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[HRH]

Caught you looking, didn't I?

All that I can say is that over the last few days, I have, with my wife, cleaned house. I came clean about this site. I came clean regarding my past, as well as me wanting to get counselling.

She and I are going to work through all of this. I love her more today than when I did when I first met her 15 years ago. Maybe she'll leave me - maybe she won't. Either way, I feel relieved that this burden - a sick obsession almost, is no longer a dark, sick secret of mine. I feel that this has managed to tear her heart out emotionally, and whether or not that the pain that I have caused her to experience will ever be forgotten, or forgiven. I do sincerely apologize.

I have been married almost 9 years now - I have experienced the best and the worst times of my life during that span. I can definately say that meeting hookers hasn't been one of the positive experiences.

I have come to realize that through my actions, I have committed the single largest mistake of my life.

There's no gun to my head - instead, I actually discovered that I have a conscience.

I know that a lot of you guys out there are going to flame me for this - and that it is going to be either locked-out - or removed - but if you are married, and love your wife - keep away from this - it will eat at your soul like no other cancer. If you can't stay away from this - get help. I will be - and I won't be back ever again.

Since I don't plan to come back to this site again after this post - so writing something insulting is just going to make you look more like a guy who needs attention than someone who's up for the Nobel Prize.

 

[Daddio]

It's great when someone makes a decision that they believe will positively impact their life, but if quitting this site means so much to HRH, what does dishing out "parting shots" have to do with the process? Wouldn't it have been better for the healing of his soul to not post this but just make a clean break of it?

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I wonder what his new handle will be when he comes back.

 

[BallzDeep]

I think if I fucked her you would feel much better, PM me for an

appointment.

 

[Frosty]

I hope your wife dumps your ass. You shouldn't have cheated on her in the first place, even if she couldn't get you dick up anymore.

 

[LancsLad]

I was going to post some smart ass comment, but really whats the point.

IF HRH has made a decision he can live with, good for him, let him vent if he wants.

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[calloway]

I know that a lot of you guys out there are going to flame me for this.

Why would you get flamed for finally telling the truth? Good for you if you can keep your "new" commitment to your wife.

 

[Aardvark154]

Good luck!

That said you confuse cause and effect. The problem isn't TERB, the problem is being unfaithful while married. TERB helped you facilitate that, it didn't cause it.

 

[calloway]

quiter

What's a quiter?

 

[train]

Good luck!

That said you confuse cause and effect. The problem isn't TERB, the problem is being unfaithful while married. TERB helped us facilitate that, it didn't cause it.

Cheating is the effect not the problem. He has an addiction which he states he will be getting help for. His parting post was , in some small, cauterizing the wound.

Since I hope he will be able to resist coming back to check the responses I won't wish him good luck.

I'm always amused by the occasional holier than thou response ( frosty) from guys that hang out on TERB. You would think we have enough of our own actions to reflect on without moralizing on someone elses.

 

[LancsLad]

What's a quiter?

A quiter is a quilter who got the "L" out of there.

 

[Meister]

You can get the "L" out of quilter, but you can never get the quiter out of "L".

 

[LancsLad]

You can get the "L" out of quilter, but you can never get the quiter out of "L".

The "L" you say??

Bloody impossible , thats for sure.

 

[danmand]

A quiter is a quilter who got the "L" out of there.

Man, your knowledge is encephalitis.

 

[LancsLad]

Man, your knowledge is encephalitis.

Dis ease of using the language comes naturally.

 

[jimmyt]

Geezuz, he only joined in January....you'd think this was Great Bear or even Lancs talking here......

 

[LancsLad]

Geezuz, he only joined in January....you'd think this was Great Bear or even Lancs talking here......

I am well beyond redemption and the Bear is just a disgusting woodland sabarite so it seems we are stuck here.

 

[fuji]

One comment for HRH if he ever does read this, or for anyone else contemplating doing the same thing:

Sounds like you are in a pretty desprate, dramatic, and emotional situation. You must be twisted up. In situations like that it's natural to reach out and latch onto people to try and get them to validate you ("I forgive you") or help you or whatever. You're likley looking for an emotional connection you feel you're missing in your life, and this big dramatic scene is designed to create it.

Well, that's probably a mistake.

Perhaps you need to quit this because YOU aren't as emotionally available in your marriage as you should be, because YOU aren't as committed as you should be, because YOU aren't being the sort of husband you'd like to be, or something similar. The word here is YOU.

This is YOUR problem, not your wife's problem. I would strongly advise anyoen else contemplating this to carry their own water. By all means do what you need to do: Quit, get counselling, etc., but you don't need to dump this on your wife. You cheated on her when you saw SP's and you can't really undo that by confessing it all to her now. You probably should just deal with this on your own. All you're doing at this point is hurting her in an effort to get her to validate you. That's selfish.

Too late now for you, but perhaps not for someone else reading this thread.

 

[red]

good for you if you can do it. though I am unclear why you had to come clean with your wife. If she didn't know and you quit- well thats great. but by telling her- you may feel better but you have, in your own words, caused emotional pain. I can't see how thats a good thing.


good luck

 

[Scarey]

can we start a betting line of when he comes back?....I've got a few grand to burn and this sounds like easy money.

 

[Rocket Man]

One comment for HRH if he ever does read this, or for anyone else contemplating doing the same thing:

Sounds like you are in a pretty desprate, dramatic, and emotional situation. You must be twisted up. In situations like that it's natural to reach out and latch onto people to try and get them to validate you ("I forgive you") or help you or whatever. You're likley looking for an emotional connection you feel you're missing in your life, and this big dramatic scene is designed to create it.

Well, that's probably a mistake.

Perhaps you need to quit this because YOU aren't as emotionally available in your marriage as you should be, because YOU aren't as committed as you should be, because YOU aren't being the sort of husband you'd like to be, or something similar. The word here is YOU.

This is YOUR problem, not your wife's problem. I would strongly advise anyoen else contemplating this to carry their own water. By all means do what you need to do: Quit, get counselling, etc., but you don't need to dump this on your wife. You cheated on her when you saw SP's and you can't really undo that by confessing it all to her now. You probably should just deal with this on your own. All you're doing at this point is hurting her in an effort to get her to validate you. That's selfish.

Too late now for you, but perhaps not for someone else reading this thread.

I agree, Fuji, your a wise man.

cheers.