I Have A Question

[Annessa]

Hi everyone,



First let me say everyone be safe and take care of each other ALWAYS! We should not come to this conclusion when tragedies happen, keep it up all the time.

I have a question and I hope I can get some honest and sincere answers. I'm not looking for what I want to hear but your honesty.

If you arrange an appointment with a lady through TERB and she asks before the appointment takes place to not 'Rate' her (lets face it, it really does strip away at females 'womanhood' and thats hard to find again and get back) will you still 'Rate' her regardless?

{I don't mean... }
I spend time with 'soandso' from 'spandso' and she arrived dressed so sexy and definatly was beautiful, her personality was great we had awesome time talking cause she is so easy to get along with, she's very passionate/professional/quiet lady during intimacy, etc'

{I mean}
'I saw 'soandso' from 'soandso' and here's my review...
BlowJob=9
Tits=8,
BBBJ=7
I would definatly fuck her again.

I mean seriously, WTF is that. You don't think that is so degrading to a woman? You want 'sex workers' to have class and yet you don't think you need to have some as well being a man.


So I await your honest responses (i hope)



Thanks
Annessa


~*~*~*~*~*~*~


REAL MEN ~ Joe Jackson (Covered By: Tori Amos)



Take your mind back
I don't know when
Sometime when it always seemed to be just us and them
Girls that wore pink
Boys that wore blue
Boys that always grew up better men
Than me and you

What's a man now
What's a man mean
Is he rough or is he rugged
Cultural and clean
Now it's all changed
It's got to change more
We think it's getting better
But nobody's really sure

And so it goes, go round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are

See the nice boys
Dancing in pairs
Golden earring, golden tan
Blow-wave in the hair
Sure they're all straight, straight as a line
All the guys are macho
See their leather shine

You don't want to sound dumb
Don't want to offend
So don't call me a faggot
Not unless you are a friend
Then if you're tall
Handsome and strong
You can wear the uniform and i could play along

And so it goes, go round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are

Time to get scared
Time to change plan
Don't know how to treat a lady
Don't know how to be a man
Time to admit
What you call defeat
'Cause there's women running past you now
And you just drag your feet

Man makes a gun
Man goes to war
Man can kill and man can drink
And man can take a whore
Kill all the blacks
kill all the reds
If there's war between the sexes
Then there'll be no people left

And so it goes, go round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are
And so it goes, go round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are
And so it goes, go round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are

 

[gramage]

well, if I was seeing an MPA that knew I was on TERB and asked as you are here to be a little more subtle shall we say about the review (no scale, a little vauge on exactly what happened as opposed to a blow-by-blow recounting) I would. if she insisted on no review at all I don't know.

 

[bigballs]

If I was asked not to rate her or mention our encounter, I would not.

Come on everybody...it's all about respect!

 

[Goober Mcfly]

We try to preach the motto: "Respect the ladies, and respect their wishes".

If the lady doesn't want a review, you shouldn't review her. If she doesn't want details given in a review, you shouldn't give those details. If she does allow details to be posted, please, please, please be respectful in them. The example Annessa gave above:

'I saw 'soandso' from 'soandso' and here's my review...
BlowJob=9
Tits=8,
BBBJ=7
I would definatly fuck her again.

should be unacceptable as a review style. Sure, the info may be true, and the opinion may be honest, but a little tact isn't too much to ask, is it?

Unfortunately, there will always be a few whose dictionary goes from tacky to tadpole.

 

[The Doctor]

What's in a number...

The numeric rating system is a little too subjective as you may have noticed from the disagreements between TERBites in some recent reviews. I like the fact that many recent reviews have focused more on the experiencial aspects and the connection with the SP rather than an arbitrary review of physical characteristics and services.

If the SP asked not to be reviewed specifically on a numeric basis I would oblige, especially given that I am not partial that style. However, a review of the SP and the session as it relates to the SP/client interaction that was or was not appealing should be forthcoming by the TERBite and expected by the SP. After all this is a review board. As well any misrepresentations of services or features advertised by the SP should be identified.

 

[Annessa]

The main reason why I asked is because I have deliberatly avoided indicating my 'services' available becuase of some of the things I have read in some reviews.

Granted I have seen many real men out here posting respectably but the 'rate/grade' system.... I just see that and thank God it's not my name because I know I wouldn't be able to handle it emotionally.

I honestly feel at that point I would feel like 2 cents for the first time ever in this profession and I wouldn't be able to 'wash that clean'

This is not about 'ladies' getting away with bad calls it's about privacy and respect. I worked very hard for years to keep my 'job' very discreet and I'd really like to keep it that way since I want to be a doctor and I don't need this coming back to haunt me in 10 years.

By all means I don't mind a decent & clean review, whether the client felt our experience 'clicked' or 'didn't click'.






Annessa
xoxo

 

[Jaman50]

Seeking Guidance

I recently posted my first review of a past encounter. I was taking a “lead” from other posts here and used an X out of 10 rating on certain aspects of the lady I met.
Body, Looks, Attitude, Service were rated on a scale of 1 to 10. I avoided explicit details of our meeting as this I feel is between the parties involved.

Question ??? Is this level of Rating acceptable? or should one restrict the review to general description / comments on Highs & Lows?

Feedback please .. Annessa and other ladies.

As my motto shows I never want to offend “ Loves to Give … LOVE”

 

[Annessa]

Okay,

I think there are some things that a 'rate system' could work as part of the review, at the same time the lady does not feel totally exposed or hurt.


Appearance =
Dress Manor =
Personality =
Attitude =
Socialable =
Comfort Level =
Overall Experience =
Recommandation =


But the actual time spent being intimate should not be 'rated'

I've never done that to a client, EVER.
Cause I could just imagine how that would make them feel if I said 'they are the worst lay ever'.

Words do hurt people and have a lasting effect on some people, remember that when your giving a review, good or bad.



Annessa

 

[Mr. G]

Annessa,

If someone was really after more detailed information about an SP, for whatever reason, a PM would be a better avenue. This is not to say that the PM may or may appear on the open board. Can't imaging how this could happen?

I do agree with everyone so far, the wishes of the SP should be taken into consideration. Your suggested rating criteria are well founded. Whether or not you can make this a reality is questionable. As Sheik said "but hiding behind a keyboard makes them feel invincible" So true!

Mr. G

 

[Jaman50]

Unfortunately some do hide behind whatever. But these usually are either cowards or bullies.

I would say to the ladies … do research before you agree on a meeting and be wary of those who have posted what you consider unsavory reviews. Reading some of the reviews here one can get a sense of the authors personality and demeanor.

Just food for thought

 

[Gord's Bro]

Another thought . . .

On those times when I've availed myself of the services of either a SP or MPA, my whole focus (at least I think it was my whole focus -- once we got "down and dirty" I kind of lost my mind!!!) was -- and always will be -- to enjoy and enjoy being enjoyed. Hopefully leading to return visits.

I'm not a masochist, so I get no pleasure out of pissing off or hurting the other person. There's no enjoyment in that.

Question, Annessa - What if I find a real find out there, however? Do I shout it to the world -- or at least TERBITES?? Or keep it to myself? (Probably not a great idea since I'd soon be very happy but very broke!)

GB

 

[Astra]

Annessa:

Whilst not against reviews in theory, I am definitely not partial to being rated and having graphic details of encounters displayed for publc review. Personally, I've found that all members of Terb I've had the pleasure of meeting have respected my wishes regarding reviews.

In fact I'd like to take this opportunity of thanking all of you true gentlemen out there. It's truly a pleasure to do business with you.

Ciao
Astra

 

[train]

Other than the degree of explicitness ( are some guys trying to save some money by substituting Terb for Penthouse Letters ? ), let's face it reviews are only a problem when they are negative .

How does one politely say :

1) that the web photographer was a magician , and that a candid photo wouldn't make the farmer's almanac ;

2) that she considered hygene to be a greeting ;

3) and that services were curtailled because you were beginning to feel like a necrophilliac (sp?) .

An honest review can't be done sometimes without hurting someone's feelings even if the words are polite .

While there are some "reviewers" here that are obvious a**holes , most actually err on the favourable side from what I've seen . An honest web site and a few words of recommendation are all that are really needed to avoid the disasters and embarrassements .

 

[Goober Mcfly]

Hi Gene!

 

[train]

1)

2) There is no excuse for poor hygiene but sometimes something the lass ate can result in a rather bad odour down below.

Who eats road-kill ? lol

I appreciate your point and the keyboard version of your 'silver tongue ' but I think anyone reading that about herself would still feel hurt .

 

[Annessa]

Reviewing/Talking about the actual intimacy part is fine.
Again it's the words used.


Example;

Instead of saying 'She sucked my dick and it was fucking amazing'
Perhaps say 'She performed oral and it was amazing'
OR
Instead of saying 'She let me shove my dick up her ass)
Perhaps say 'She enjoys anal intercourse'

Or something along those lines, I think you get what I mean.
The some point is made but one is done with taste.



Annessa

 

[gramage]

I realize all these are just examples, but I'd still bet their peaking the interest of more guys here then just me

 

[Annessa]

I realize all these are just examples, but I'd still bet their peaking the interest of more guys here then just me

LOL


Annessa

 

[Annessa]

Thanks so much for all your honest replies, it gives me alot to concider.



Annessa

 

[thighspy]

I personally pay absolutely no attention to the numbering system,or for that matter gross recommendations.
As i feel,that it reflects the Guy more than the Lady.If he can not motivate the Lady,then his opinion means nothing.
I do however pay attention to recommendations--as to punctuallity,cleanliness,good behavior,charm etc etc.

Life is too short to hurry.