Married but I want a side chick, what do I do?

[Ahri]

The hobby is safer. A side chick can find out things about you. And women can catch feelings. Or when you decide to end it be vindictive. The whole point is to keep it "professional"

Oh and side chicks say no, get "headaches", will start fights, and also have other partners. At the rate you said? In Toronto? As well can text/call at the wrong time, decide they need "help" financially.....

In other words, turn into girlfriends.

You pay em to leave.

I definitely agree with this. I have clients who book me for a hour and they just complain about their wife for the first 45 mins and fuck me for the last 15 lol

 

[Butler1000]

I definitely agree with this. I have clients who book me for a hour and they just complain about their wife for the first 45 mins and fuck me for the last 15 lol

That's kinda nuts. But it's their dime. I never really even mentioned my SO, but I wasn't there due to problems at home. I just wanted a bit of strange.

I wanted the nakey time!

 

[Cholla]

I definitely agree with this. I have clients who book me for a hour and they just complain about their wife for the first 45 mins and fuck me for the last 15 lol

That’s so funny! Just to make you smile … Once I was waiting for my appointment in incall and heard through thin walls how my future “date” being fucked for 45 minutes. I was so turned on that … I lasted only 15 minutes during my appointment .

 

[uchual]

"What do I do?"

Don't get caught.

 

[speakercontrols]

I AM going to therapy indeed but not much of help

IKR? I went for a few months as well and 1/2 way through my therapist called me, "a fucking little shit". She was great.

 

[speakercontrols]

Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!

Try Sugaring. You're paying right now so that won't change. In addition, given the exchange of money with Sugaring, it's still kept at that professional level. Then again, there's nothing wrong with finding that Escort that you click with and just having a long term with her as well.

Others have rightly pointed out the downsides with Affairs (same shit, no exchange of $). Assuming you want to stay married, that's something to be avoided.

 

[Ahri]

That's kinda nuts. But it's their dime. I never really even mentioned my SO, but I wasn't there due to problems at home. I just wanted a bit of strange.

I wanted the nakey time!

I mean it doesn’t happen often!! But it has happened a couple times during the holidays last year lol

 

[digi_7e]

IKR? I went for a few months as well and 1/2 way through my therapist called me, "a fucking little shit". She was great.

Guess what? My therapist is a damn beautiful woman. Next time i will ask if she is single

 

[chloe_Rose_Art]

I think you can try sugar baby dating sites like seeking arrangement which work - it's more geared towards long term! Although, you risk discretion & getting caught.... weigh the risk and reward

 

[speakercontrols]

Guess what? My therapist is a damn beautiful woman. Next time i will ask if she is single

So was mine, just great. However, I worked it out fairly quickly that she was married. BUT, I did get the distinct impression that she was into 'the lifestyle' (swapping) but I figured I was off limits due to being a patient.

Weirdly enough, I think she also did sex work in the past as well. It was a very sex-positive, LGBTQ+, you-must-be-trans-hatch-from-your-egg sort of place. She gave off phrases, words, and responses that indicates that she was, or was, adjacent to some sort of sex work. Plus she had no problem yelling at me. Man, every escort I see just feels the need to yell at me....what the heck? Free extras!!. Now if I'm yelled at by a woman I barely know...BOOM! Escort!

NOW, the question is, what vibes do I give off that indicates that I see sex workers...hmmmm...

 

[LTO_3]

...My therapist is a damn beautiful woman. Next time i will ask if she is single

And then you may be looking for a new therapist or she'll put you in your place. Besides, she could lose her license if she became your side chick.

LTO_3

 

[Callmerey]

Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!

You already said you want one so why are you asking the rest?

 

[yessir235]

Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!

oh man this sounds bad. You mentioned you are on your mid 30’s- how long have you been married? I’m guessing can’t me more thank 5-6 years. In which case if your wife isn’t satisfying you then it was a bad deal from the beginning.

are you at a point in your life were you feel confident in yourself as a man and can go about getting a side chick without it eventually blowing up in your face? Unless you are incredibly well set of career wise and finance wise, but chances are you are not playing at the the level that you need to be doing this kind of shit.
And what makes you think that a side chick will fufill any of your sexual desires in the first place ?
My 2 cents: leave the sex to the professionals , don’t destroy your life over random pussy

 

[massman]

I definitely agree with this. I have clients who book me for a hour and they just complain about their wife for the first 45 mins and fuck me for the last 15 lol

A number of years ago I used to see this girl who during the pregame chat would often complain about her SO, and would lend a sympathetic ear. At first I thought this was weird, but somehow it seemed to lead to her being much hornier, and sexually aggressive. It was like she was “revenge fucking” me to get back at that loser.

 

[star003]

Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!

try out the old traditional way, wife’s sister or bestie. see who is approachable…if u see things not working then say i was just teasing and testing

 

[jetfuel]

Get yourself and your wife a gym membership and a personal trainer, your extra money will be gone, you'll both look and feel better and fuck more.
The urge to see escorts will be less, you can still go once in a while, but it should definitely help with the addiction and the urge to find someone on the side.
I made the gym example because that's what's worked for me, but any hobby or physical activity you can do 2-3 times a week with your wife will do.
Another good idea I can vouch for is spending your extra money on something else other than sex that you can both benefit from, new cars, cottage, vacations, designer bags for the wife.
Most people on this website have either found a way to balance the real life / hobby ratio right or have found out the hard way how expensive a mistake of this type can be.
You're one step away from a very slippery slope, step back while you can.

I don't think you work out.

I joined one of the best gyms in the GTA about two years ago, my training and physique has improved tremendously.

The downside is that I want to see more escorts as my libido is through the roof.

 

[digi_7e]

Get yourself and your wife a gym membership and a personal trainer, your extra money will be gone, you'll both look and feel better and fuck more.
The urge to see escorts will be less, you can still go once in a while, but it should definitely help with the addiction and the urge to find someone on the side.
I made the gym example because that's what's worked for me, but any hobby or physical activity you can do 2-3 times a week with your wife will do.
Another good idea I can vouch for is spending your extra money on something else other than sex that you can both benefit from, new cars, cottage, vacations, designer bags for the wife.
Most people on this website have either found a way to balance the real life / hobby ratio right or have found out the hard way how expensive a mistake of this type can be.
You're one step away from a very slippery slope, step back while you can.

I was really thinking of buying anew car just to cut any extra cash lying around. But here comes the problem, I still do the hobby and im in debt (line of credit debt) horrible right?

 

[digi_7e]

I don't think you work out.

I joined one of the best gyms in the GTA about two years ago, my training and physique has improved tremendously.

The downside is that I want to see more escorts as my libido is through the roof.

I felt the same after working out and having a better posture, it gave me more confidence to approach more girls lol

 

[trippingwalker]

This is crazy. The whole point of an SP is to eliminate all the drama and unwanted heat that comes with an on-going affair. Fortunately I don’t have to pay for sex I just pay the SPs to go away and leave me alone once I’m out the door lol