breathing for most people. And how to empty your mind, which maybe give you a leg up to getting to an animal state.

Tantric sex is all about the sexual voyage ....a long cruise. At the end, I do not think it results in better orgasms. There is too much process in the 'extension' which is distracting in my opinion.

I guess my original post is about - in itself - what is the point of 'delay and release' ? IF that is what generates your satisfaction, then I think you are likely entirely missing the joy of a great orgasm in an animal state.

I think as a man, it is important to take away the importance of duration, for it own sake. That is in part why I think you should always get the woman to orgasm first, and remove the pressure around her pleasure. IF you are fortunate, she will orgasm again during intercourse.

You cannot really allow yourself to let go into the right state, if you are focused on your partners pleasure. You need to empty your mind and let your animal state take over.

Hope that helps.