Never good enough

[Charlie_]

No. I just set lower standards until I easily exceed them.

 

[morning_groove1909]

Anyone else feel like no matter what they do, how hard they try, it is never good enough?

"There's not the least thing can be said or done, but people will talk and find fault" - Cervantes author of Don Quixote

Ergo, the path out of the tormenting, sisyphean cycle of frustration is to stop running other people's obstacle courses and seek inner validation. Just my .2 cents

 

[forgo10]

Its human nature not to be satisfied with anything no matter how hard you try

I really don't try that hard ever, so whatever happens, it's all good.

 

[SchlongConery]

Its human nature not to be satisfied with anything no matter how hard you try

With all respect to you my friend, I cannot disagree strongly enough.

Complacency is not good but true happiness is found in learning to enjoy and want what you have.

Not having what you want. And especially not constantly being dissatisfied.

But all of this has to come from within, being comfortable with, and accepting yourself.

 

[jeff2]

With all respect to you my friend, I cannot disagree strongly enough.

Complacency is not good but true happiness is found in learning to enjoy and want what you have.

Not having what you want. And especially not constantly being dissatisfied.

But all of this has to come from within, being comfortable with, and accepting yourself.

Exercise can help. Try to go beyond 20 minutes for lung capacity. I just spent 40 minutes in the gym and 20 minutes in the sauna. Enjoying my second brew now.

 

[NoillyPrat87]

Anyone else feel like no matter what they do, how hard they try, it is never good enough?

That's probably because YOU don't give enough

 

[Danny46709394]

That's probably because YOU don't give enough

Most likely

 

[Y_Diner]

No. I just set lower standards until I easily exceed them.

I do, high standards, low expectations.

 

[Darts]

I felt like that a lot in the past. There was a combination of things that made me feel this way.

One use to be that if I was wrong about something, I felt that I was somehow bad, and that led to feelings of never being good enough because as humans, we are wrong about something on a daily basis. To be human is to err and thankfully through therapy I learned being wrong about something, doesn’t mean you are bad. A lot of people in the world feel like I use to. It is why some people will just never back down even when given the facts.

Second - I cut out toxic people. My abusive ex for example. He would always make me feel like I was never good enough. It was apart of his abuse. He was so inflected with his low self-esteem, that he has to put me down to make himself feel good. So he always had to be better then me which in turn made me feel not good enough. Toxic people can be your partner, parent, boss/co-worker, etc. It can be anyone so if you have to, cut those people out.

Lastly - societal pressure. I had to learn to navigate this and it is a hard one. Standing outside the crowd is difficult but very freeing. Once you can learn that “society” doesn’t dictate life the way is suppose to be and because “society” is based on humans, they get it wrong all the time, you manage to learn to do things on your own terms. By extension you then learn to trust yourself and then learn that you are indeed good enough because you get to really see the type of person you truly are. I’m awesome. Some people may not think so and that is fine too. I’m not here to impress everyone. I’m here to find like minded people to enjoy aspects of life with. There are some 8B people in the world. I’m not going to like or agree with over half of them. LOL.

Try working on those three and you will see a huge difference with your inner feelings.

"To thine own self be true."

The only person you need to satisfy is yourself. Don't ever let the bastards get you down.