If you could undo your divorce, would you do it? ( as miserable as the marriage was )

[wangbang]

No way I would "undo" my divorce.

However, I would undo a couple of other people's divorces where the crazy ended up on my front lawn. :frusty:

 

[Cypher]

Fuck no and thank heavens. I got out relatively young and relatively clean. Didn't really own much, no kids and my career was not fully established. Really dodged a bullet. My ex's 2nd shot at a meal ticket was the sap who really got taken to the cleaners.

 

[Worf]

but this time I would get an iron clad pre nup.

... no such thing.

Look at what happened to McCain?

 

[meninwhite]

Wouldn't it be nice to have an open marriage ?

This option would avoid 90% of the divorces.

And both partners would to have more fun in life. Even together. LOL

Why do we allow the society to dictate our living style / standards ? We are just too brainwashed, I guess...

 

[afterhours]

Wouldn't it be nice to have an open marriage ?

This option would avoid 90% of the divorces.

And both partners would to have more fun in life. Even together. LOL

Why do we allow the society to dictate our living style / standards ? We are just too brainwashed, I guess...

If all that would be required of me were to book for my SO and myself female escorts for 3somes and 4somes every other week I think I could overcome the brainwashing . But if the SO feels that it's not quite equitable, the question arises: would you be OK with the mother of your children getting some strange cock every now and then?

 

[Aardvark154]

Wouldn't it be nice to have an open marriage?

For you perhaps, for myself no and from real world observation no. I know that for many TERBites this is an extremely unpleasant point to bring up, but infidelity is indeed a major cause of action in divorce cases.

 

[Eddie401]

No, no and no. My first wife was a demon in the sack but a total bitch. My second wife is very pleasant but boring in the sack. We have a very pleasant business relationship raising a family. I've been able to have great sex on the side during marriage #2 first with GFs (too much drama) then FWBs (was supposed to be no drama but they always lie) and now stick to seeing SPs when I travel. You know the joke "you don't pay the lady for sex, you pay her to leave afterwards". AND some SPs, especially independents can feel just like a girlfriend for an hour or two when you see them.

So yah, no, no no. I can find sex easy enough, but living day to day with a psycho would be too much.

And this makes me think of thread I want to start.

 

[skidoo1]

Not a fucking chance. Best move I ever made.

 

[Ceiling Cat]

Wouldn't it be nice to have an open marriage ?

This option would avoid 90% of the divorces.

And both partners would to have more fun in life. Even together. LOL

Why do we allow the society to dictate our living style / standards ? We are just too brainwashed, I guess...

I seem to remember reading about marriages in Finland. 40% of married people know about the spouses companion and do not mind.

 

[danmand]

No, my divorces were costly but worth it. In hindsight I should have divorced much earlier instead of hanging on .

 

[Lustology]

Wouldn't it be nice to have an open marriage ?

This option would avoid 90% of the divorces.

And both partners would to have more fun in life. Even together. LOL

Why do we allow the society to dictate our living style / standards ? We are just too brainwashed, I guess...

So basically you want everyone to catch aids or a std, very smart.

 

[luv2fress]

Not a fucking chance. Best move I ever made.

Can't agree more. Lost a ton of $$$ but it was well worth it. I do miss fucking her ass though. There is an acronym for my ex

Can't Understand Normal Things

She was so hot they put a picture of her in the dictionary, just look up Bitch

 

[littleone12]

I would NEVER undo my divorce.

I was absolutely miserable... and I'm not talking a little sad... I'm talking stress-induced psychosis and an anxiety disorder that had me hospitalized 7 times for up to a month during the last 1.5 years of our marriage. 13 months of being catatonic on a couch... doped up on medication that made me put on an additional 1/3 of my original weight. I watched him practically destroy the business I had laboured so hard to build.

No one will ever be able to understand what he put me through. His manipulation and control tactics continue to break my brain.

But at last... I am free from his grasp. I no longer feel ugly, used and in despair.

And HE got all of the assets, I received the debt. Gladly

 

[FearlessFreep]

I'm not sure if there is such a thing as true love. Many relationships and two marriages later and I have yet to find the kind of love/feelings that "true love" is supposed to instill. Lust wanes, lust mistaken as love still wanes. You're left with a sense to care for, a duty to stay together, but a love to die for, or even look forward to come home to does not exist in the long haul. Sorry Sophie.

 

[Terminax]

Absolutely no way in hell. If anything, if I could go back in time, I'd have divorced her sooner and been the one that pulled the trigger instead of her. I would still have my possessions, my cats and more money if I hadn't tried to work things out.

 

[good to go]

In one word NEVER.

 

[**Sophie**]

I'm not sure if there is such a thing as true love. Many relationships and two marriages later and I have yet to find the kind of love/feelings that "true love" is supposed to instill. Lust wanes, lust mistaken as love still wanes. You're left with a sense to care for, a duty to stay together, but a love to die for, or even look forward to come home to does not exist in the long haul. Sorry Sophie.

Maybe you're just one of those people who don't find love until later in life, when one knows more of what one really needs/wants. OR maybe you are just one of those people who like being alone and that's okay too. I'm sorry but I have to strongly disagree with you.

 

[FearlessFreep]

Can you find one married couple together for 10 years or more that are still madly in love? More than not it has become a managed coexistence. Caring, a sense of belonging, but not the kind of love that lights up a heart when one or the other enter the room. What is taken as love at the beginning cools, life happens, divorce happens, and the whole thing is set in motion again. Married one more time? Never in a million years. I learn the hard way I suppose, but I eventually understand the lesson.

 

[johnhenrygalt]

I lost EVERYTHING - that is the brilliant part of the courts. She never worked and got awarded everything.

I don't understand that. Under Ontario family law, the assets accumulated during marriage are split 50/50.

 

[alex52]

Pointless thread, whats done is done.