Move in with a girl and her boyfriend?

[stinkynuts]

Someone I just met is looking for a house mate to share a 2-bedroom apartment. She seems like a nice person (she is about my age). However, she has a boyfriend, and he is currently overseas. I suspect he will be living there if he comes back.

Even if he does not live with us, is it a good idea to move in with a female? What are some potential problems and risks in a situation like this? What are the advantages, compared to living with a guy? I really need to move out, my apartment is terrible (no hot water most of the time, roaches, slooow elevators, and depressing area). Thanks.

 

[xix]

Not experienced but from what I hear

The fight will start with the bathroom.
then kitchen.
Then parking.
Phone bill if shared.
Hydro bill
Natural gas for laundry or kitchen.
Your time spent surfing the net on TERB.

Whose food you ate from the fridge, or booze.

 

[tboy]

Actually, XIX, those will come up whether you are with a male or female room mate.....

I've never been able to live with roommates, too many problems.

Though, living with a female does have it's benefits if she has a lot of single friends and you're single *eg*

 

[newguy27]

I've had some female roomates and as long as they are not too uptight about things, its fine. Just like any male roomates.

The "hot friends" is also a bonus for sure and you guys go out to a club as friends, she can defintiely help you pick up other girls. Go for it.

The only thing will be if the BF moves in, then you have issues about rent splitting, utilities, etc. YOu should sort that out now.

 

[stinkynuts]

She's average looking. Her boyfriend is some kind of musician and is doing a concert overseas.

 

[Tina_Ballerina]

Someone I just met is looking for a house mate to share a 2-bedroom apartment. She seems like a nice person (she is about my age). However, she has a boyfriend, and he is currently overseas. I suspect he will be living there if he comes back.

Even if he does not live with us, is it a good idea to move in with a female? What are some potential problems and risks in a situation like this? What are the advantages, compared to living with a guy? I really need to move out, my apartment is terrible (no hot water most of the time, roaches, slooow elevators, and depressing area). Thanks.

No more last night booty calls if you move in with her

(Unless, of course, SHE is the booty call)

(threesomes can be arranged if she's game)

ROTFLMAO

 

[kevdidit]

as long as you keep your wallet tucked away you should be fine!

 

[lappie]

I've done it and would do it again

During my last year in University, I moved in with 2 girls in a 3 bedroom house close to the campus. Everything was great as long as I cleaned up after myself. The one was average looking and other exceptional and they were both single.

Here were the problems:
- shared eat in kitchen with no dishwasher (stacks up)
- small fridge with everyone having own food (things go missing)
- 1.5 bathrooms
- watch TV on low volume late at night
- no make out sessions in the kitchen or bedroom, need to get the date in the bedroom
- hear serious monkey loving in the morning when you just want to sleep off the hang over
- having too many friends over

Here were the benefits:
- first time I saw a woman use a vibrator in person ( and no I am not a peeping tom, she let me watch)
- get introduced to their study partners


To be successful:
- don't fool around with them
- get a bar fridge for your room
- have your computer in your bedroom, and don't let her on it
- get a TV in your room
- talk about and agree what should happen if you should have one of the fine ladies make a call, you are given privacy, or she stays away for the evening.
- make sure she has friends. If she expects you to entertain her because she has no one else to go with, RUN!!!!

 

[lappie]

When not to laugh

One last thing.... Don't laugh in the other room when you hear her having sex. Times you will laugh but need to restrain yourself either by leaving the apartment or burying your face:

1) They finish after 1 minute
2) She yells at the guy, "Take this up your arse big boy"
3) When she walks out and she missed some love juice in the hair
4) You hear one of them fart
5) You hear the guy ask, "Can you shower first please?"

and guess there are more...

 

[frankcastle]

The benefits of any roommate is usually reduced costs on bills.

The trade off is if you are a good combination.

Don't forget to put the toilet seat down..... the number one thing to remember when living with a girl.

As for cleanliness that depends some girls are as messy as guys.

So long as you have your own space where you can watch what you want, listen to what you want etc you'll be fine.

 

[WhaWhaWha]

I had two female roommates for about a year. They never expected too much from me in the housework department and always seemed amaed when I demonstrated any domestic skills at all. For example I was the only one in the house who knew how to use a sewing machine. I was terrible at sorting laundry so in exchange for buying all the detergent they did all the laundry. We combined our loads to save on utilities. Over time they became less shy about walking in front of me in their undies or in towels. Sometimes for giggles they flashed. Of course this let me know I was in the category of girlfriend. On the brighter side lots of female friends came over and occasional dates resulted. As for the fridge, I did a lot of the cooking and they didn't mind if I ate more than them. The only conflict came at the end of the week. We all agreed to do housecleaning and one of us (not me) always seemed to ditch. I was motivated to keep the place orderly because my children visited.

The point is, there is no advice because you never know if personalities will clash or click. Depending on how well you get along, you will either tolerate each other or drive each other crazy.

 

[stinkynuts]

Wow, lots of great insight and advice from a lot of people! Thanks, this will help me out.

 

[Kurt]

I agree with Winston.

Wish I had this advise awhile ago.
Had a female roomate move in to help pay some bills.
I trusted her. (First mistake)
I had sex with her (second mistake)
I dated one of her friends (You get the pattern)

Kurt

 

[wrong hole]

Use her socks as a 'catcher sock' when you masturbate.....then just put it back in her sock drawer

she'll enjoy it as much as you when she puts the sock on

 

[ackack]

- first time I saw a woman use a vibrator in person ( and no I am not a peeping tom, she let me watch)

Hey, Lappie. My jaw dropped That is not a one sentence story. Details please.

Good luck stinkynuts.

 

[JoyfulC]

When I was single, I only ever had one good female roommate.

I had many excellent male roommates. (Okay, some of them were toilet target challenged, but that's not a huge issue.)

Ironically, the biggest problem with female roommates was that I had to put up with their love relationships. (Whereas most of my male roommates, when they got a girlfriend, they tended to spend time at her place, giving me more privacy.) Even my only good female roommate, Judy-Venus, eventually presented with boyfriend-related problems. Her boyfriend wangled his way into moving in with us (he claimed the apartment he rented was being painted so he needed to stay with us for just a couple days -- he never rented any other apartment, it was just a scam!). Until he moved in, we lived peacefully and very cooperatively. We never worried a lot about who paid what bill or bought/ate which groceries. We did a lot of things together, but one thing I liked about Judy was that, if she wanted to go out to eat or to a movie, and I didn't feel like it, she was just as happy to go alone. She was very low maintenance that way.

We both felt comfortable that everything tended to balance out. But the day after he moved in, I came home and opened the fridge to find everything rearranged, and shelves labelled with our names! Not only weren't we allowed to eat *his* food, he decided that we shouldn't be eating each other's either (why it would matter is anybody's guess). He had rigid ideas about changing the decor of our home. And he seemed to need to control every aspect of our lives.

And, of course, it wasn't long before the fighting began. That was really pleasant! I moved out.

And the other thing is that, in my experience, chicks always want to discuss their relationships -- and if he won't talk to them, they'll go after the next available person = roommate! Every single female roommate I ever had dragged me into her neverending soap opera love life. This was never a problem with any of my male roommates.

So a lot depends on your personality. If you're the kind of person who gets along better with women than men, then maybe you'll be okay. If you don't mind having your roommate's boyfriend(s) become feature players in your day-to-day life, then maybe you'll be fine. Me? I'd live on the street in a carboard box before I ever lived with another woman again!

..c..

 

[thunder0702]

Living with a women

The last time I moved in with a women ( her, her brother and friend) I ended up getting married !!!!!!!!!OMFG and we still fight about the same things. God I am saint

 

[stinkynuts]

\ But the day after he moved in, I came home and opened the fridge to find everything rearranged, and shelves labelled with our names! Not only weren't we allowed to eat *his* food, he decided that we shouldn't be eating each other's either (why it would matter is anybody's guess). He had rigid ideas about changing the decor of our home. And he seemed to need to control every aspect of our lives.

..c..

Wow. If her boyfriend is like that, I'm out the door in a heartbeat. That's just ridiculous. Very petty.

 

[twentynine]

#1 rule for dealing with women

* Never be her girlfriend, especially if you live with her or date her. Always be a man.