Here goes...
I'll probably get flamed for this but, then again, I wouldn't be a
friendly arrogant bastard if I didn't say a few contraversial things from time to time.
First of all, I just want to say that I am always a proponent of treating people, SPs and otherwise, with respect and consideration. Regardless of what your job is, you deserve to be treated fairly and with respect. I am confident that any SP who has seen me will confirm the fact that I have always been a complete gentleman withing the context of our encounters.
However, one must also remember that respectful treatment is not an absolute quality. Respectful treatment
varies based on many things. For example, if I meet a nice young woman and ask her to join me in a restaurant, it would be very
rude of me to then expect her to keep getting up and getting me things from the counter or the bar. On the other hand, if I went to the same restaurant, there would be absolutely nothing
rude about my expectation that the
waitress, quite possibly
also a nice young woman, would bring me drinks and food to my table.
Obviously, since serving food and drinks to her customers is her
job, the waitress would not expect me to say something like
fiendly arrogant bastard said:
have a seat and let me bring that food over here for you. Would you like something to eat as well?
I could be a complete gentleman and still expect her to do her job without having to reciprocate in kind. Of course I would still be expected to be polite and reasonable in my requests; just because it's her job to serve me food does not mean that I own the waitress or that I can humiliate or abuse her.
My point is that we are
allowed and even
expected to treat people differently when we have a financial relationship with them. If I saw someone struggling to carry many bags through the airport, it would be respectful of me to offer to help. However, if that person was a paid baggage
handler who is getting paid to carry
my bags, I would be under no obligation or expectation to help him (or her) out.
Now we come to SPs (pun somewhat intended). I do not advocate that a client should treat an Escort abusively and I agree that we should completely respect the limits and boundaries of her service. However, I take issue with Escorts who expect us always to treat them as we would a real-life girlfriend or lover.
When I see an Escort, I am
purchasing a service from her and she is
selling a service to me. She has every right to expect to get paid for her service and I have the same right to receive the service I am purchasing. It
may enhance the quality of my experience of the service I am getting for me to provide her some service in return (free of charge of course). If I want to try to pleasure her or take her favourite positions or acts into account in my actions (assuming she'd want me to) I am within my rights to do so. On the other hand, it is
not rude or disrespectful of me if I choose to focus on my own pleasure and satisfaction and not be so concerned with hers (as long as I respect her boundaries and restrictions).
When some SPs have stated above that they the dislike being pressured to perform "extras", I totally sympathise and respect their position. On the other hand, to those SPs that get miffed because their clients expect value for their money and are focused on
receiving a service and not providing one, I would suggest rethinking your professional choices. Sometimes I see an SP, not because I can't get laid outside the Hobby, but because I want to do what
I want to do and not worry about satsifying my partner for a change. This may sound callous but, remember, that's the service I'm
paying for.
I think it's a great stroke of good luck for an SP if a client decides to tip her extra $$, take her shopping, or tell her she's beautiful. No doubt, this has happened many times and has probably been well deserved and received. I'm just asking the SPs to,
please, don't act as though you are
entitled to these perquisites. We're already paying a significant sum of money (an amount decided on
by the SP) to receive a service. As long as we're civil, polite, and adhere to your professional limitations, we
are being respectful. Everything else is gravy.
Zog.
Question to the mods: why is the word "h-a-n-d-l-e-r" blocked by this forum? If I type it in by itself, it turns to *******.
The fact is circumstances happen on both sides of the table at times and neither can control what is going on. He understands what I went through and I now understand he was legit.
