I have had a bunch of frustrating experiences with indies recently and I'm wondering if this is normal or if I've just had some bad luck.
First indie - I was in her city just for the day for a work meeting and booked a 6 hour date (planning to take her for dinner, etc). Sent her a 25% deposit. Date was supposed to start at 5 pm. She texted me in the morning to tell me the building she worked in for her other job had been damaged overnight and she needed to go over there and check out the damage and she might need to push our date later or shorten it. I said no problem and asked her to text me once she got there with an update on how bad the damage was and a more accurate ETA (i.e. is it bad enough that she'll want to cancel altogether). She agreed to update me once she got there.
3 pm rolls around, still no answer. I texted her asking for an update on whether our date was going ahead, received no response. Texted again at 4 pm (an hour before the date was scheduled to start), no response. She responded at 4:30 saying maybe we can push the date to 8 pm and getting mad at me for having texted twice for an update (even though she had promised to provide one). I agreed to push the date to 8 pm. She texted at 6:30 pm and said she would have to cancel. Wasn't upset by her needing to take care of her other job, was upset by her agreeing to give me an update when she got there and not doing so; I could have done something else with my evening if she had let me know sooner.
Second indie - booked a 6 hour date again with a plan for a leisurely dinner, etc. The night before our date, she texted me to say something came up and she wouldn't be able to see me. I asked about rescheduling; we rescheduled for the following week. She accepted a 25% e-transfer deposit. The morning of our rescheduled date, I texted to confirm we were still on. She texted back at 10:00 am saying yes we're still on. Then three hours before our date was to start, she texted to cancel and say she couldn't "do this session at this time" and didn't "realize it earlier." She returned the deposit, but again after already cancelling and rescheduling on me and then cancelling again three hours before the session, I was really annoyed.
Third indie - saw her four times and it went well, then we'd booked a fifth date (again, 6 hours, it's my preferred duration), then the day before the fifth date, she cancelled saying she was sick. We rescheduled and I sent a deposit. Then the morning of our rescheduled date, she texted me to say she wouldn't be able to see me and returned the deposit. I am obviously not going to see her again given the flakiness.
Two other indies I've contacted recently to try to get something set up; one hasn't responded yet (emailed five days ago) and one responded asking for more info about what I want our date to look like and then didn't respond after that. I am always respectful in emails and in my initial inquiry include date, time, duration of booking, and real world screening info. I'm looking at "higher-end" ladies through Tryst who charge $400-$600 per hour; I'm not using LeoList or running into scams. Each one of these five ladies has multiple positive reviews on terb.
Is this a normal experience to have with indies? Are they all just bad at admin? Kinda crazy to me that they'd be cancelling last minute a $2000+ booking.
First indie - I was in her city just for the day for a work meeting and booked a 6 hour date (planning to take her for dinner, etc). Sent her a 25% deposit. Date was supposed to start at 5 pm. She texted me in the morning to tell me the building she worked in for her other job had been damaged overnight and she needed to go over there and check out the damage and she might need to push our date later or shorten it. I said no problem and asked her to text me once she got there with an update on how bad the damage was and a more accurate ETA (i.e. is it bad enough that she'll want to cancel altogether). She agreed to update me once she got there.
3 pm rolls around, still no answer. I texted her asking for an update on whether our date was going ahead, received no response. Texted again at 4 pm (an hour before the date was scheduled to start), no response. She responded at 4:30 saying maybe we can push the date to 8 pm and getting mad at me for having texted twice for an update (even though she had promised to provide one). I agreed to push the date to 8 pm. She texted at 6:30 pm and said she would have to cancel. Wasn't upset by her needing to take care of her other job, was upset by her agreeing to give me an update when she got there and not doing so; I could have done something else with my evening if she had let me know sooner.
Second indie - booked a 6 hour date again with a plan for a leisurely dinner, etc. The night before our date, she texted me to say something came up and she wouldn't be able to see me. I asked about rescheduling; we rescheduled for the following week. She accepted a 25% e-transfer deposit. The morning of our rescheduled date, I texted to confirm we were still on. She texted back at 10:00 am saying yes we're still on. Then three hours before our date was to start, she texted to cancel and say she couldn't "do this session at this time" and didn't "realize it earlier." She returned the deposit, but again after already cancelling and rescheduling on me and then cancelling again three hours before the session, I was really annoyed.
Third indie - saw her four times and it went well, then we'd booked a fifth date (again, 6 hours, it's my preferred duration), then the day before the fifth date, she cancelled saying she was sick. We rescheduled and I sent a deposit. Then the morning of our rescheduled date, she texted me to say she wouldn't be able to see me and returned the deposit. I am obviously not going to see her again given the flakiness.
Two other indies I've contacted recently to try to get something set up; one hasn't responded yet (emailed five days ago) and one responded asking for more info about what I want our date to look like and then didn't respond after that. I am always respectful in emails and in my initial inquiry include date, time, duration of booking, and real world screening info. I'm looking at "higher-end" ladies through Tryst who charge $400-$600 per hour; I'm not using LeoList or running into scams. Each one of these five ladies has multiple positive reviews on terb.
Is this a normal experience to have with indies? Are they all just bad at admin? Kinda crazy to me that they'd be cancelling last minute a $2000+ booking.
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