Well not that anyone cares but I've had a ruff six weeks. My GF and I were living together for 5 years, had a great place in a great area. Her Asshole of a brother decides to throw his life away, lost job, wife, kids, and house. Moved back with his mother. She becomes his keeper. Has be a raging alcoholic for years. Caught up to him. I could not take the drama. 1 year worth. We decide not to live together, I loose my place which I loved more than anything. So just because he f**ked up his life, mind you this guy is 50, my life is all F*cked up. How fair is this. I've lost the will to do anything. Staying with family for a few months. I know I've seen SP's here and there. I truly cared for her. now all gone over an ass which will never get better. Has been in and out of detox like 30 times. My GF brothers and sisters gave up 6 months ago. None of then left their lives and gave up everything. Not sure why this happend to me. Doesn't seem fair. I was happy for once in my life. I don't even have the will or energy to see a SP to ease the pain. Has this happen to anyone else?
My last six weeks
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Sorry you're having a rough go of it.... sounds like you might be having some issues with depression.... talk to your doctor... he can help with setting up some counselling and/or medicine to help you get through this.
Sorry your love for your ex wasn't enough to get you through the rough times.
Sorry your love for your ex wasn't enough to get you through the rough times.
No win situation with alcohol. Apparently people in your situation do well to go to AA support groups. They know the patterns and have an understanding of these situations. They can add clarity where you will otherwise be in a fog, even if you don't intend to try and save the relationship. They might also have good, solid strategies.
It is not fair. Good luck to you.
It is not fair. Good luck to you.
The guy have gone through 2 90 day programs that his work paid for before being fired for drinking on the job. Went to AA drunk a few times as well. Went to the doctor, gave me stress pills. Working okay. My mind is so f*cked up. It's like, one day happy with a great home, the next homeless and alone. Seems like I'm being punished for being sober.
Don't go book an SP..you will not enjoy it. Save your cash for a trip or something you always wanted...right now you need some time to heal....sounding like a gal but it seems to has really got to you (for good reason)
What was your problem?stugotsms said:
It's not like your girlfriend brought the asshole in to live with you.
I don't see why his moving in with his mother would cause you so much stress and ruin your relationship and sap your will to do anything.
Mother is close to 80. She was doing everything for him including laundry, taking him to hospital etc. Guy is so messed up, don't think he will ever work again. Didn't want the guy ending up living with me. Had no choice but the leave. She seems more interested in him and his issues then ours. I know the decision was mine to leave, but forced into it. I;m sure I'll get over it soon enough.
Thanks for the replyes.
Thanks for the replyes.
are you listening to yourself?..please grow a spine..sheesh...stugotsms said:Mother is close to 80. She was doing everything for him including laundry, taking him to hospital etc. Guy is so messed up, don't think he will ever work again. Didn't want the guy ending up living with me. Had no choice but the leave. She seems more interested in him and his issues then ours. I know the decision was mine to leave, but forced into it. I;m sure I'll get over it soon enough.
Thanks for the replyes.
So you broke up with your girlfriend because you thought there might be a chance that she would one day insist that her brother come to live with you?stugotsms said:
And you are upset that her mother was not interested enough in you?
How is it that you were forced into anything?
Your story makes no sense at all to me.
None of this is your problem unless you feel he is abusing her then you can call the cops.stugotsms said:
So say no.stugotsms said:
No you had two choices.... abandon the house you apparently loved or confront you girlfriend about how the situation was affecting you and come to some sort of resolution. Who knows maybe she would have left and you'd still have your home.stugotsms said:
The only one who forced you was you.stugotsms said:
Hopefully, though if the depression continues you should seek medical help. You still need to get into some sort of counseling to understand your behavior and to learn to take responsibility for your actions IMO.stugotsms said:
stugotsms said:
Of course you did - it is called saying NO.
It is as simple as that. You have enabled yourself to get involved in this drama. For whatever reason, you wanted it and now you have ALL of it. Good luck getting yourself out of it.
And sometimes you have to outside it to recognize the silliness of those in it.stugotsms said:
Fortunately I apparently have a stronger will than you as I would not allow myself to be driven out of my home by the possibility something could happen.
You chose to bail rather than have a potentially unpleasant discussion with your SO.
No one can take advantage of you without your permission.
