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First prize is a week at the Rockslinger country estate in the Hamptons complete with an indoor swimming pool, sauna and a pool table.Kyra_to said:
Second prize is a weekend at the Rockslinger country estate.
Third prize is a dinner date at the Rockslinger country estate.
Cycleguy007 said:Pegging... Just curious... is this a "power thing" for chicks? A few ladies have brought it up now, and I am curious what it is about it that appeals to you.
Seriously... I mean, its a toy right? From a male perspective, I am wondering what the "allure" is for you ladies... Just wondering.
Miss Maya summed it up fairly well, not much I'd add.
I will say that for me pegging is a very small part of what I enjoy in strap on play, the allure is very much in experimenting with gender roles.
When someone is unsure about the idea of strap on play I usually say the best way to explore the idea is to do so within the safety of your own sensuality and sexuality. Imagine two women playing with gender roles and strap on play, bringing each other pleasure as that is probably the easiest for you to relate to.
The fun of gender experimentation is that it is a simple and arousing as enjoying watching a beautiful woman ride me to orgasm, or taking a woman from behind while she pleasures my male partner. Even if I don't actually feel the sensations that you do I can enjoy the smells, the sights, the sounds and the tastes that surround me, and since my preferred 'strap on' is an insertable one with optional vibration yes I too can enjoy the feelings though it's true it's not the same as having my own penis.
There is so much one can do when I assume the male role that I really enjoy the freedom that comes with being able to experience having a penis (at least a close proximity!).
Est. retail value? Can it be substituted for cash?Rockslinger said:
I don't really need a weekend in the country, my heels get all muddy.
How about a night in my palace of pleasure? A light BDSM "dungeon" where the only goal is the lady's bliss!Kyra_to said:
Guaranteed no mud involved. Unless you want it for a facial or something.
Wait a second, not so fast Rock ... Maya asked us guys a question, and I'm sure she would like an answer ... don't wimp-out on the lady now
Don't get me wrong, I'm as happy with my cock as the next guy (would never want to trade it in), but I can't believe that I'm the only guy here who hasn't given some thought to what it would be like ~ as Maya says ~ to own a pussy for a day! Clearly, some terb ladies have no problem admitting that they enjoy experimenting with owning a cock! Is it that they are just less insecure about it?
Maya poses an interesting question: is there such a thing as pussy envy? I know I have a weird imagination, but I have to admit that, in some of my wilder sex-dreams, I have played with the role-reversal theme (yes, the subconscious mind is the repository of the most deviant fantasies). And I'm not talking anal sex ... my curiosity is fixated strictly on pussy, and the multiple orgasm thing.Miss Maya Blue said:
Don't get me wrong, I'm as happy with my cock as the next guy (would never want to trade it in), but I can't believe that I'm the only guy here who hasn't given some thought to what it would be like ~ as Maya says ~ to own a pussy for a day! Clearly, some terb ladies have no problem admitting that they enjoy experimenting with owning a cock! Is it that they are just less insecure about it?
Orgasm play? Ohhhhhh so very tempting but I will have to pass. Just the mere mention of it makes me weak in the knees and gives me that certain longing throb that every woman knows...Captain Fantastic said:
I would accept this type of mud but anything else is a definite no!Captain Fantastic said:
Your loss...Kyra_to said:
Oh well, I guess I'll just have to keep going to the regulars and searching for that elusive total package.
It can be a power thing. But as Maya and Kyra already said, having a cock (whether a bio or a siliconne one) doesn't necessarily equals being in power or being dominant. Although it can be.Cycleguy007 said:Pegging... Just curious... is this a "power thing" for chicks? A few ladies have brought it up now, and I am curious what it is about it that appeals to you.
Seriously... I mean, its a toy right? From a male perspective, I am wondering what the "allure" is for you ladies... Just wondering.
But it's definitely more than a toy for me. When I wear one of mine, I feel it as a part of myself. I stroke it like it is part of me. And it feels good to fuck someone with it. Or to get a blowjob. Of course, I don't "feel" the physical sensations on my cock, but everything else is there: the visual, the smell, the mental aspect. And the physical sensations are there too: I have been known to cum from fucking someone with my cock.
Fascinating ... I know I'm probably walking into a mine-field here, but when you think about it, why is it that a significant percentage of women (at least the terb-types) seem to have no problem when it comes to enacting role-reversal, or bi-sexual fantasies? According to the ladies, a strap-on is a reasonably functional substitute for a cock, at least when simulating intercourse, and it would appear to be a turn-on for some women, without bringing into question their femininity. Whereas, most guys, including me, clearly are not comfortable with role-reversal scenarios, because there's not really anyway for a guy to play the female sexual role ~ not to mention, no functional substitute for a vagina ~ that doesn't bring into question his masculinity, and risk rampant ridicule. Obviously, exploring our feminine side has it's limits. I guess we'll never really know what it feels like to have a pussy ... not even an artificial one.genintoronto said:
You know, most of the men I see who are looking for strap-on play are not looking for a role reversal. It's not at all about genderbending.snowleopard said:
It may be about being dominated, but it's REALLY about getting that different feeling, that new sensation, the alien, the taboo.
It's about elevating the level of arousal to a place it hasn't been before.
It's about having a HUGE orgasm.
It's about getting away from the ordinary.
It's about enjoying sex in an adventurous taboo way that is challenging.
If it feels good, why one must call something masculine or feminine? Must we always try to find something wrong with what we do? Why should it matter to a man's cock if it is being sucked on by a man or a woman? Does it not all feel about the same? (actually I am guessing a bigger mouth is better, and men have bigger mouths so probably give better blow jobs lol) Doesn't if feel great no matter who's doing it?
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Nina
You're kidding right? Sex is way more than the act itself. Of course it matters who is sucking my cock.
I would much rather be thinking "this is great, I m getting blown by this hot chick" as oppossed to "OMG, I must be gay, some dude is sucking my cock."
I would much rather be thinking "this is great, I m getting blown by this hot chick" as oppossed to "OMG, I must be gay, some dude is sucking my cock."
As sexy Nina suggested, strapon play in a M/F scenario doesn't necessarily involve gender bending. It can just be about giving the male partner a great orgasm.snowleopard said:
Although to me, gender bending is definitely one of the appeal.
And I think you would be surprised to know how many straight men are into cross-dressing for instance. And contrary to common belief, most men who cross-dress as part of their sexual life are straight men rather than gay or bi men. A notable exception are drag queens who make a public performance of their cross dressing.
To me, there's something extremely interesting and appealing in a man who wears lingerie for instance. The contrast is both shocking and titillating (rather than ridiculous)... not unlike me wearing a cock. There's also something very 'manly' to me in a man who is secure enough in his masculinity to explore his femininity.
Well... I can't comment on the guy vs girl thing, because no guy has ever been near "mister happy"... Call me homophobic if you want, it just ain't my thing.Sexy Nina Leone said:
Now, to answer your question, Some girls are better at it than others!
And I have actually had it done where it DIDN'T feel good! You may even be able to answer this question yourself Nina... does it feel good regardless of WHO is going down on you?True, I didn't take into account the cross-dressing option ~ I guess it is a way for some guys to explore female sexuality, though it has never appealed to me. I was more fascinated by the strap-on thing, which certainly seems like role-reversal to me. As I mentioned, in my most deviant dreams, I have found myself somehow morphed into a female body, weird as it seems, which would no doubt suggest some fascination with the possibility of role-reversal. It just seems that there is no male equivalent of the strap-on experience, i.e. no way for males to enact, or have a quasi-female sexual experience, and the sensation, if only psychological, of having one's vagina fucked. Perhaps that's part of the feminine mystique.genintoronto said:
lol ... nah, I've seen that before ... just doesn't look at all comfortable, and I'm wondering, where exactly does my package go to avoid severe damage from the pounding you would give me ... oucha ma poucha ... maybe a novel use for my jockstrap & cup?! Might work for a eunuch though!genintoronto said:
