How to approach women thread

[Big Rig]

Never heard those questions as a way of a woman expressing interest but I have heard

-what are you doing this weekend?

-what do you like to do?

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Never heard those questions as a way of a woman expressing interest but I have heard

-what are you doing this weekend?

-what do you like to do?

And a few times, with a friendly smile, "do you want a blowjob "?

but that was in a MP

Never had a woman asking me 7 questions in a row. Or even with successive monthly pauses.

 

[261252]

Never heard those questions as a way of a woman expressing interest but I have heard

-what are you doing this weekend?

-what do you like to do?

Body language is the signal most women use

 

[katead]

Approaching women can feel nerve-wracking, but confidence and genuine interest go a long way. Start with a simple greeting or compliment, and be respectful of their reactions. Remember, listening is just as important as talking. If you're looking to practice conversations or build confidence before real-life interactions, AI chatbots can be a great tool. For example, you can try realistic, interactive experiences like the AI sex bot at Go Love AI to get comfortable with dialogue and responses.

 

[Papi69]

Didn’t and won’t watch the video, but yes, women can smell sexual desperation and it stinks like shit to them. Just fucking chill, chat with girls with no expectations and see what happens, and go with the flow.

Interesting thread and interesting response.

"Chat with girls with no expectations and see what happens and go with the flow." Easier said than done.

To a Babyboomer chat would probably mean approach a lady at a gathering, grocery store, church, bus stop, at work, walking down the street, at a game, etc. Probably the hardest task cause now on days, you're probably seen as creepy for even approaching and saying hi to a pretty lady ( Stranger of course) Those days are long gone.

To a generation X male, it would probably mean. Thru friends, clubs, work, gym, Dating sites, via email, text messages, facebook, Twitter,some Instagram. Probably the easiest age gap for success.

Millenials would probably mean, university, Tinder, instagram, Tik Tok, Snapchat, some twitter, etc. Easy to do yes, not very successful if you're not a real shark and you have to have short memory to move on to the next one if you're shutdown.
And let's not forget about introverted and extroverted men.

These does not include Sugarbabies of Course which are kinda like a SP.

 

[kherg007]

Interesting thread and interesting response.

"Chat with girls with no expectations and see what happens and go with the flow." Easier said than done.

To a Babyboomer chat would probably mean approach a lady at a gathering, grocery store, church, bus stop, at work, walking down the street, at a game, etc. Probably the hardest task cause now on days, you're probably seen as creepy for even approaching and saying hi to a pretty lady ( Stranger of course) Those days are long gone.

To a generation X male, it would probably mean. Thru friends, clubs, work, gym, Dating sites, via email, text messages, facebook, Twitter,some Instagram. Probably the easiest age gap for success.

Millenials would probably mean, university, Tinder, instagram, Tik Tok, Snapchat, some twitter, etc. Easy to do yes, not very successful if you're not a real shark and you have to have short memory to move on to the next one if you're shutdown.

These does not include Sugarbabies of Course which are kinda like a SP.

Interesting analysis. Us tail ender baby boomers had to learn about and interact face to face w women during our awkward teen and uni days. It's all we had besides the phone (which was tethered to the wall in your flat lol).. I see fewer and fewer young blokes (under 25) who can hold a decent face to face conversation. Not all, but it is a dying art.

 

[Mandala]

These are my thoughts. I do not claim to be a pick up artist (PUA) nor do I desire to be, but these three points make sense

1 Approach with confidence.

This does not mean you will win everyone over but those who might be interested you are more likely to win over

2 Approach without sexual intent. Not because women do not want sex but because you have not built trust. Women will sense it and you will scare them away.

3 Everything can change with individual women and cultures.

For example, the net says it is not uncommon for women to be the aggressor in Iceland as women are very liberated in that culture and to have slept around is a sign of strong independence and they are not shy of expressing sexual desires. Men from other countries take this the wrong way and will actually fly there to have a sex vacation. It is not like that.

First, Iceland women also have the choice to be very conservative and private in their sexual desires and I would assume most women from Iceland do. Second, the stars have to align as she still has to trust you and like you and be available etc. Very few women will have sex with someone until they become friends and can trust you and find you attractive.

In my travels, I find women that I thought were above me and would have no interest in me but some do and it is always a surprise when they do.

Sometimes attraction happens but sometimes it takes a while.

You have to get to know and like each other and break through the stranger barrier and this is the rub. You have not broke through the stranger barrier with a stranger. When attraction happens right away, on her part, then she is willing to lower the barrier. That is not the way barriers are normally broken, it is the exception.

Even if a woman is attracted right away the barrier is still up as she still needs to get to know you and chatting up women who have not signalled interest is what a PUA tries to do.

Well stated

 

[Lenny59]

... you're probably seen as creepy for even approaching and saying hi to a pretty lady ( Stranger of course) ...

Yes, exactly.

 

[highpark]

 

[Lenny59]

Funny.

 

[PvtJoker]

“Your eyes/tits/smile/ass(pick one) are awesome!”

 

[Zoot Allures]

Makes a point. Think about what is attractive in people - self esteem, confidence, friendliness without being intrusive or over the top. As long as you do not say anything stupid it does not really matter what you say but how you say it

The key is to notice any signs of interest from her body language
Approach when signalled using some of the advice given in this thread then their is no fear of rejection

 

[massman]

Interesting thread and interesting response.

"Chat with girls with no expectations and see what happens and go with the flow." Easier said than done.

To a Babyboomer chat would probably mean approach a lady at a gathering, grocery store, church, bus stop, at work, walking down the street, at a game, etc. Probably the hardest task cause now on days, you're probably seen as creepy for even approaching and saying hi to a pretty lady ( Stranger of course) Those days are long gone.

To a generation X male, it would probably mean. Thru friends, clubs, work, gym, Dating sites, via email, text messages, facebook, Twitter,some Instagram. Probably the easiest age gap for success.

Millenials would probably mean, university, Tinder, instagram, Tik Tok, Snapchat, some twitter, etc. Easy to do yes, not very successful if you're not a real shark and you have to have short memory to move on to the next one if you're shutdown.
And let's not forget about introverted and extroverted men.

These does not include Sugarbabies of Course which are kinda like a SP.

So, I’m a pretty (some might say a very) introverted guy, who did “just ok” with girls as a teen/ young man, but was a bit shy to make the first move, which cost me a lot of opportunities with girls even where there seemed to be a mutual attraction. As I got a bit older, I had more women friends and colleagues. I got used to socializing with them, in a non sexual, non predatory way. I got comfortable talking to them. Had good conversations. Women are actually really interesting to talk to, way different than conversations with my guy friends and colleagues.

Taking this into social situations, I felt more comfortable just striking up a conversation with a woman I found attractive. Just a regular conversation. Get to know each other a bit, and show you pay attention, and notice them. Share funny stories. Laughter breaks a lot of barriers and inhibitions. It’s often nice to show that you notice something unique about them, and compliment them, even as an icebreaker. Not “hey that low cut dress makes your tits look great” rather, “cool shoes, I’ve never seen that style before” or “you really seem into this song” or if they are sipping on an interesting cocktail “ what are you drinking? looks really interesting “. If she offers you a taste, especially from her straw, it’s a pretty good signal that she is interested. These aren’t “lines” or “PUA” techniques, you are legitimately showing that you are interested.

Be generous but not pushy. “I’m going to grab another drink, could I get you one?” Rather than “BARTENDER, get the lady a drink!” And don’t just shower generosity on the hot girl, call and pay for the uber if you are in a group Tip well, but don’t go over the topIf you are out at a bar or restaurant NEVER demean the waitstaff. Your behaviour towards others says a lot about you as a person.

Be gentlemanly and show some class. As an
example, quite a while ago (several years)I was with a group of people at a club, dancing. One of the group was a younger woman, who was very attractive. There was a guy, not with us, who was pretty drunk and kept grabbing her to dance with him. Now I wasn’t going to challenge or threaten him (he was much bigger than me and the last time I got in a fight was when I was 12 on the school playground with the class bully) so I just leaned over to him and said into his ear “hey man, that’s my sister in law, OK?” and he’s was like “no problem” and left us alone. Later, the extra attention I got from the women in the group was obvious. One of the group who I knew better, told me later that they all were super impressed how I’d acted like such a “mensch”. Not flexing, just using this as an example of showing examples of your good character, who acts like a stand up guy, and yes, a man when it is necessary.

When chatting, show a bit about yourself, but don’t over share, and see how she responds and if she shares, then take the conversation deeper. I think humility and mild self deprecation wins out over cocky and overconfident.

This is a lot of work, and if you are going out for the night, and just want to take someone home to fuck, it is not that efficient (tho you’d be surprised how often women respond quickly to someone who is non threatening and demonstrates that they are a good guy). But just chatting with girls with no pressure, no expectations is a way of showing interest, and showing that you are interesting and a decent guy. That’s a decent way to start to see if there can be some mutual attraction. As much as the incels blame the hot ripped “chads” for having unfair advantages in getting all the hot girls, as you have heard many times here from women, they are a lot less interested in flash, super good looks, ripped bodies or cocky behaviour, than they are in a guy who notices them, pays attention, is a decent guy who knows how to carry himself out in the world.

 

[Mandala]

interactive experiences like the AI sex bot at Go Love AI to get comfortable with dialogue and responses.

Sex bot could be an idea but I suspect it is a way to satisfy fanatasies instead of teaching skills. Any idea what it is like?

It is free but they get you with the upgrades

 

[Sonic Temple]

So, I’m a pretty (some might say a very) introverted guy, who did “just ok” with girls as a teen/ young man, but was a bit shy to make the first move, which cost me a lot of opportunities with girls even where there seemed to be a mutual attraction. As I got a bit older, I had more women friends and colleagues. I got used to socializing with them, in a non sexual, non predatory way. I got comfortable talking to them. Had good conversations. Women are actually really interesting to talk to, way different than conversations with my
Guy friends and colleagues.

Taking this into social situations, I felt more comfortable just striking up a conversation with a woman I found attractive. Just a regular conversation. Get to know each other a bit, and show you pay attention, and notice them. Share funny stories. Laughter breaks a lot of barriers and inhibitions. It’s often nice to show that you notice something unique about them, and compliment them, even as an icebreaker. Not “hey that low cut dress makes your tits look great” rather, “cool shoes, I’ve never seen that style before” or “you really seem into this song” or if they are sipping on an interesting cocktail “ what are you drinking? looks really interesting “. If she offers you a taste, especially from her straw, it’s a pretty good signal that she is interested. These aren’t “lines” or “PUA” techniques, you are legitimately showing that you are interested.

Be generous but not pushy. “I’m going to grab another drink, could I get you one?” Rather than “BARTENDER, get the lady a drink!” And don’t just shower generosity on the hot girl, call and pay for the uber if you are in a group Tip well, but don’t go over the topIf you are out at a bar or restaurant NEVER demean the waitstaff. Your behaviour towards others says a lot about you as a person.

Be gentlemanly and show some class. As an
example, quote a while ago I was with a group of people at a club, dancing. One of the group was a younger woman, who was very attractive. There was a guy, not with us, who was pretty drunk and kept grabbing her to dance with him. Now I wasn’t going to challenge or threaten him (he was much bigger than me and the last time I got in a fight was when I was 12 on the school playground with the class bully) so I just leaned over to him and said into his ear “hey man, that’s my sister in law, OK?” and he’s was like “no problem” and left us alone. Later, the extra attention I got from the women in the group was obvious. Just using this as an example of showing examples of your good character, who acts like a stand up guy, and yes a man when it is necessary.

When chatting, show a bit about yourself, but don’t over share, and see how she responds and if she shares, then take the conversation deeper. I think humility and mild self deprecation wins out over cocky and overconfident.

This is a lot of work, and if you are going out for the night, and just want to take someone home to fuck, it is not that efficient (tho you’d be surprised how often women respond quickly to someone who is non threatening and demonstrates that they are a good guy). But just chatting with girls with no pressure, no expectations is a way of showing interest, and showing that you are interesting and a decent guy. That’s a decent way to start to see if there can be some mutual attraction. As much as the incels blame the hot ripped “chads” for having unfair advantages in getting all the hot girls, as you have heard many times here from women, they are a lot less interested in flash, super good looks, ripped bodies or cocky behaviour, than they are in a guy who notices them, pays attention, is a decent guy who knows how to carry himself out in the world.

This is a brilliant piece. Well written mate and much appreciated.

 

[massman]

This is a brilliant piece. Well written mate and much appreciated.

Thanks.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

I wouldn't go with the opinion of any 1 woman. No one is the authority on men.

It depends on what their priorities are. If someone cares about looks and wealth, the clothes someone wears are important. They look for shallow indicicators of wealth and status. They look for a certain style of clothes.

If someone cares about smarts, they care about what you say and looks matter less. The shirt you wear is irrelevant.


Being a creep is just in someone's whole being. Its part of their personality. They're just off putting.They dont get women at all and they say creepy stuff all the time. It doesnt matter what color shirt you wear. A creep is a creep. Its the stuff a guy says and its drooling over a pair of tits like they've never seen tits before. It's thinking every woman wants to f*ck you and that everyone woman is for sale. Its thinking every woman is there to oggle and having no self control about it.

There's lots of other things that make a creep but if you're trying to pick up women, just be yourself. Make some jokes, dont assume they want to f*ck you. They 100% dont. Your prostitute doesnt even want to fuck you. Women take a while to warm up and figure out of they even like you, then there's like a 90% chance there's something wrong with a guy. like, they probably have a small dick... they can't fuck...they finger women with long nails...they eat pussy like they dont know what theyre doing...they live with their mom or have roomates... their dick bends weird... they admit to being a person that hires prostitutes.

There's so many things that can go wrong. The list is endless. I broke up with a sugar daddy once because he was a mouth breather with bad breath. Rich AF and dumb as a stump with a huge cock. I couldn't get past his whistling booger and Halitosis.

 

[massman]

I wouldn't go with the opinion of any 1 woman. No one is the authority on men.

It depends on what their priorities are. If someone cares about looks and wealth, the clothes someone wears are important. They look for shallow indicicators of wealth and status. They look for a certain style of clothes.

If someone cares about smarts, they care about what you say and looks matter less. The shirt you wear is irrelevant.


Being a creep is just in someone's whole being. Its part of their personality. They're just off putting.They dont get women at all and they say creepy stuff all the time. It doesnt matter what color shirt you wear. A creep is a creep. Its the stuff a guy says and its drooling over a pair of tits like they've never seen tits before. It's thinking every woman wants to f*ck you and that everyone woman is for sale. Its thinking every woman is there to oggle and having no self control about it.

There's lots of other things that make a creep but if you're trying to pick up women, just be yourself. Make some jokes, dont assume they want to f*ck you. They 100% dont. Your prostitute doesnt even want to fuck you. Women take a while to warm up and figure out of they even like you, then there's like a 90% chance there's something wrong with a guy. like, they probably have a small dick... they can't fuck...they finger women with long nails...they eat pussy like they dont know what theyre doing...they live with their mom or have roomates... their dick bends weird... they admit to being a person that hires prostitutes.

There's so many things that can go wrong. The list is endless. I broke up with a sugar daddy once because he was a mouth breather with bad breath. Rich AF and dumb as a stump with a huge cock. I couldn't get past his whistling booger and Halitosis.

Fair enough. We share many of the same views, just from different angles, said in different ways.

And, I’ll admit my own bias. If a woman interacts with me with the attitude that there is a 90% chance that there is something wrong with me, or were overtly shallow and focused only on wealth and status and clothes, and would disqualify me if my dick bent weird, I wouldn’t waste the time to get to know them. We’d be incompatible from the get go. A polite hi, a bit of friendly small talk is all the energy I’d expend, IDGAF how hot they are. Not as much as for women, but for many guys, bad attitude, superficiality and the impression of gold digging is a major boner killer, and a tight ass, a great set of tits or a pretty face can’t cancel that out.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

We have so many options, men get disqualified for the silliest reasons. Its better to just be yourself and if you meet someone authentically, great! You dont have to spend the rest of your life presenting a facade and worrying about what kind of shirt matters or whatever other irrelevant thing.

Im not single or looking but when I was, the options were terrible. I couldn't even look at a person without them getting the wrong impression. Super unattractive men with no goals, no future and no dick really thought they were a top prize. I just started telling everyone I was gay so men would stop talking to me. Lol

If you're paying by the hour no one's really looking at you that way because we arent looking at the future. We're looking at dollars and honestly the creepier and more off putting a person is, the more likely they're going to spend a lot of money for a very long time because no one is going to tolerate them for free.

Creeps are my bread and butter.

In real life though, I hope that telling them im a flaming homosexual is enough man repellent.

Fair enough. We share many of the same views, just from different angles, said in different ways.

And, I’ll admit my own bias. If a woman interacts with me with the attitude that there is a 90% chance that there is something wrong with me, or were overtly shallow and focused only on wealth and status and clothes, and would disqualify me if my dick bent weird, I wouldn’t waste the time to get to know them. We’d be incompatible from the get go. A polite hi, a bit of friendly small talk is all the energy I’d expend, IDGAF how hot they are. Not as much as for women, but for many guys, bad attitude, superficiality and the impression of gold digging is a major boner killer, and a tight ass, a great set of tits or a pretty face can’t cancel that out.

 

[massman]

We have so many options, men get disqualified for the silliest reasons. Its better to just be yourself and if you meet someone authentically, great! You dont have to spend the rest of your life presenting a facade and worrying about what kind of shirt matters or whatever other irrelevant thing.

Im not single or looking but when I was, the options were terrible. I couldn't even look at a person without them getting the wrong impression. Super unattractive men with no goals, no future and no dick really thought they were a top prize. I just started telling everyone I was gay so men would stop talking to me. Lol

If you're paying by the hour no one's really looking at you that way because we arent looking at the future. We're looking at dollars and honestly the creepier and more off putting a person is, the more likely they're going to spend a lot of money for a very long time because no one is going to tolerate them for free.

Creeps are my bread and butter.

In real life though, I hope that telling them im a flaming homosexual is enough man repellent.

You have to admit that, whatever your perspective, the transactional relationship between a client and a sex worker is one of the most pure, honest and uncomplicated relationships that exist between men and women .