Pretty much all your points trying to render Islam as positive
I think you miss the point.
If you look at the Quran or the Old Testament, much is clearly bizarre, primitive and out dated. So most Christians and Muslims pick and choose what they believe.
Maybe Middle Eastern religious dictatorships like Saudi and Iran enforce codes of conduct, but many of the residents do not believe the bullshit, but are required to go along with it nevertheless. Official cultures change slowly. Homosexual sex got you a lengthy prison term in the UK or Canada as late as the 1960's and probably far later in the US red States.